Pet peeve-- everyone wants free tickets!!

[disneywife13]

My hubby got hired at Disneyland a few months ago. One of the things we have found is that it is impossible to say where he works without getting people excited about the prospect of free tickets. Their presumptuousness bothers me. I have known people in the past who work at Disney, and it never occurred to me to ask for a free entrance because I always assume they have their own family and close friends to take care of. When my co-workers found out he works at Disneyland, they all asked me for tickets. What makes them think I still have any tickets to spare? It's a new job, I hardly know these people. My husband's former co-workers, who didn't care too much for him before, suddenly want to treat him for lunch during his lunch break at Disney (how convenient!). My husband says that I shouldn't tell anyone where he works... but now with LinkedIn and other social media, it's impossible to hide such things. And why should we lie? Why do we have to hide that we had a great weekend for free? Why can't people just be prudent and not ask for freebies? We never ask for freebies! We'd rather pay full price than beg. Now, if someone offers it to us out of the kindness of their heart, that's different-- you graciously accept. But I hate how everyone simply assumes that because you crossed paths in life, however briefly and superficially, they are entitled to tickets.

 

[SingWithFlowers]

Just say no. Tell them you don't have any to spare or any left to spare. It's hard with things like this because people will always have a sob story. N.O.

Unless you *want* to do something nice for someone/friends of your choosing.

I can't stand when people use and beg and then turn it around on you when you say no. But you wouldn't have heard from those same people otherwise.

 

[Cheshirecatty]

Just say no. Tell them you don't have any to spare or any left to spare. It's hard with things like this because people will always have a sob story. N.O.

Unless you *want* to do something nice for someone/friends of your choosing.

I can't stand when people use and beg and then turn it around on you when you say no. But you wouldn't have heard from those same people otherwise.

Welcome to the Disboards, disneywife13!!!!

I'm sorry you've had to deal with that situation, and have to second what SingWithFlowers has suggested above!

Hopefully, once everyone has asked for tickets, and don't get anywhere with such a presumptuous question, the requests will die down.

If for some reason they don't, simply answer with a smile, and tell those who bother you, that you have none to give away.

I know it must be awkward to deal with this situation---good luck!

 

[kathy884]

I hear the same thing from people who have beach houses -- people inviting themselves to come visit.

Where have people's manner's gone? // People's pushiness really surprises me.

I don't know how the ticket policies work for cast members or anything. I'd just say I was saving the tickets for extended family or something like that if that's a reasonable premise given what policies are.

 

[mom2rtk]

You are either going to have to:

1) stop telling anyone he works at Disney or

2) come up with a standard no answer and be ready to give it.

People don't think. And I doubt that's going to change any time soon. Better just get used to it. Unfortunately.

 

[DizMe]

Maybe just say a standard line to everyone who asks, like "I'm sorry. We only get a very limited number and we use them for family." And just keep repeating it. As others have said above, the requests may die down when the answer is a consistent no.

I sure understand how awkward that must feel! I'm one of those people who have a hard time saying no. Of course you have to do that sometimes but it makes you feel uncomfortable, and now you are being put in the position of feeling that discomfort a lot! I think it'll get easier.

On the plus side, your dh works at Disneyland!!!! How cool is that???!! Hey, can you get me some tickets? Ha ha!

I honestly don't think this has changed. There have always been people who have done this kind of thing. My friends used to get it all the time when they lived at the beach and near DL--near strangers would want to stay with them, have them get tickets and even drive them.

 

[DarthMole]

If this bothers you, then don't ever win the lottery. Oh, and if you don't mind, we could use some free DL tickets if you have any.

 

[Dot2Vegas]

Welcome to the board!
Congrats on your DHs Disney job! What does he do there?
It is so rude of people to ask for tickets! I would come up with a blanket "no" statement for everyone. Either "we use them for family" or maybe "this is a new job. We aren't getting any free tickets".
We have friends with friends or relatives that work at Disneyland. They get hit up for tickets all of time. I'm shocked by it! We were gifted with tickets from a CM once. CM's cousin worked with DH and was constantly harassed for "Disney hook ups". He always said no (after all, we all live in Vegas! No one is even in Anaheim!). He found out that we were planning a trip and that we were huge Disney fans. He was so happy that we never bothered him that he asked his cousin to get us into the park. It was a very nice gesture which we were happy to accept. But I could never ask someone to do that!!
I hope that the newness wears off for you guys and that people stop asking!

 

[Malcon10t]

Maybe just say a standard line to everyone who asks, like "I'm sorry. We only get a very limited number and we use them for family." And just keep repeating it. As others have said above, the requests may die down when the answer is a consistent no.

The only way you can deal with it is simply saying "Sorry, we only get limited tickets." It will die down, but it will take time and consistancy.

 

[nikkislaght]

well Im at the other end of "limited tickets" I would say, they changed their policy and no longer give free tickets to CM.. end of...
if they argue.. oh but I know so and so and THEY got free tickets..
then my answer would be .. oh great you know someone else that CAN get you the tickets..

 

[Astylla]

That is so awesome your husband got the job at Disney but I am so sorry you are getting so many requests for tickets.

I can't imagine being that person..it's one thing if you were to OFFER if you happened to have some , but to flat out ask seems rather rude to me..

And you should not have to stop telling anyone he works for Disney - He and you should be proud of whatever you do it just makes me sad that you are encountering so much distress from this.

If the polite route doesn't work then perhaps being a bit firm or pushy back may be in order. It really does amaze me how many people will come out of the woodwork for something they feel they deserve.

I hope this clears up for you soon.

 

[Malcon10t]

well Im at the other end of "limited tickets" I would say, they changed their policy and no longer give free tickets to CM.. end of...
if they argue.. oh but I know so and so and THEY got free tickets..
then my answer would be .. oh great you know someone else that CAN get you the tickets..

Then you are lying to friends/family... The "limited tickets" you are telling the truth.

 

[Leofoenget]

My brother in law works for Disney via the Channel 7 News. He gets free tix but he only gets a certain number and that's it. We are going next week and using them. I think you have to work so many hours then you get so many tickets or something. Just tell them "sorry we are keeping them for the family there isn't an unlimited number to hand out." Better yet "yes I have some tickets, check out my auction on Ebay" hehe

 

[letthembelittle]

I am sorry you are getting bombarded with ticket requests, my BIL works for Disney, he is one of the lead video game designers for Disney Infinity, he gets very few tickets each year to give to other people.

 

[nikkislaght]

Then you are lying to friends/family... The "limited tickets" you are telling the truth.

Yup. indeed lying.. because if you say they are for "you and your family" people will get upset and even resent you, and could even fall out over it..
so if you are going to fall out anyway. why not lie and say, you just dont have them....

Lying is not the answer I know..

 

[Disney Dreams]

Welcome to DISBoards.

There are some problems in life that get filed under "good problems to have." I think this is one if them. Enjoy the perk and just find your "blanket reply" for those who ask.

- Dreams

 

[ddwlms]

I have a friend who does extreme couponing, and I am amazed at how many people will ask her for freebies. Just because she has 12 bottles of shampoo in her pantry, people think she should share. I did the math and figured that I make more per hour on my job than she saves (as a stay at home mom it is worth it to her) but noone would have the audacity to ask me for a portion of my paycheck. Those "free" tickets are part of his compensation. He is working for them and it is absurd for anyone to think that he should be handing them out.
However, congrats to you both on his job. How fun is that?!

 

[DisneyBiskit]

I have a similar problem with living in Las Vegas. Friends and family all of sudden want to come visit (to save on a hotel room) and ask me to buy tickets to shows (because most give a locals discount). I try to be accomadating but when I'm not even invited to join in on the show or dinner, or whatever, I find it soooo irritating! Even if I don't actually want to go, I think it would be polite to offer the invitation, right?

 

[DharmaLou]

On a message board I frequent we would call this a "bragplaint". Yes, it's incredibly frustrating, but like others have said I would either not tell people where your DH works, or let them know that he has limited numbers of free tickets available and if he ever has extra you will let them know.

 

[Malcon10t]

Yup. indeed lying.. because if you say they are for "you and your family" people will get upset and even resent you, and could even fall out over it..
so if you are going to fall out anyway. why not lie and say, you just dont have them....

Lying is not the answer I know..

Here's my view, if we are going to have a falling out over this, they weren't worth having around. And for me, they would be for my family. If they feel I owe this to them, that is their problem, and I'd rather have a falling out over this now, than over something else later.

I have friends who are Club members, I have relatives who work at Disney, and I have relatives who hit the lottery. Saying "No" works well.