Pity Party someone bring some cheese for my whine

[PartyofSix]

I'm so dissappointed i need to vent and i figured i'd come among friends to bare my soul. Some of you may remember my goal of hitting onderland for my anniversary trip the week of april 29-may 4th. Well i hit onderland last sunday and i was really getting excited about my trip when today we got the news our shop manager is leaving! April 25th then he mentioned oh you guys had plans i can stay till may 2 then. OMG this has put a bump on my happy trip road. I am not upset that he's leaving that's all good but i'm not comfortable with him leaving and us not being there. I mean he'll be making deposits and handling our business all week what if we get back and have a question about banking, invoices car payments he took? How could we leave like this? We have two other guys but there specialized at there jobs he was well rounded to handle our used car sales, he prices our repair jobs and towing services out to people those other two just perform the job at hand. There not the people person type if you get my drift. I'm so torn about this. I have already paid 1/2 of our cabin cost and there cancel policy is stern. You loose it basically if they can't rerent it. It's 11 days before our trip not a lot of hope there. Just a PIA situation specially cause i'm the worrying type. I already had things planned for the nanny and just everything is in the air right now and i'm feelig so dissappointed. I know i should wait and see but it's just upsetting at the moment. I even ordered me a dress last night and bought my first pair of High Heels i ever owned this morning before i found this out. I know things will work out i just hate this putting a damper on my spirits. I've worked so hard to look nice for my BIG trip with my husband and now it could be a quicky trip. I'm just bummed about the whole thing. Okay whine over thanks for the ear.

 

[Lynn CC]

Oh boy that is a tough one. DH is a business owner and these types of things come up for us too. It seems like everytime we plan something it's not a good time. We are better off making reservations 1-2 weeks before we go anywhere, otherwise he's on the phone while we are vacationing a lot., and worried.
Could you postpone? Or on the more positive side maybe you two could forget about the situation and just enjoy your Anniversary trip?
{HUGS}

 

[nativetxn]

Do you trust this man? Do you <i>really</i> trust him? Do have any reason to believe that if you had a question about the banking he did or anything else he did while you were gone that he would be unavailable to you?

Calm down. Take a deep cleansing breath. Now think about it. You trust him pretty well it seems to me. If you have no reason to believe that he is suddenly going to mess up things he has done in the past or not be available to answer any questions you might have when you return, then you are getting all upset for no reason.

It's true, this isn't how you planned things. (Funny how life likes to pull these little jokes, isn't it?) Your plans for the business are just changing a little, though. I don't think you should give up your anniversary trip over a little change like this. Not if this man is trustworthy. So, you tell me, is he trustworthy?

Sit down with him and tell him your concerns. Ask him if he will be available to answer any questions you might have after you return. Ask him if he will meet with you when you return from your trip to go over the business that was done, do it after working hours if necessary. Pay him to do it if necessary. Heck, offer him a small bonus for doing this for you correctly while you are on your trip.

If he is trustworthy and dependable everything should work out fine, don't you think?

I hate to see you so overwrought. {{HUGS}} sweetie. I really think you can work this out before you leave. Just give it some thought and give it a try. Work out a plan. I think you can work this out

Katholyn

 

[KathyTX]

Oh, what sucky timing! I understand exactly where you're coming from.

Is there any way you can persuade him to stay another week, or at least a day or two after you get back, to finalize things and be sure what's been taken care of? (Maybe a nice little bonus or some other incentive?)

I know this would make me very uneasy (control freak here ), too. This is your business and your livelihood. I guess it comes down to what Katholyn said- how much do you trust him, and do you know he'll be around later to follow up and answer questions?

If you don't absolutely, fully trust him, or if he won't be available later, you might be better off postponing the trip and kissing the cabin deposit goodbye. That would be awful, you really need and deserve this trip! But if you don't *completely* trust him, you'd probably worry about this the entire week. And the risk is pretty big.

I wish I could help.

 

[PartyofSix]

You are great to respond in my time of feeling crummy. Native and Kathy we do trust him completly or he would have his position at all. I have not one reason to doubt this man is honorable to the tenth degree. I don't know when he's moving he's leaving for Montana where his wife's family moved to. We have enjoyed having him work for us and his wife and i have done some joy trips shopping and such and really like them both. Heck we took them both to universal for a bonus last labor day holiday. I hate to see them leave and i hate the timing even more. I just don't handle stress well at all. I worry over every minor thing. And like you guys said it always seem to be when you have the best laid plans it's up in smoke in minutes when you have to depend on others to make them come together. I will talk to my husband this evening when the kids go down and hope have a better outlook or at least some idea what were dealing with as far as plan changes.

 

[Cthia]

If you trust this person to handle your business which it sounds like your really do then why not go on your anniversary trip. He would probably be willing to stay abit after you get back to go over things. Since you have everything set to go on your trip why not go. Or if you feel the need to wait, would it take a long time to find a replacement for this person? You have to weigh those options too.
You have worked so hard getting to your goal (I love the look of your clippie) why not go and enjoy yourself. Wear that new dress and those shoes. You deserve it.

P.S. Happy Anniversary!!!!!

 

[TigH]

Hi, Tammy!

You know, the hidden message in your post is "All is well". You said it yourself, in a way. So let go of the worry reins for a while and see how things unfold. You deserve a great weekend away!!! You have been looking forward to this trip, so by golly, TAKE IT!!! Everyone has already given you great advice. I'm hoping that after sleeping on it, you woke up today feeling more positive about a solution!

Now be nice to yourself and just take some calming breathes! All is well, all is well...

Hugs to you, my (sexy) pal! xo

 

[rbuzzotta]

I wish you the best. I know where your coming from and as LynnCc said, it is sometimes easier to plan 1-2 weeks prior to going away when you own your own business. DH is ALWAYS on the phone during our vacations!!

Trust your instincts and have a wonderful Anniversary!! All will be fine.

 

[nativetxn]

How do you feel about this situation, today? Have you worked out a plan?

You know, I understand that Montana is an absolutely <b>gorgeous</b> state. You could fly up there to meet with him and have two anniversary trips

 

[PartyofSix]

Native first of all I don't do Planes.LOL Never been on one.LOL As for today. We are planning on scaling back the trip. Atleast by one day if not two but we are still going it looks like. That will give us more time at our business to square things away and not to mention save us alittle $$. We had a big 5 night trip all planned but i can live with 4 anything less will be a small disappointment. Since we had the triplets we have gotten in a couple of weekender trips away about 3 times and once we even did 72 stint but that's been it. I am really looking forward to spending some time with my DH away from it all. I will be happy either way we are going somewhere for a few days and at the moment our trip is still on but shortened.

 

[nativetxn]

You could always <i>drive</i> to Montana, you know

I'm so glad you reached a compromise and found a solution to this situation.

You're going on a trip! How exciting