Pedophile and Sexual Predator location

[marlasmom]

Can someone give me the address of the pedophile and sexual predator in your neighborhood maps that have been published here before? A little boy about 4 years old who just moved to this neighborhood has been coming to my house regularly asking to use the potty. I can't seem to impress on his mother that this is a very dangerous thing for the kid to do. I don't know her or the child. She was unconcerned - said that the people she rented the house from said it was a safe neighborhood.

Thanks for your help. I'll print the list and give it to her and maybe she'll wake up.

 

[milliepie]

This is the one I use. Hope it helps

http://www.familywatchdog.us/

 

[marlasmom]

BUMP. Thank you. ANy others. It seems to me when I did check there were lots more than I found this time.

 

[DMickey28]

Why doesn't he just go home to use the potty? Good for you for trying to educate the mom ... I just don't get some people.

 

[marlasmom]

She doesn't seem concerned that her 4 or 5 year old kid is roaming around after dark, going into strange houses and accepting candy from strangers. She complained to another neighbor about me and my concern and that neighbor called and said it was ok- God looks after children. I said do you read the paper and she replied - "Don't you believe in God?"

 

[DawnCt1]

She doesn't seem concerned that her 4 or 5 year old kid is roaming around after dark, going into strange houses and accepting candy from strangers. She complained to another neighbor about me and my concern and that neighbor called and said it was ok- God looks after children. I said do you read the paper and she replied - "Don't you believe in God?"

To which I would have replied, "God helps those who help themselves". Unbelievable. I would be tempted to call the police next time the child shows up at the door after dark. You can always say, I didn't think anyone was home. Or, you could get her phone number and call her to come and pick up the child. If she says, "just send him home, I can't come", call the police and tell them. I am not 'big' on calling the police, but to me, this is a big deal.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Obviously the child is neglected if he cannot eat and go potty at home.

 

[ChrizJen]

To which I would have replied, "God helps those who help themselves". Unbelievable. I would be tempted to call the police next time the child shows up at the door after dark. You can always say, I didn't think anyone was home. Or, you could get her phone number and call her to come and pick up the child. If she says, "just send him home, I can't come", call the police and tell them. I am not 'big' on calling the police, but to me, this is a big deal.

I agree...
4 or 5 is entirely too young to be left outside without supervision - ESPECIALLY after dark!!
I would probably just play it off as a simple "Ooops! I assumed that since this little boy was roaming the neighborhood alone, he must not have any adult supervision at home!"

 

[dmccarty]

I said do you read the paper and she replied - "Don't you believe in God?"

So much wrong with that question. <Sigh>

In NC the website for the state's Attorney General has the sexual offenders list. Your state might be similar but I would bet a search with your state's name and "sex offender" will pop up a link.

In our old neighborhood we had a several offenders within a few blocks of our house. And our neighborhood was "safe."

I would call your local law enforcement if the child is not living next door to you. And even if the child is next door but is wondering quite a bit I still might call. The kid can still get hit by a car. Maybe an officer bringing home the child followed by serious conversation from said officer will change this mom's behavior.

But some people just don't get it.....

Later,
Dan

 

[marlasmom]

I'm a guardian ad litem for abused and neglected children. I called my supervisor and told him the story and asked him what he thought. He said I had liability for allowing the kid into my house. He was not moved that the child was crying. He had Child Services make an inspection and the mother is furious. Says he "doesn't mind her," has mental issues she called ADD, that children have an innate sense of knowing who is good people, this is a safe neighborhood, his sister (about 10 or 11) watches him (NO SHE DOESN"T) and thinks I'm a pushy, nosy, bully. I tried to tell her about the dangers of going into a strange house and accepting candy from me. She said it was ok for him to take it since I offered it. She threatened me that I would be very sorry.

You know it took me five long years to get pregnant the first time and people kept having these throw-away kids. He's not my case and I don't have any mandate to keep an eye on him. BUt I think I will as much as I can.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

That's horrible. You need to report that thread to the police. Sounds like an unstable woman, that kid needs to be removed from the home.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

I'm a guardian ad litem for abused and neglected children. I called my supervisor and told him the story and asked him what he thought. He said I had liability for allowing the kid into my house. He was not moved that the child was crying. He had Child Services make an inspection and the mother is furious. Says he "doesn't mind her," has mental issues she called ADD, that children have an innate sense of knowing who is good people, this is a safe neighborhood, his sister (about 10 or 11) watches him (NO SHE DOESN"T) and thinks I'm a pushy, nosy, bully. I tried to tell her about the dangers of going into a strange house and accepting candy from me. She said it was ok for him to take it since I offered it. She threatened me that I would be very sorry.

You know it took me five long years to get pregnant the first time and people kept having these throw-away kids. He's not my case and I don't have any mandate to keep an eye on him. BUt I think I will as much as I can.

I would never allow a child who wasn't visiting one of my children to come into my house, crying or not. I'd walk him home, or call the parent, or watch him walk home if it was safe for him to do so, or if I couldn't do any of those, I'd call the police and tell them there's a child that needs assistance. I wouldn't let him in my house unless his immediate safety depended on it, and then I would take further action. You used to work for lawyers; I'd think you'd be up on the potential for liability.

I tried to tell her about the dangers of going into a strange house and accepting candy from me.

You said he's been coming to your house regularly. Why would you continually let him into your house and even offer candy, if you felt it was a danger for him to accept it? Were you testing him? I think presenting yourself as a kindly old woman who gives out candy can be very confusing, and very enticing, to a child, as well as increase his comfort level with strangers.

 

[Loverly]

I do believe MM is a very kind woman who is concerned for this child, Mary.

( Weren't you employed by MM at one time as a house sitter? )

 

[MickeySP]

If you are a guardian ad litum for CPS - are you not a mandated reporter?

Call the polive

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

This sounds like an accident waiting to happen.

please, for the sake of the child, alert the CPS about the situation.

Too many little ones have been harmed, because the adult has less sense that the child they are supposed to be taking care of!!!

 

[mckryan]

I do not trust Family Watch Dog to give you the correct information. They had 3 sex offenders listed at a house near me when there was only one, but they would not give me any information when I asked about the other two and how they got that info. Even our local PD couldn't figure out who the men were and how they got on there. I have a big problem when the president of the company emails me and tells me they don't have time to make sure the information is correct that they put on their website. It's always best to use your state sex offender directory to locate sex offenders. If you ever have any questions about local sex offenders, do not hesistate to contact your local authorities. They will have that information readily available.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

I do believe MM is a very kind woman who is concerned for this child, Mary.

( Weren't you employed by MM at one time as a house sitter? )

JB! Good to see you! Nope, I've never been "employed" by MM, but I love the comment!

I'm sure MM is a very kind, if somewhat misdirected, woman. I strongly believe that repeatedly allowing a child into her home and giving him candy opens her up to liability (as she was told), but more importantly creates a situation that draws the child back, and teaches the child that it's OK to go into stranger's homes. NOW do you get my point Ruth?

If you are a guardian ad litum for CPS - are you not a mandated reporter?

Call the polive

 

[EpcotBeauty]

I do believe MM is a very kind woman who is concerned for this child, Mary.

( Weren't you employed by MM at one time as a house sitter? )

JB! Good to see you! Nope, I've never been "employed" by MM, but I love the comment!

I'm sure MM is a very kind, if somewhat misdirected, woman. I strongly believe that repeatedly allowing a child into her home and giving him candy opens her up to liability (as she was told), but more importantly creates a situation that draws the child back, and teaches the child that it's OK to go into stranger's homes. NOW do you get my point Ruth?

OP, I was going to add my 2 cents, but it is obvious that there is "history" with these posters and it seems to be going down hill quickly.

 

[Loverly]

I'm sure MM is a very kind, if somewhat misdirected, woman. I strongly believe that repeatedly allowing a child into her home and giving him candy opens her up to liability (as she was told), but more importantly creates a situation that draws the child back, and teaches the child that it's OK to go into stranger's homes. :

candy...brisket.....


I had a similar situation where a neighbor's 5 year old knocked on my door crying because her grandma was not home after child had gotten off bus. I had not met either of them (they had just moved in ) could not get her name from the crying child-I was a little panicked -and I let her in my home-didn't know Liability was involved with my kind gesture.

 

[marlasmom]

To be honest the liability issue hadn't occurred to me. I do have neighbors' kids here all the time - but I know them - know their parents. And the parents know where they are. This mother does not know enough to train her kid not to go to strange houses. She is not concerned if he does. She trusts her dd to watch him. Her dd can't be more than 11 - which is too young for that responsibility I think. At any rate this kid does not have the maturity to be responsible for a 4 or 5 year old. I am a mandated reporter and CPS knows now. I really hesitated about calling them because I know what grief can occur with faulty reports. It was especially difficult this past week because my son and dil and grandchildren were visiting from New Hampshire and I was busy. Otherwise I might have tried to talk to her again. OTOH she won't listen. She just regards me as a busy-body. I hope I'm not.

BTW the grandchildren are the most beautiful, well behaved children with the sole exception of my other grandchildren. I was going to start another thread to tell you that I took them snorkeling with the manatees at the Birds Under Water bait shop at Crystal Springs. It was a huge success. You are allowed to touch the manatees if they come to you. And they did. They rolled over to have their tummies rubbed and shook fins. The kids were thrilled. They said it was more fun than Disney.