Neoshoegal
would rather be in Walt Disney World
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For Christmas we had planned to take a big vacation to a ranch in Arizona. Unfortunately, MrNeo's job situation has changed and we had to cancel that vacation as it would be too expensive and a bit foolish to still try to take it. So for a while now we've been wondering what to do for Christmas so it won't be too much of a let down that we aren't in Arizona. I've managed to get a couple of free hotel nights (point saving scheme) and so thinking of using that for Christmas. While researching possible location, I came across Heidelberg in Germany, which from the pictures I saw online looked like a nice place to spend Christmas.
My dad knows a lot about Germany, been there dozens of times, so I called him and asked about Heidelberg. He confirmed that it was nice place to go to with good things to visit. Then he asks why so I explain the above. I should have seen this coming because he does it every time: he asks if he and my mum can join us. So I try to say it's meant as a romantic little get away. Sure he understands, they could be staying at a different hotel and we don't have to spend all our time together. Right... He actually doesn't get the concept of a romantic getaway (he and my mum never do that, they always go on vacation with friends, it's never ever just the 2 of them). From experience I know that isn't so, they will want to know what we'll be doing and get upset if we don't want spend too much time with them. Also, my dad has been a tourguide for all his life so he'd be planning this trip in detail and if we don't do everything on his list, he'll think we've wasted our time there. For example, the hotel we're interested in has a nice spa and pool, so we'd want to spend some time there, he would consider that a waste as you can do that back at home and you should be going out visiting places.
He does this every single time, just the mere mention of we're thinking of this that or the other for a vacation, he asks if they can come along (with the notable exception of Disney World, phew!). My parents are generally very lovely and I always feel a bit guilty for saying no (well, we don't always say no, we've done some vacations with them before).
Although on the other hand, financially, them joining us, would not be that bad as they would chip in for the fuel and such. But then I feel bad again for thinking that.
Does anybody else have parents who always want to join you?
My dad knows a lot about Germany, been there dozens of times, so I called him and asked about Heidelberg. He confirmed that it was nice place to go to with good things to visit. Then he asks why so I explain the above. I should have seen this coming because he does it every time: he asks if he and my mum can join us. So I try to say it's meant as a romantic little get away. Sure he understands, they could be staying at a different hotel and we don't have to spend all our time together. Right... He actually doesn't get the concept of a romantic getaway (he and my mum never do that, they always go on vacation with friends, it's never ever just the 2 of them). From experience I know that isn't so, they will want to know what we'll be doing and get upset if we don't want spend too much time with them. Also, my dad has been a tourguide for all his life so he'd be planning this trip in detail and if we don't do everything on his list, he'll think we've wasted our time there. For example, the hotel we're interested in has a nice spa and pool, so we'd want to spend some time there, he would consider that a waste as you can do that back at home and you should be going out visiting places.
He does this every single time, just the mere mention of we're thinking of this that or the other for a vacation, he asks if they can come along (with the notable exception of Disney World, phew!). My parents are generally very lovely and I always feel a bit guilty for saying no (well, we don't always say no, we've done some vacations with them before).
Although on the other hand, financially, them joining us, would not be that bad as they would chip in for the fuel and such. But then I feel bad again for thinking that.
Does anybody else have parents who always want to join you?
) My Mum isn't really a "muck in" grandma and I don't think she changed Anna's nappy once or helped prepare her breakfast, bathe her or anything. I put it down to grief etc.
It sounds like you would regret letting them tag along. As this is an important break, I would not compromise on this.
Even on the joke level, Robert was a bit flabbergasted and didn't know where to start to correcting her.... She laughed it off, but she has mentioned that spare room several times since.... 
