People can be so dumb! (Long-ish)

[HomeSweetDisney]

I don't think we're trying to act like you have no remorse--but personally, I'm hoping that you'll remember this the next time it comes up. I think it's worth the possibility of hurt feelings if you or someone else reading this remembers.

A good friend of mine has been in a wheelchair for the last two years because of a drunk driver. She'll never walk again. It just breaks my heart when someone depends on others to take the initiative to stop someone.

It's not just you--I know that I want everyone who reads this thread to step up to the plate and stop someone from driving drunk.

Well I believe I already said that I will remember this incident in case I am ever faced with it again. The thing is, I am NOT a party kind of girl. I'd much rather stay in and watch a movie or go hang out at the mall or something. But a friend of mine convinced me to go the other night. I agreed, since I never really do it (too much drama) and thought it would be fun. It was at first. But I should have known something like this would happen. The girl who convinced me to go to this party hangs out with a group of people that I would normally steer clear of. But this girl has always been a sweetheart to me and she really wanted me to go. So I did. But now I know that my instincts ARE usually right. And I will definitely not be going to any of her "friends" parties ever again. I hate that this happened and that I didn't do more to stop it.

 

[ryanmilla]

Personally, I think that he should never have left the house or party in the first place. I mean, we are talking about one person against a group of people at a party. If he doesn't want to give his keys over, you (as the group) TAKE them. And that means physically, if it comes to that, but you DO NOT let him get into his car.

If this is a party among friends and associates it shouldn't come down to having to call the cops on them. The friends and associates should have NEVER left the person leave on their own, period. Therefore not getting to the point to have to call the cops. Yes, I do agree if he did make it out you would have to call the cops, but again, it should never have gotten to that point.

Yes, he probably would have been angry and may have gotten physical (people who are intoxicated with this attitude usually do), but with the group of people you could have gotten the keys and locked him in a room or something until he cooled down. Then you could have called HIM the next day and told him to "lighten up".

 

[Daxx]

Thanks. I believe I already covered the fact that I feel extremely guilty about not doing more to stop him.

Imagine the guilt you would've felt had something happened! Thankfully, it all ended up fine. It sounds like you've learned a big lesson w/your post, huh?

Sending you a hug ... and now you'll know what to do if it ever happens again!

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

Personally, I think that he should never have left the house or party in the first place. I mean, we are talking about one person against a group of people at a party. If he doesn't want to give his keys over, you (as the group) TAKE them. And that means physically, if it comes to that, but you DO NOT let him get into his car.

If this is a party among friends and associates it shouldn't come down to having to call the cops on them. The friends and associates should have NEVER left the person leave on their own, period. Therefore not getting to the point to have to call the cops. Yes, I do agree if he did make it out you would have to call the cops, but again, it should never have gotten to that point.

Yes, he probably would have been angry and may have gotten physical (people who are intoxicated with this attitude usually do), but with the group of people you could have gotten the keys and locked him in a room or something until he cooled down. Then you could have called HIM the next day and told him to "lighten up".

You're absolutely right. It should have never happened. But it did. And if I am ever in this situation again I don't care how much the person argues with me, I'll do what I have to so that the person doesn't get out on the road.

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

Imagine the guilt you would've felt had something happened! Thankfully, it all ended up fine. It sounds like you've learned a big lesson w/your post, huh?

Sending you a hug ... and now you'll know what to do if it ever happens again!

Thanks. And yes, I've learned a big lesson. Not to mention a lesson in who NOT to hang out with. This was not my regular group of friends. Most of them I didn't really know. Now I know why I never hung out with them before

 

[disneymom3]

I was seriously so mad at this guy I wasn't even thinking straight. If I had been I would have definitely called the police. But I couldn't believe that this guy was deliberately planning on driving while under the influence of alcohol and it just ticked me off big time. That's one of the reasons I've been upset. I feel like I should have done more to stop him. Even though nothing happened, the what if's are really bothering me. If I'm ever in that situation again I plan on calling the cops right away.

YOu know, hindsight is 20/20. I think it your age group, people hesitate to call the police. When you are old like me, you will do it in a heartbeat!! I can understand being upset and just not thinking to call. Next time you will know what to do.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

HomeSweetDisney --

I'm not going to beat you up over this incident. I think a lot of people in your shoes would have done the same thing, and maybe at your age I would have acted the same as you. The fact is that luckily, this guy didn't hurt anyone on the way home, so you shouldn't feel any guilt. You already said that this is a lesson learned for you. Hopefully, you'll be able to talk to mutual friends who will be at future parties, and someone will be able to call the cops on him before he does hurt himself or someone else.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

HomeSweetDisney,

I remember college andI remember a lot of people doing a lot of stupid things (including ME). I know you will remember how you feel right now the next time you are in a similar situation. I know you realize the seriousness of it all.

 

[nowellsl]

Another option would be to let the air out of all 4 tires on his car!

 

[FreshTressa]

I was seriously so mad at this guy I wasn't even thinking straight. If I had been I would have definitely called the police. But I couldn't believe that this guy was deliberately planning on driving while under the influence of alcohol and it just ticked me off big time. That's one of the reasons I've been upset. I feel like I should have done more to stop him. Even though nothing happened, the what if's are really bothering me. If I'm ever in that situation again I plan on calling the cops right away.

I would make it a point to go to another party with this guy and call the police before someone dies and the guilt would be on my conscience.

 

[Magickndm]

In the words of Jimmy Buffett, you "just gotta learn from the wrong things you done ."
Know that if there is ever a next time, you'll do what's needed and let the guilt go. The fact you know you could, and will next time, do something, speaks volumes.