parents, what would you do!

[MorganLeFey]

my apologies, good grandma, I didn't reallize.

your dd needs to designate you or someone in your family as guardian. so that, heaven forbid, you wind up having to seek custody and the bad grandma also wants it...you have the stronger legal claim.

 

[goofy's friends]

So, Good Gramma, would you be willing to move with them? That is what they need to do to save their family.

 

[Nite0wl71]

my apologies, good grandma, I didn't reallize.

your dd needs to designate you or someone in your family as guardian. so that, heaven forbid, you wind up having to seek custody and the bad grandma also wants it...you have the stronger legal claim.

No apologies necessary

I don't think I could move with them, I still have a 13 year old at home, but I would visit---alot

 

[slo]

I am the good gramma

Yes you are!!!

 

[disneymom3]

So good grandma--what do you think of this idea that your DD needs to get the heck away from the psycho in laws?

I don't know if I would move in your situation OP but you can bet your last dollar that the MIL would not be seeing my kids at all after that little stunt. Sounds like she and her DD are way tooo much in cahoots with each other. I would assume Child Welfare listed the claim as frivolous or not true or whatever? Maybe if she reported you again you could sue her or something along those lines.

No, better to just stay far far away.

I am sorry you have to deal with this!

 

[Nite0wl71]

Thank you Sandy

 

[Shere Khan]

Wow.
I wouldn't let the DDs go over to MILs house unsupervised anymore if your nasty SIL is going to come over. I would make MIL (or any other relative for that matter) come to YOUR house from now on.

Just my 0.02

TOV

I agree. If you are not close to them, I would cut all ties with them if you could. That is not a laughing joke.

BTW, you have 2 beautiful kids and they do not deserve to be around that type of mess. I would not want to imagine what is being said around them while the SIL is over. I wish you the best.

 

[ticktock]

2sweetangels There is no way I would have any kind of relationship with someone who LIED and said I abused my kids! I would call a lawyer and see what can be done about bringing legal charges of slander against this woman. If she is doing this and getting away with it there is no knowing where it may lead to.

She may decide she has a right to your girls and then only God knows what she would do. This would really scare me. If you can't afford a lawyer call legal services. You should get all this documented by a professional. If she somehow managed to convince the child services you were negligent (like you said one of the girls falls down and has a bruise, she might LIE and say she saw you hit her!) I shudder to think what would happen!

I don't mean to sound so paranoid, but that she would call child services and lie about you abusing your daughters is just WAY beyond the usual inlaw wierdness. I can't believe anyone would do that. Please do something concrete to safeguard your family from this vindictive and horrible woman.

 

[diznygirl]

I don't think I could move with them, I still have a 13 year old at home, but I would visit---alot

And think of all that money saved by not paying for a hotel when you visit WDW.......

 

[2sweetangels]

good thought, but very likely wouldn't happen.


I also suggest the OP and her DH draft a will designating a guardian should the parents both die and spell out why MIL and SIL were not chosen. just in case.

That a good idea, nite0l will put down as the designated guardian of my DD's, she is the good grandma

 

[slo]

Thank you Sandy

Your welcome!!!!

 

[2sweetangels]

I try to get along with everyone, but her MIL is crazy. She wouldn't come to Katelyn's Christening becuse Amy's family was going to be there and she couldn't have Katelyn all to herself.

As for her SIL, she has one son and wants a little girl, Hayley looks just like her daddy. By the way they won't keep Hayley because she cries when she is not with Amy, and I mean for hours. I haven't even had Hayley for the night yet.

that is true, my sister was just here tonight and Hayley cried when Sarah looked at her

 

[2sweetangels]

No apologies necessary

I don't think I could move with them, I still have a 13 year old at home, but I would visit---alot

you better especially as much as you go to disney

 

[2sweetangels]

I agree. If you are not close to them, I would cut all ties with them if you could. That is not a laughing joke.

BTW, you have 2 beautiful kids and they do not deserve to be around that type of mess. I would not want to imagine what is being said around them while the SIL is over. I wish you the best.

thank you, I wonder that also just today I told my sister when she was here " I wonder what kind of stuff MIL and SIL are talking about DH and I" to bad Katelyn can't talk that good yet or she would tell me. DD does yell at me alot now and it sounds like she calls me names, but I can't understand what she yells just yet.

 

[2sweetangels]

Hi Amy!!!

I can't believe your SIL would do such a terrible thing I would tell your MIL that if she wants to see the girls, then she needs to come to your house or meet you in a public place. I'm so glad your DH agrees with you on this - that's makes for a strong marriage!!! I hope this all works out for you - many many hugs to you!!!!

Thanks Sandy, I have had a long hard 2 years 4 months with DH's family. My mom can tell you all the horror stories about them starting from when Katelyn was born.

 

[alliecats]

no, allie, not insane...just overreaching. they think that their rights should supercede the parents; rights.

No, Morgan, I mean insane! Not to mention malicious. It is insane to expect a new mother to send her brand-new baby away for the weekend with anyone and get upset when she does not agree. It is insane to sneak around and lie to see the baby. It is INSANE to call the STATE with false allegations that could DESTROY A FAMILY in order to accomplish this. Sane, sensible people do not act like this.

 

[2sweetangels]

2sweetangels There is no way I would have any kind of relationship with someone who LIED and said I abused my kids! I would call a lawyer and see what can be done about bringing legal charges of slander against this woman. If she is doing this and getting away with it there is no knowing where it may lead to.

She may decide she has a right to your girls and then only God knows what she would do. This would really scare me. If you can't afford a lawyer call legal services. You should get all this documented by a professional. If she somehow managed to convince the child services you were negligent (like you said one of the girls falls down and has a bruise, she might LIE and say she saw you hit her!) I shudder to think what would happen!

I don't mean to sound so paranoid, but that she would call child services and lie about you abusing your daughters is just WAY beyond the usual inlaw wierdness. I can't believe anyone would do that. Please do something concrete to safeguard your family from this vindictive and horrible woman.

I believe she will try to call the state on me again for the simple fact that she did this to her other brother's wife, she called the state on the other SIL like 3 times after she had her son to try to get her son from her, if you have a Robertson baby you can bet that DH's sister will be there to try to take it away to keep it in thier little family. The other SIL moved to Kansas and that was the 3rd time DH's sister called the state on her to try to keep the child from going, but it didn't work.

 

[alliecats]

I believe she will try to call the state on me again for the simple fact that she did this to her other brother's wife, she called the state on the other SIL like 3 times after she had her son to try to get her son from her, if you have a Robertson baby you can bet that DH's sister will be there to try to take it away to keep it in thier little family. The other SIL moved to Kansas and that was the 3rd time DH's sister called the state on her to try to keep the child from going, but it didn't work.

See, INSANE!!!!!!

 

[jtnsami]

Sounds like your MIL and SIL have some SERIOUS issues. Does your SIL have children of her own? I was just wondering how she would feel if something were to happen to her like this. Wow! At least you have your DH backing you on whatever decision you make for your girls. Here's a and Good Luck!

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

good luck is all i can say!!! and i agree move far far away!!! i thought i had the inlaws from HE!!