Has anybody on here had to deal with a loved one going through a major - almost 180 degree - personality change after a major surgery or life saving operation?
Did it change overnight or slowly over the years? Did it stay that way or did it change back to how they were after awhile or a liveable percentage split of the new/old personality?
Ever since DH had his heart attack and quad bypass surgery last July, it's been hard, really, really hard. It is like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde, with Mr Hyde being around a lot more. But when Dr Jekyll is around, it's just like before he got sick.
When Mr Hyde is around, he's rude, mean, and says the most hatefull hurtfull things. He doesn't care if DS17 or DD15 can hear him rip me apart. I caused his heart attack and bypass surgery. Nothing I do is correct. I don't fix dinner correctly. I don't clean the house correctly. I don't buy the right food. I don't take care of myself correctly, but when I wear certain shirts or jeans to work, he questions who I'm dressing sexy at work for. There is nothing sexy about the clothing that I am wearing.
The knife today was him telling me that the last quarter century has been a total waste of his time. It's to bad he can't hit restart and go back and fix the biggest mistake he ever made in his life. We started dating 25 years ago on July 7th.
I love him, but I don't know how much more I can take of the mental beat down. I know they told me to watch for personality changes before we left the hospital, but I never expected this. I've talked to my minster, DH won't. There is no insurance coverage or money for outside help. With his mind frame, if I told him that if he doesn't get some help to control the anger (or whatever it is sending him to Mr Hyde) that I am gone, he would tell me good, would make his life a 1000 times better. I don't want that, I just want my old husband back.
Did it change overnight or slowly over the years? Did it stay that way or did it change back to how they were after awhile or a liveable percentage split of the new/old personality?
Ever since DH had his heart attack and quad bypass surgery last July, it's been hard, really, really hard. It is like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde, with Mr Hyde being around a lot more. But when Dr Jekyll is around, it's just like before he got sick.
When Mr Hyde is around, he's rude, mean, and says the most hatefull hurtfull things. He doesn't care if DS17 or DD15 can hear him rip me apart. I caused his heart attack and bypass surgery. Nothing I do is correct. I don't fix dinner correctly. I don't clean the house correctly. I don't buy the right food. I don't take care of myself correctly, but when I wear certain shirts or jeans to work, he questions who I'm dressing sexy at work for. There is nothing sexy about the clothing that I am wearing.
The knife today was him telling me that the last quarter century has been a total waste of his time. It's to bad he can't hit restart and go back and fix the biggest mistake he ever made in his life. We started dating 25 years ago on July 7th.
I love him, but I don't know how much more I can take of the mental beat down. I know they told me to watch for personality changes before we left the hospital, but I never expected this. I've talked to my minster, DH won't. There is no insurance coverage or money for outside help. With his mind frame, if I told him that if he doesn't get some help to control the anger (or whatever it is sending him to Mr Hyde) that I am gone, he would tell me good, would make his life a 1000 times better. I don't want that, I just want my old husband back.