poohandwendy
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***Live your life with few regrets***
If you are a teen/young person:
Approach every sexual experience with caution. Remember the person you share yourself with today, may become the mother or father of your child. Yes, it can happen to YOU. It happens every day. That tie will bind you until the day you die, not just for 18 years but until you take your very last breath. Think about that for just a few minutes.
If you are divorced/estranged from your childs other parent:
Do whatever you can to encourage your children to maintain a healthy, close relationship with your ex-spouse. Bite your tongue when you have angry moments, your child will thank you NOT to make them feel 1/2 their DNA is tainted by an evil, horrible person. Even if they are awful, unless they are abusive, protect your children from your adult feelings .
YOU chose that person to be their parent, try to remember that. They don't fall out of love like spouses do. They deserve more than becoming a tool of vengence. Do not fool yourself into thinking you are helping/protecting them by enlightening them to what a jerk their mother/father is. You could not be more wrong.
Do not abandon your children, do not walk away from them. They NEED you more than you could ever know. They will forever be wounded if you reject their love for you. Your role, as a parent, is the core of their human love experience. Take the time. Even if it is very little time...don't lose that connection.
If you are married/living together with children:
Take the time to nurture that relationship to prevent it from falling apart. Don't take it for granted. The very best gift you can give your children is showing them how to manitain a healthy, loving relationship with your spouse/SO. This is the groundwork for their future relationships. If, by chance, it does not work out...see above.
If you are estranged from your parents
Try to search your heart to find some sort of forgiveness. It will heal your soul. It doesn't need to be an open proclaimation, just do it in your heart if that is all you can muster. If you do find forgiveness, consider reaching out to mend fences.
You may not have as long as you think to decide. Years pass quickly, people die. Think about it. Make sure you don't miss an opportunity because of procrastination.
Remember your parents are human beings and their flaws are sometimes a result of very painful experiences A letter, phone call....may make a difference you never imagined.
Whatever you choose for yourself, I wish you peace in your journey.
For all of you:
Love deeply like there is no tommorow, you won't regret it. Accept love graciously ...you deserve it.
Take care and God bless,
wendy
If you are a teen/young person:
Approach every sexual experience with caution. Remember the person you share yourself with today, may become the mother or father of your child. Yes, it can happen to YOU. It happens every day. That tie will bind you until the day you die, not just for 18 years but until you take your very last breath. Think about that for just a few minutes.
If you are divorced/estranged from your childs other parent:
Do whatever you can to encourage your children to maintain a healthy, close relationship with your ex-spouse. Bite your tongue when you have angry moments, your child will thank you NOT to make them feel 1/2 their DNA is tainted by an evil, horrible person. Even if they are awful, unless they are abusive, protect your children from your adult feelings .
YOU chose that person to be their parent, try to remember that. They don't fall out of love like spouses do. They deserve more than becoming a tool of vengence. Do not fool yourself into thinking you are helping/protecting them by enlightening them to what a jerk their mother/father is. You could not be more wrong.
Do not abandon your children, do not walk away from them. They NEED you more than you could ever know. They will forever be wounded if you reject their love for you. Your role, as a parent, is the core of their human love experience. Take the time. Even if it is very little time...don't lose that connection.
If you are married/living together with children:
Take the time to nurture that relationship to prevent it from falling apart. Don't take it for granted. The very best gift you can give your children is showing them how to manitain a healthy, loving relationship with your spouse/SO. This is the groundwork for their future relationships. If, by chance, it does not work out...see above.
If you are estranged from your parents
Try to search your heart to find some sort of forgiveness. It will heal your soul. It doesn't need to be an open proclaimation, just do it in your heart if that is all you can muster. If you do find forgiveness, consider reaching out to mend fences.
You may not have as long as you think to decide. Years pass quickly, people die. Think about it. Make sure you don't miss an opportunity because of procrastination.
Remember your parents are human beings and their flaws are sometimes a result of very painful experiences A letter, phone call....may make a difference you never imagined.
Whatever you choose for yourself, I wish you peace in your journey.
For all of you:
Love deeply like there is no tommorow, you won't regret it. Accept love graciously ...you deserve it.
Take care and God bless,
wendy
