Parents, do you like

[tiggersmom2]

I like my kids......the best part is they say they like me too!!!
I think that might be a record with a teen and a "twinkie" (what we call tweens in my house). I love them all of the time but some times I have to work up to the like. My teen has the choice of doing some things by herself, with her friends or her mom....she has chosen to do these things with me...I feel privileged when I see other kids running so far away from their parents.

Awwwww..that is so sweet, I know you are a great parent.

 

[babytrees]

Awwwww..that is so sweet, I know you are a great parent.

Thanks!!

We seem to be on the same threads lately....I can't get over how cute Stevie is....brings a smile to my face every time I see her picture.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Thanks!!

We seem to be on the same threads lately....I can't get over how cute Stevie is....brings a smile to my face every time I see her picture.

Yes, I have noticed we are on the same threads...great minds and all.... Thank you so much about Stevie, my little cutie says thanks!!!

 

[shortbun]

My Mom told me once that she could have had a fulfilled life without us-her children. She's not affectionate, never has been. Even as an adult, it's hard to be her child. I have accepted her and love her but I am a much different type of mother than she was. I think open and outright love and affection is so important to a child. Missing out on it defines me.

And-I really LIKE my son. He's a great human being. I let him know every way I can.

 

[miss missy]

Nope I don't like em!!!!!!!!!!!

I LOOOOOOOOVE THEM!!!!!!!!! I dunno, I take my job as a mom as the most important thing I will do in my life. If I do my job right, the world will have to more wonderful people in it!

 

[grinningghost]

I love my daughter. There are times I'd like to choke her - but she's a teenager.

My stepson - another story. The kid is just not likable, much less lovable. He hurts everyone and everything in his path every single minute of his life. We've tried and tried and tried and tried. He's 22 and a father now (a horrible one BTW) - you'd think he'd finally get it together - not even close. He must love prison.

So it isn't that some people just don't like their kids, it's often that their kids don't like them - and it simply isn't ever going to be warm and fuzzy - why pretend it is?

 

[Galahad]

You can love your kids and be a good parent and go through periods of not liking one kid or another. Our oldest son is coming out of a period of a few years where he was downright unlikable (he's 25), He's growing up and becoming much more a "part of the world" and our most recent visit with him (Christmastime) was great. Our younger son is immensely likable. He's 16 and hasn't yet entered any phase of the sort that our older son had. I'm hoping he learned from seeing how unpleasant his brother during is "long-bad-weekend" was but we'll see.

 

[mickeyboat]

Perhaps you're reading more into it then necessary? Sometimes parents need to vent, and sometimes parents have really bad days with kids. As a mom of 3 busy kids that test my patience daily, I can relate! There are days when I'd like to just run away, or lock myself in a room so that I can get a moment's peace of the fighting, tattling, yelling and whining - but I can't. Just because I get frustrated and worn out doesn't mean I don't love my children with every ounce of my being, or that I hate being a parent. My kids aren't perfect, and neither am I.

I agree Stephanie. I love my husband, but he really ticks me off sometimes. I love my cats, but they drive me insane sometimes. I like my job, but sometimes I want to flee and never return.

Just because I might complain about my kids once in a while, doesn't mean that I don't love them, or that I should not have been a parent. If they were perfect every moment, they wouldn't need me, now,would they?

Denae

 

[Becky2005]

I also don't get the people who complain about having their kids home all summer and say they can't wait for them to go back to school.

I do that but it's mostly because if all 4 of them are together for any length of time....there is BOUND to be bloodshed & then tears of "my feelings were hurt" between them.

So, usually by the end of summer it's really, really, really time & I'm excited for them to go back.

Then again...at this point...I'm tired of doing all the "school stuff" & can't wait for them to be on summer break so it goes both ways.

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

I absolutely love my kid, but I also like the person he has become.

I never planned on having kids. I'm not one of those domestic, maternal women. DS was a complete surprise but the best one I've ever had. I feel very lucky to have the child I do, because I see a lot of kids and think, "what a horrible little creep." I don't think that every child is lovable.

 

[ozarkmom]

I love my kids but there are times now that they're teens that I don't always "like" them. Guess what they probably don't always like me and their dad either. Especially my DD she at times is especially difficult I never stop loving any of them but like not always.

 

[Southern4sure]

I can not imagine my life without my children in it. But that does not mean they are angels all the time. My teen (turns 17 tomorrow) is a good kid but is a typical teen who knows everything....

 

[KelNottAt]

My parents never came right out and said so, but their non-verbals made it perfectly clear that parenthood was a major inconvenience in their lives. But I know they still loved me and my sister. They just didn't like chores and responsibility and schedules and the pressure of supporting another human.

I love my kids and like them more and more everyday. I want to spend more and more time with them. Whenever DH and I find ourselves with spare time, we always want to spend it with the kids instead on a date by ourselves. Flame if you want, but in 14.5 years of parenthood we've had less than one date per year. We like it like that.

 

[Southern4sure]

My parents never came right out and said so, but their non-verbals made it perfectly clear that parenthood was a major inconvenience in their lives. But I know they still loved me and my sister. They just didn't like chores and responsibility and schedules and the pressure of supporting another human.

I love my kids and like them more and more everyday. I want to spend more and more time with them. Whenever DH and I find ourselves with spare time, we always want to spend it with the kids instead on a date by ourselves. Flame if you want, but in 14.5 years of parenthood we've had less than one date per year. We like it like that.

No flaming from me....we do the same for 17 yrs. We just recently started have lunch dates on Friday. This way we dont feel guilty because the kids are in school.

 

[rt2dz]

Right now? Sure. Check with me in about 10 minutes, though.

Seriously, I love my kids and can't imagine not having them. They add so much to our lives. As they've gotten older, I've gotten a kick out of watching them develop their personalities. I'm so proud of them. Yes, there are days when it's a little harder to sing their praises, but I wouldn't trade them for the world.

It seems as if some people have kids because they think they're supposed to, or their SO wants them. If they were honest with themselves, they might realize they didn't have a true desire to be a parent. Or, there are those that expect to produce these perfect little beings that don't make messes, always listen, never smell, etc. They would've been better off getting a plant.

OP--I really just hope that whoever you were talking to was just having a moment and doesn't really feel that way. But, of course, I've never understood why my neighbor really hates having her mother come over to help her with her 6 kids (ages 5, 5, 5, 5, 3, 2) until she told me that her mother told her it was because she (my neighbor) is just so unlikable the thought of her having kids makes her (my neighbor's mother) sick. Yikes! My neighbor is so sweet, thoughtful, giving, kind, calm and a fantastic parent, someone I aspire to be.

ETA-- I love my little monsters more than anything in this world. There are times that mommy wants to "quit", but I couldn't function without them.

 

[dis ms.]

Flame if you want, but in 14.5 years of parenthood we've had less than one date per year. We like it like that.

I'm certainly not going to flame you for wanting to spend time with your kids. We as parents should do what works best for our own families.

I love doing things together as a family, but I also enjoy--no, make that need--occasional dates with DH. My kids love when DH and I go out because they get to spend time with their grandparents, or with my good friend's kids (we do date night swaps). It's a treat for the kids and us.

I don't feel guilty about my time alone with DH. I think it helps us stay connected, which undoubtedly benefits our children.

 

[dis ms.]

...her 6 kids (ages 5, 5, 5, 5, 3, 2)...

 

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

I love my dd! I can't imagine life anyother way. Now my ex - her dad - is another story but luckily she does not know how I feel about him.

RIght now for dd I am the coolest mom on earth! Ofcourse she is only five so I am sure that will come to an end.

 

[tigercat]

I love my kids and dgrdd's but at times they really try my patience. I would do anything for them and sometimes do. I love spending time with them all and really enjoy that time.
tigercat

 

[Pam]

I love my children more than anything but at 17 and 16 they do tend to try my patience Like I said, I always love them but there are times when I don't like them a whole lot, this feeling passes quickly as they know when they have pissed me off and they start acting like humans again I wouldn't trade them for anything but I have considered selling them to the gypsies at times

Wow - as the mom to a 21 and 18 year old, you just took the words out of my mouth!