PD needed.

[Verity Chambers]

Well I don't know where to start really. I'm having a tough time at the moment as my dad is very ill with pancreatic cancer which has also spread to his liver. He is in and out of hospital and is in constant pain. He was given 6 months 3 months ago and I am finding it so hard to cope. My dad has already gone if you know what I mean, he's just not the person he was, and is very depressed. Plus, mum is obviously devastated and I don't know how to help her.
As many of you know I have just had my son Sam and dad has only seen him a few times and has only held him 3 times. I am so hormonal anyway, but this is getting so hard to deal with.

On a seperate note, DH wants to book a weekend away for us in November with my cousin and family, to give me something to look forward to, but I feel that we shouldn't incase something happened while we were away. Mum thinks we should too, but I just don't know? What would you do?

I'm sorry for rambling and this doesn't really make sense but I just needed to get it off my chest today. Thanks for reading. xxx

 

[buzz for boys]

Oh hunny ,
Ill send you hugs and plenty of pixie dust

I cant give you any advice on what to do re the weekend away its going to be a very personal choice.
Maybe instead of booking it decide last minute if everything is stable enough for you to be able to go away and relax ????

Thinking of you,
Louise x

 

[alisonbestford]

A weekend away would be lovely to look forward to in many ways but, in my opinion, will be counter productive if you will spend the time leading up to it worrying

I agree with Louise that a last minute break might be the way to go

 

[joolz1910]

I lost my Dad in March this year so I'm sending you loads of at this difficult time.

 

[wideeyes]

I am sorry to hear about your Dad. I think if you don't feel like you want to go then don't go or book late as suggested as you know how you feel best.

 

[mark&sue]

thinking of you at this very difficult time. as the others have said if you won't enjoy it, it may be better not to book anything for a while until things are more stable. Hugs to you


susan

 

[Muscateer]

Aww Verity so sorry you are going through this. My dad had the same illness so know how you feel.

 

[Netty]

sorry to hear this Verity, sending you

 

[PoppyAnna]

Oh Verity, so sorry to hear this, sending you lots of and lots of for your Dad.

I can understand your DH wanting you to treat you to some time away, but I think you'll probably spend the whole weekend "elsewhere" in your head. I agree that a last minute break when you head is in a better place is a great idea.

My lovely stepdad had the same type of cancer and it is the most wicked of illnesses.

 

[T16GEM]

Aww Verity I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through all of this, I haven't really got any advice but just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you

 

[Verity Chambers]

Thank you guys, I don't really know why i put about the weekend away, I was just rambling! Been to hospital this evening so feeling very emotional, thanks for your support. x

 

[Pinky166]

Lots of hugs to you & your family Verity.

 

[Tinks1984]

Not many words to say, or much advice to give, but just dropping by to say my thoughts are with you all during this tough time

 

[kristieuk]

Some more bigs hugs for you

It's such an awful time you are going through, and you are obvioulsy trying to be there for your Mum and Dad, but you must also give yourself a break - this is awful for you too, and you must remember not to forget to look after yourself.

Why not book a break in this country? If you book directly with the hotel, you can usually cancel with 24 hours notice, and at least you would just be a drive away if you were needed.

You are not alone in this, you have the support and best wishes of many people. Sending you lots of

 

[ely3857]

Oh Verity the joy and sadness clashing must be so hard. Massive hugs and as much PD as I can carry. xxxxxx

 

[jjk]

So Sorry to hear this

 

[florida sun]

Verity, Im so so sorry to hear this, I dont have any advice re the weekend away,but I am thinking of you

 

[mandymouse]

Oh Verity, I am so sorry to hear your sad news, and I'm thinking of you and your family at this difficult time. I think it would be a lovely idea to have a weekend away to look forward to and to concentrate on, and at the end of the day, I'm sure it can easily be cancelled if the worst was to happen

Lots of love and hugs hun xxxxx

 

[scojos]

verity, i have no great words of wisdom to add to those already given, but jujst wanted to say so close to giving birth you need to take care of yourself for a few weeks too.
i suffered massive post natal depression after baby 2 that i considered having dd aborted as i couldnt imagine having to drag myself through that a 2nd time
your hormones are mixed up, you need support too, make sure dh and friends are there for you, so you can spend time with your daddy.

tx

 

[Rosie]

Sorry its such a hard time my friend .
You have a lovely husband to want to give a little light at such a bleak point.
I agree though that booking it will only make you more anxious right now and its not what you need.
Loads of PD coming your way - from me and all my lot