Parents of the High School Class of 2017/College 2021

DD and I discussed this yesterday, she is done with her summer job at Girl Scout camp and we had a nice long drive home.
She said that on the housing applications she saw, "other" or something similar as a common option. As to disclosure, no one has the right to disclose unless the person wants to disclose. It most likely will fall under privacy laws somewhere I would guess.
My DD does not care and honestly, I think from so many conversations with her and her friends, none of them really care, they have grown up in an except all culture. Its us parents or older folks who seem to have the issues and I tend to see this, most of the teens/young adults really do not care, gender and the issues surrounding it are in DD's words "fluid" they just flow and they really don't take notice.
Now, is that just my DD and her social group or is it common across the board? I really do not know.

I love how accepting our kids are.

My daughter and her friends use "fluid" to describe gender, dating preferences, etc. She has a friend who identifies as male but hasn't done anything permanently. Her friend goes by a male name. The school gave this friend 2 diplomas, one in the legal name and the other in the preferred name. I thought that was wonderful.

As much as I don't want my daughter to grow up, I'm so looking forward to seeing the adult she becomes. That goes for her friends as well.
 
DD got her dorm assignment yesterday. For the first time this year, her university assigned every freshman a time slot, and they had to go on line to select their dorm and dorm room. She got her 2nd choice, but it was her roommate's 1st choice, so all is good. We are almost done getting her dorm stuff. I need to still get a plastic set of drawers on wheels for clothes storage under her bed, a robe (she didn't like the first one we ordered - too thin), laundry supplies, extra toiletries and a medicine box.

Now I am obsessing about stupid stuff like matching headboards and 34 inch drop bed skirts. I NEVER should have looked online at dorm decor websites. We will probably not do headboards. She got a "husband" pillow from Target in her colors for under $14 that she plans to use as a headboard and is talking to her roomie about her getting one too. They are both excited about matching stuff. I am contemplating buying a couple of extra flat sheets to use to cover the under bed storage stuff (kind of like a no sew bed skirt). Another option is to buy some cheap cafe length curtains in her colors and use those as the bed skirt (attached with ribbon or zip ties to the bed metal thing they use instead of a box spring). Not sure yet.

DS moves back to college a week before DD does. He will have a single in his frat house. We already have all his stuff, so only need to replenish a few things, and he is good to go. His financial aid FINALLY came through. He got the expected subsidized and unsubsidized loans but also got a $10,000 scholarship from his university...totally unexpected! We actually emailed the school to confirm it and are waiting to hear back from them. Why would we need confirmation you ask? Last school year DH made a mess of the FAFSA and DS got a Pell Grant in error (DH & son have same name, DH put son's info where DH's info should go, made it look like DS was financially responsible for a minor child [his sister]. We contacted the school, figured out that mistake, gave the money back and jumped through tons of hoops to get the mess corrected). This year we were super careful with the FAFSA and even sent the school our 1040s, W2s and an Asset Verification Form. So we are pretty sure this current scholarship is legit - fingers crossed.

I got a promotion at my school a couple of weeks ago. I teach middle school English at a small Catholic school. I was 3/4 time (29 hrs a wk). Now I will be full time as a teacher and as the Dean of Academics. I am a little anxious about the new responsibilities, especially the book orders and the school day schedules. The schedule is a super complicated jigsaw puzzle, and I am in a holding pattern because we are hiring 2 new part time people . Until we know their availability, I can't make a schedule and Teacher Work Week starts the 15th! I am heading to school this afternoon to unpack books. I gotta do something to make some progress and settle myself down!

Big week for you! Sounds like your kids are all set. Congrats on your DS's scholarship and also on your promotion!!!
 

I did not mind that she didn't have a real job. For last week and this week she has fetched DS from summer Civics class offering and then ran him to physical therapy. And many other regular appt. We enjoyed her as an assistant ~ I'll miss that.

For us it's going to work out perfectly because DD15 will get her license the week after DD18 moves to school. DD18 has been a big help with transporting her sister- last summer she drove DD15 35 miles to drivers ed and waited there during class on several occasions. And their get togethers with friends usually include both of them so that works well too because we're out of the way for anyone else to pick up DD15. Tomorrow, though, I am going to let her off the hook on driving her sister 4 hours round trip to vocal camp, starting at 6:45 am. I'll handle that one. She also mows the (large) lawn a lot. Last time she worked on teaching her sister so she can take that over.

Friday is her last day of work. Last night she drew a beautiful thank you card for her boss and will give her some chocolates too. Then it's off to family camp and then a week to pack and relax.


She acquired a BF that she will miss. He is wrapped around her finger. His path is uncharted, he thinks Navy. ( I just saw the play of words)

DD has kind of missed having a boyfriend to do stuff with but it's just as well she doesn't have to leave one. I met DH in April of my senior year and told my mom I would break it off after summer when I went to school. Guess that didn't happen! He made the 2 hour trip about every other weekend.
 
My dd who had major drama earlier over a roommate issue, has just learned that the second girl assigned to her just backed out! She moves in 10 days and is so upset!
Ok, since I wrote this another one bit the dust! The new college assigned roomie answered an email from dd that she was actually hoping to room with someone from her high school. So dd called housing office. The roomie did in fact request to be moved.
So we have no idea who, or what they will be bringing that could be shared, like fridge, rug, etc. our dd said she just wants her own everything and a roll of electrical tape to divide the room. We keep trying to laugh over it but I know she is very apprehensive.
 
We went went to orientation Monday and Tuesday with my DD. They broke the kids out for planning their first semester classes and then had special programs for the parents. The parental programs were just "meh" and my DD was not pleased with the amount of help she received from the advisors. She said that they spent most of the first day warning kids about how hard the Kinesiology program is and how they should all quit. They probably didn't really tell them to all quit, but that's how my DD felt. The advisor then told my DD that she shouldn't take Calc AB (5 credits) at the same time as Chem 103 (4 credits). My DD ended up with a 3 on the AP test, but you need a 4 at the UW to get credit for Calc AB and it's a requirement for the major so she has to take the class at the UW. I have no idea when the advisor *thinks* she should take Calc since she needs to take 2 Chem classes, 2 Bio classes and 1 Physics class by the end of her Soph year to be admitted into the Kines program The Calc will suck with any of those classes and we think it's best to get it out of the way while it is still fresh from high school. She's taking a very light schedule (12-13 credits, barely full time) so she can focus of Chem and Calc. In addition, all of the freshman english classes are chocked full (orientation has been going on since June) so she can't take those classes until her 2nd semester. It's all very frustrating for her (and us!).
 
We went went to orientation Monday and Tuesday with my DD. They broke the kids out for planning their first semester classes and then had special programs for the parents. The parental programs were just "meh" and my DD was not pleased with the amount of help she received from the advisors. She said that they spent most of the first day warning kids about how hard the Kinesiology program is and how they should all quit. They probably didn't really tell them to all quit, but that's how my DD felt. The advisor then told my DD that she shouldn't take Calc AB (5 credits) at the same time as Chem 103 (4 credits). My DD ended up with a 3 on the AP test, but you need a 4 at the UW to get credit for Calc AB and it's a requirement for the major so she has to take the class at the UW. I have no idea when the advisor *thinks* she should take Calc since she needs to take 2 Chem classes, 2 Bio classes and 1 Physics class by the end of her Soph year to be admitted into the Kines program The Calc will suck with any of those classes and we think it's best to get it out of the way while it is still fresh from high school. She's taking a very light schedule (12-13 credits, barely full time) so she can focus of Chem and Calc. In addition, all of the freshman english classes are chocked full (orientation has been going on since June) so she can't take those classes until her 2nd semester. It's all very frustrating for her (and us!).

Sorry to hear you had a rough time at orientation :(
I totally agree with taking math this semester when it's still fresh in her mind!
 
Ok, since I wrote this another one bit the dust! The new college assigned roomie answered an email from dd that she was actually hoping to room with someone from her high school. So dd called housing office. The roomie did in fact request to be moved.
So we have no idea who, or what they will be bringing that could be shared, like fridge, rug, etc. our dd said she just wants her own everything and a roll of electrical tape to divide the room. We keep trying to laugh over it but I know she is very apprehensive.

Bummer, I know it would have me on edge not knowing. Maybe she will end up with her own room! :teeth: Or a roommate better than all the previous ones.
 
Ok, since I wrote this another one bit the dust! The new college assigned roomie answered an email from dd that she was actually hoping to room with someone from her high school. So dd called housing office. The roomie did in fact request to be moved.
So we have no idea who, or what they will be bringing that could be shared, like fridge, rug, etc. our dd said she just wants her own everything and a roll of electrical tape to divide the room. We keep trying to laugh over it but I know she is very apprehensive.

That is a bummer :( Hopefully, all the drama is happening now and everything will go smoothly when she gets there...
 
We went went to orientation Monday and Tuesday with my DD. They broke the kids out for planning their first semester classes and then had special programs for the parents. The parental programs were just "meh" and my DD was not pleased with the amount of help she received from the advisors. She said that they spent most of the first day warning kids about how hard the Kinesiology program is and how they should all quit. They probably didn't really tell them to all quit, but that's how my DD felt. The advisor then told my DD that she shouldn't take Calc AB (5 credits) at the same time as Chem 103 (4 credits). My DD ended up with a 3 on the AP test, but you need a 4 at the UW to get credit for Calc AB and it's a requirement for the major so she has to take the class at the UW. I have no idea when the advisor *thinks* she should take Calc since she needs to take 2 Chem classes, 2 Bio classes and 1 Physics class by the end of her Soph year to be admitted into the Kines program The Calc will suck with any of those classes and we think it's best to get it out of the way while it is still fresh from high school. She's taking a very light schedule (12-13 credits, barely full time) so she can focus of Chem and Calc. In addition, all of the freshman english classes are chocked full (orientation has been going on since June) so she can't take those classes until her 2nd semester. It's all very frustrating for her (and us!).
FWIW, DS is taking Calc 2 (BC) this fall and is also taking Chemistry. He got a 3 on the AP test and we also figured it would be fresh in his mind.
 
FWIW, DS is taking Calc 2 (BC) this fall and is also taking Chemistry. He got a 3 on the AP test and we also figured it would be fresh in his mind.
Exactly. The advisor really tried to talk her out of it, which made my DD just dig in her heels more and discount everything else she said. I told her that she should ask to be reassigned to another one in the future since the one she had was kinda a dud.
 
We went went to orientation Monday and Tuesday with my DD. They broke the kids out for planning their first semester classes and then had special programs for the parents. The parental programs were just "meh" and my DD was not pleased with the amount of help she received from the advisors. She said that they spent most of the first day warning kids about how hard the Kinesiology program is and how they should all quit. They probably didn't really tell them to all quit, but that's how my DD felt. The advisor then told my DD that she shouldn't take Calc AB (5 credits) at the same time as Chem 103 (4 credits). My DD ended up with a 3 on the AP test, but you need a 4 at the UW to get credit for Calc AB and it's a requirement for the major so she has to take the class at the UW. I have no idea when the advisor *thinks* she should take Calc since she needs to take 2 Chem classes, 2 Bio classes and 1 Physics class by the end of her Soph year to be admitted into the Kines program The Calc will suck with any of those classes and we think it's best to get it out of the way while it is still fresh from high school. She's taking a very light schedule (12-13 credits, barely full time) so she can focus of Chem and Calc. In addition, all of the freshman english classes are chocked full (orientation has been going on since June) so she can't take those classes until her 2nd semester. It's all very frustrating for her (and us!).

Schedules, ACK!!!
DD has a similar situation. She's taking bio and chem, both with labs, so no math this semsester. Plus she's considering a minor "Spanish for the medical field" (or something like that). She needs a lot of credits to cram in as well.
It was kinda a mess at orientation as well!!
 
Ok, since I wrote this another one bit the dust! The new college assigned roomie answered an email from dd that she was actually hoping to room with someone from her high school. So dd called housing office. The roomie did in fact request to be moved.
So we have no idea who, or what they will be bringing that could be shared, like fridge, rug, etc. our dd said she just wants her own everything and a roll of electrical tape to divide the room. We keep trying to laugh over it but I know she is very apprehensive.

Your poor DD! Hopefully karma is doing its magic and she's going to end up with really great roommates! I will keep my fingers crossed for her.

DD just got her roommate and dorm assignment. She and the girl have texted a bit and DD says the the girl sounds normal and nice (her words). They are in a building that has a lot of singles, but they must have some doubles too. She doesn't have orientation until the 28th and there's no parent orientation at all. She selected her classes online a couple of weeks ago, but hasn't heard if she got the ones she wanted (she had to give some alternate choices too).
 
Ok, since I wrote this another one bit the dust! The new college assigned roomie answered an email from dd that she was actually hoping to room with someone from her high school. So dd called housing office. The roomie did in fact request to be moved.
So we have no idea who, or what they will be bringing that could be shared, like fridge, rug, etc. our dd said she just wants her own everything and a roll of electrical tape to divide the room. We keep trying to laugh over it but I know she is very apprehensive.
I am so sorry your DD is experiencing this. It makes an already stressful transition that much more difficult. I will start saying some prayers that she gets settled with a perfect roommate soon. There IS a plan in place, she just doesn't know what it is and has to trust that it will all work out. Easier said than done for sure.
 
DS walked by the dining room where I have his stuff stacked to bring this weekend and burst into tears. I was so surprised..... he's always big talk about being fine on his own and not needing us. Very independent. But he is nervous about going to college and he says seeing all the stuff just hit home that nothing will be the same. This is the only home he remembers. Fingers crossed all goes well this weekend.
 
DS walked by the dining room where I have his stuff stacked to bring this weekend and burst into tears. I was so surprised..... he's always big talk about being fine on his own and not needing us. Very independent. But he is nervous about going to college and he says seeing all the stuff just hit home that nothing will be the same. This is the only home he remembers. Fingers crossed all goes well this weekend.
Awww :hug:
 
DS walked by the dining room where I have his stuff stacked to bring this weekend and burst into tears. I was so surprised..... he's always big talk about being fine on his own and not needing us. Very independent. But he is nervous about going to college and he says seeing all the stuff just hit home that nothing will be the same. This is the only home he remembers. Fingers crossed all goes well this weekend.

Oh my...hugs to you both. I'm holding it together, but that would push me over the edge. Fingers crossed for this weekend for you.
 












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