Parents, do you like

[Bust*A*Stitch]

he's 7, thinks he's 18.

refuses to do school work unless he feels like it, wont listen to teachers, wont listen to daycare, wont do anything unless there is a pay off for him.

when he does realize he's in trouble he goes immediately to "MY MOMMY"S GOING TO KILL ME!!! even though we haven't spanked him since 1/06. he lied so bad about that he got the teachers got child services involved.

so far he's moved schools 3 times, kicked out of 11 daycares, and we moved schools, bought a new house because of his behavior and I've lost 2 jobs over all this.

yea there are days I wish I hadn't had a son.

counseling started yesterday with mom, he goes next week.

 

[sm4987]

Perhaps you're reading more into it then necessary? Sometimes parents need to vent, and sometimes parents have really bad days with kids. As a mom of 3 busy kids that test my patience daily, I can relate! There are days when I'd like to just run away, or lock myself in a room so that I can get a moment's peace of the fighting, tattling, yelling and whining - but I can't. Just because I get frustrated and worn out doesn't mean I don't love my children with every ounce of my being, or that I hate being a parent. My kids aren't perfect, and neither am I.

BTW - the woman who compared her kids to dogs is an exception. People like that probably shouldn't have kids.

Don't get me wrong, I vent too about my kids, but this is extreme venting even to the events that they put their children in by their choice. I have two kids that are 11 and 7, so I know they can work a nerve. But it might not be something you can understand until you hear them talk and hear the way they really are.

 

[Nala2007]

You don't even want me to go there on this one!! I LOVE MY KIDS


Okay well maybe just a summary...

My best friends aunt called her (my best friend) asking her advice...she said she is considering giving her kid to the grandparents because she feels the kid is bringing her down and doesn't want her (crappy) boyfriend to leave her???

I don't understand some people....

 

[UrsulasShadow]

Imagine someone who went through the trouble of going to a foreign country to adopt children...not once, but TWICE....and clearly does not like them. I think she did it to keep her husband happy, and for the status of "owning" exotic-looking children. It's so sad...I want to steal them and raise them differently, but now they're so messed up I couldn't handle them.

 

[fan_of_small_world]

Don't get me wrong, I vent too about my kids, but this is extreme venting even to the events that they put their children in by their choice. I have two kids that are 11 and 7, so I know they can work a nerve. But it might not be something you can understand until you hear them talk and hear the way they really are.

Yes, I'm glad someone posted this. ALL of us need to vent, because no matter how much we love our children and love being parents, there are times that makes you question your sanity.

But, people like the OP was talking about do exist, unfortunately. I'm pretty sure everyone here is differentiating between nuts like her and the normal exasperated parent letting off some steam.

 

[N&B'smom]

he's 7, thinks he's 18.

refuses to do school work unless he feels like it, wont listen to teachers, wont listen to daycare, wont do anything unless there is a pay off for him.

when he does realize he's in trouble he goes immediately to "MY MOMMY"S GOING TO KILL ME!!! even though we haven't spanked him since 1/06. he lied so bad about that he got the teachers got child services involved.

so far he's moved schools 3 times, kicked out of 11 daycares, and we moved schools, bought a new house because of his behavior and I've lost 2 jobs over all this.

yea there are days I wish I hadn't had a son.

counseling started yesterday with mom, he goes next week.

Can't even imagine....I'm speechless regarding your post.

As for me, I have two beautiful children. My son is 7 (soon to be 8) and my daughter is 3.5. My son is one of the most caring, eager to please children I've ever met. He cares so deeply about others, he sticks up for those who are treated poorly, he protects those that are hurt by others, he genuinely cares so much for everyone. He's like a little old man, he worries about things beyond his years. His teacher told us she wished she had a classroom full of kids like him. He's made it very easy to enjoy every minute that I've been a parent. My daughter is a spunky little love bug. She adores her brother so much. She greets him everyday with a hug after school, constantly reminds him that they're best friends and is always kissing him. They are the reason I was created. I feel that deep within, giving birth to such beautiful little people and teaching them the proper way to be in life are the reasons I'm here.

Those two children bring me so much joy, I don't know what I would be without them. I can tell you, my life would be absolutely nothing close to what it is now, if they weren't a part of it. I could go on and on. (don't worry, I won't!)

Shelby

 

[Ariel Wanna-be]

my mother and my sister are both the types who never should have had kids. all i ever heard from my mother was how i ruined her life and how she couldn't do anything for herself, because i needed too much.

and my sister is the same way. it's like she can't handle kids. she doesn't understand that her 4 year old boy isn't a grown person and doesn't understand things the way adults do.

it's sad, and i wish neither of them would ever have had kids. everyone's lives would have been better off it that was the case.

Not true!! Then you wouldn't be here, and that would suck! I'm sure your DH2B is quite happy that your mom had kids .

Your poor nephew...I hope your sister wises up and realize how many people would love to have that little boy!

 

[Ariel Wanna-be]

he's 7, thinks he's 18.

refuses to do school work unless he feels like it, wont listen to teachers, wont listen to daycare, wont do anything unless there is a pay off for him.

when he does realize he's in trouble he goes immediately to "MY MOMMY"S GOING TO KILL ME!!! even though we haven't spanked him since 1/06. he lied so bad about that he got the teachers got child services involved.

so far he's moved schools 3 times, kicked out of 11 daycares, and we moved schools, bought a new house because of his behavior and I've lost 2 jobs over all this.

yea there are days I wish I hadn't had a son.

counseling started yesterday with mom, he goes next week.

OMG. I sincerely hope the counseling can help you guys.

 

[mariolatry]

99% of the time I love AND like my kid. It's amazing to see how she grows and develops everyday.

However, about 1% of the time, I'm not so sure about the "like" part. At 18 months, we're getting in to some serious tantrumming and it's driving me crazy. I don't have a natural mom temperament. I tend to get cranky with lack of sleep and I pray for patience everyday. There have been times that I have vented to my husband that I never should have had kids. Of course, sometimes that is also often related to my frustration that I can't always be the kind of mom I want to be. Sometimes it's about missing the things I gave up when I became a mom. You get a lot back but you have to admit, your life is forever changed.

It doesn't mean I don't love her. It just means that I get overwhelmed.

 

[Pixie Tales]

My Aunt was 16 when she got pregnant with her daughter Kylie. Kylie is her Only child because my Aunt was told a month after Kylie's birth that she needed an operation and she will Never have any more children.

I remember the story my Aunt told me about being a Mom at 16.. She said Kylie saved her life. She was on a path of distruction and falling fast. Drugs, Drinking, Smoking and Careless Partying. If she didn't get pregnant she wouldn't of had a reason to stop and she probably would of been dead long ago..

My Aunt has always called her daughter her Hero

 

[agnes!]

If necessary I would give up my life for my DD.
And I like her too .

agnes!

 

[ilovejack02]

i love my little man more than anything in the world. He is my everything and so much fun to be with. Some folks dont get little kids and only enjoy them when they get older and that is such a shame that they miss all the fun of the little ones.

 

[Aidensmom]

I love my child very much, and can't imagine what my life would be like without him. One day, though, I did threaten to trade him in for a puppy.

 

[MyManGoofy!]

I love my son more than I could really ever describe. He is not only a good son, but he is a good person all around.

He is absolutely brilliant, hysterically funny, totally sweet, selflessly considerate, unendingly helpful, extremely hardworking and I have no bias what-so-ever!

 

[minkydog]

I like my kids, some days better than others. My oldest, DS20, gave me a fit during his HS years but he has straightened out now and is working hard. DD13 is just entering the prime eye-rolling years, but she too is a hard worker and a good person. DS11 is a sugar bear, always gonna be my baby. He's a lot of work but oh, so worth it.

 

[UrsulasShadow]

Doesn't matter how tough they can be, I'd rather be with my kids than anybody else in the world. And they know it.

My mother's mantra while I was growing up was, "I wish I never had kids." Some people just shouldn't be parents.

 

[JVL1018]

I am head over heels about my kids-I think I have the best boy and best girl in the entire world.
I truly love and like them and the thought of life without them makes me want to cry.

HOWEVER-they do drive me crazy sometimes and the thing with wanting them to go back to school while on vacation--it's because they BICKER and drive me nuts!! Hate hate hate when they are the Bickersons.

That said I love vacation weeks(like this week) because it's nice to hang out with them and be lazy.

 

[momrek06]

MY DS' "ROCK MY WORLD"...they are 24&21!!!

And like all parents I have had as many bad days as good days.

 

[sm4987]

I know what you mean!! I am so looking forward to spring break to hang out with them. I have all kinds of activities plan, and I'm sure they will work a nerve or two that week, but I wouldn't have it any other way!!!!

 

[babytrees]

I like my kids......the best part is they say they like me too!!!
I think that might be a record with a teen and a "twinkie" (what we call tweens in my house). I love them all of the time but some times I have to work up to the like. My teen has the choice of doing some things by herself, with her friends or her mom....she has chosen to do these things with me...I feel privileged when I see other kids running so far away from their parents.