Parents--did your views on spanking change once you had children?

[Tigger&Belle]

Some of us were discussing spanking (as a form of discipline with children ) last night and I wonder how many people had one opinion about spanking before having children, and then had their opinion change. Is so, what did you believe and how do you now believe?

 

[Acklander]

Before having children, I didn't think it was necessary except for danger situations, i.e. child running in the street, reaching for hot pan, etc...
After having children I realized it wasn't necessary ever. For scary/danger situations usually the half panic/half scream noise in my voice was enough to stop the offender dead in their tracks and look over to see what was wrong with me.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I never had an opinion on spanking until I had kids (more specifically, once those kids became toddlers ). No kids, no need for an stance on the subject, I figured.

 

[LisaNJ25]

They were the same before and after kids. I have no problem with spanking.

 

[JVL1018]

I always thought spanking was an acceptable form of discipline, but since having kids, other than a handful of times, I don't and won't spank.
Not because I think it's bad, but because *I* did it out of anger, not as a teaching method, and I didn't want to be that person.
Other methods work better for both my children and myself.

 

[palmtreegirl]

No, my opinion didn't change.

 

[C.Ann]

Nope - no change..

 

[mickeyboat]

I always thought spanking was an acceptable form of discipline, but since having kids, other than a handful of times, I don't and won't spank.
Not because I think it's bad, but because *I* did it out of anger, not as a teaching method, and I didn't want to be that person.
Other methods work better for both my children and myself.

MTE!

Denae

 

[Darcy03231]

No, no change. I always used a spanking as a last resort and it was never done in anger. I don't think DD ever got one. On the other hand, nothing else worked for DS. We tried time outs, taking things away, etc. and it didn't work. I would always try other methods first and would tell him "If you don't stop I'm going to spank you". He'd look right at you and do it again! He get a spank - open hand on rear and he'd straighten right out. He's now 14 and can't figure out why he did that (although he's still really stubborn, but you can reason with him now).

 

[luvmyfam444]

NOpe no change for me.

Ya know if you watch Super Nanny a bit you could form an opinion there...

 

[NMAmy]

No change for me. I was anti-spanking before having a child and anti-spanking after having a child.

 

[NAB]

No my never changed when I had kids. My dd never got spanked, she had never been in a time out much either but my ds has gotten spanked a few times when he was younger. Now it is just take away his games and he gets it, well some times..

 

[Momof2princess]

No mine did not change. I was against spanking before children and I am still against it now with two DD's

 

[LaraK]

Yes...I realized I had to spank them much more often than I thought I would.

JK...I got spankings as a child, pull down your pants and hand me my belt spankings. I don't do that. I will swat a butt or smack a hand. I never believed the old phrase "this hurts me than it hurts you" but it does. I don't think I could use an object to beat my child, it crosses a line in my mind.

 

[Cool-Beans]

I never thought it was wrong in general, but I didn't think I'd ever spank. The first time one ran towards the street, I spanked him. Didn't think about it, didn't debate in my head, didn't make a decision...just did it.

So, opinion on others didn't change. Wasn't my business before, isn't now.

But my views for me changed.

 

[Mickey Fliers]

No. I still like a good spanking now and again.






Wait, you were talking about kids?

 

[wowsmom]

Nope, my view did not change. I was spanked as a child and always swore I would never spank my children. They are now 13 and 10 and I've never spanked either one.

 

[MO Disney cruiser]

No, didn't change. If necessary I would spank and did when necessary. DD maybe got 1/2 dozen spankings when she was little. She's 16 now. Now I get to take away her car

 

[christiane]

No. Never thought I would spank and never have.

Why would anybody want to hit their child? I've always just thought it made the parent feel better, but did nothing for the situation that brought it about.

I wouldn't be able to look my children in the eyes if I ever hit them...

 

[ndelaware]

Spanking teaches one thing; If someone won't listen to you, hit em.