Panic!

[Tashinwdw]

was relieved when christmas was over and could get back to focusing on more holiday planning when DH calls me this morning to tell me that after 25 years in the same company he has just resigned. He has wanted to for a while as its a young mans job and physically he cant do it anymore but OMG!

Part of me is panicking because we have a mortgage to pay and my wage is nothing, and the other part of me is panicking even more because we have so much more to pay for this holiday. The flights are paid for so I guess I will just have to cut costs where I can.

Fingers crossed he will be able to find some work doing something........Breathe

 

[heidispidi]

Hi Tash. I hope your DH can find a new position quickly. Will this change make him happier? Might be best in the long run?

I understand your stress. At the end of next week, I am out of work, due to our move from Perth to Sydney. With our mortgage and upcoming trip, I won't rest easy until I have a new position. Trying not to worry yet.

 

[PrincessInOz]

Tash - Breathe. You'll be fine.

I hope your DH finds a job quickly.

 

[Tashinwdw]

Thanks Heidi and PrincessinOz, I am sure it all will be fine. DH doesnt seem to be stressed about it, his theory is he will go stack shelves at coles if he has to - though I dont think it will pay enough to cover the mortgage. Will just have to take one day at a time.

I hope you find work soon Heidispidi

 

[WanderlustNZ]

You poor thing. I imagine that you are feeling quite stressed at present. But even though it's easier said than done, try to stay optimistic.

I cut my hours (and pay) back by quite a bit last year as I was miserable. Working 60 - 70 hours each week was taking it's toll on my health and family life. As someone who's always been quite goal orientated in my job, it was a really difficult decision to come to. But one day I just snapped. I knew something had to change and it had to happen right that second. I walked straight to my boss and cut my hours back then and then. I went home that night and told my husband and I think he was more relieved than I was. He was sick of a tired, cranky wife. Anyway, I've been about 10 times happier and I finally realise there is more to life than money.

I know my situation is probably quite different to yours, but I hope you and your DH also end up finding happiness from his decision. The annoying thing about life is that it usually needs to get worse before it can get better. If your husband has been unhappy, in the long run, this will probably be the best thing he could have done.

Perhaps we can help you find alternatives in your holiday (cheaper hotels and activities etc) that you can still look forward to without breaking the bank?
Alternatively, if things get too tight financially, you could try phoning the airline and asking if there is an option to move your flights (perhaps to 2015). They might make you pay a change fee, but it could also give you some breathing space.

At the end of the day, there will be a solution out there that works for you

 

[Meemoo]

I'm sure things will turn out ok. If DH is not panicking then that is a good sign, things fall into place when you are more relaxed! Plus, there's nothing like an upcoming trip to inspire you to both find some $$

 

[gogo65]

Sending good vibes to you and your DH
I'm sure things will fall into place.
Lucky you already have the flights booked, otherwise I could see the holiday would be the first thing to go, so that is a bonus
Sit down, take a step back, let things fall into place over the next few weeks then re-evaluate all the possibilities that life could bring.
oh and keep us updated

 

[CJ2001]

Hi Tash

I can imagine what you must be going through, I have been in the same job for 16 years and was at a point where I was going to resign and was soooo close to doing it but things sorted out and I am staying in my position for the only reason of hopefully going back to US this year (even though my husband has still not agreed) oh and also because of my daughter starting a new school and I have the hours that I need! Its silly really we havent saved a cent yet I am still determined to go!

I wish I could do what your husband had done, he has alot of guts to do it. Hope he gets a job he loves doing, its all everyone wishes but then we fall into the "reliable job" and get stuck. So envious of those people that are in a job that they love .

If you do go ahead with the holiday it will be a nice break from all the worries

 

[WAMUMOF4]

was relieved when christmas was over and could get back to focusing on more holiday planning when DH calls me this morning to tell me that after 25 years in the same company he has just resigned. He has wanted to for a while as its a young mans job and physically he cant do it anymore but OMG!

Part of me is panicking because we have a mortgage to pay and my wage is nothing, and the other part of me is panicking even more because we have so much more to pay for this holiday. The flights are paid for so I guess I will just have to cut costs where I can.

Fingers crossed he will be able to find some work doing something........Breathe

it will all work out, a similar thing happened to us in 2012 only DH was sacked he had another job within a few days but it was 4 weeks by the time he started his new job because of inductions etc 6 till we got paid I regiggled our trip many times we had way to much money to loose by cancelling but it all worked out for the best

 

[Tashinwdw]

Thanks everyone, your support has been amazing. I am doing what has been suggested, taking a step back and just letting it all settle down before I make and big decisions. I will look into things like cheaper accommodation, if flights can be changed to another date etc. but not do anything yet.

I am sure he will find another job, not sure how long it will take and I know it will not pay as much, he has been really lucky where he is as they didnt want to loose him they paid him way beyond the award wage, so moving to another job will mean a huge pay decrease but I guess its not worth the money if you hate the job. We keep saying to our children you have to study and work hard at school because you dont want to have to do a job you hate for the rest of your life just to pay the bills. If you work hard at school then you will be one of the lucky ppl that will get to do a job they love. Hopefully they learn from us.

Again thanks

 

[zanzibar138]

Just wanted to add my support

Glad to hear you're staying positive. Try to take it one day at a time. You've still got plenty of time to make changes if you need to.

At the end of the day, DH's health is the most important thing, so it sounds like it will be the best thing in the end, even if it was a bit of a shock!

 

[Aussie Wendy]

I second all that Wanderlust said and having done something very similar to her. Hope your DH finds something he will be happier in soon but he must have really been feeling bad and so so fed up to take that move. Wishing you both good luck for the future.

 

[Tashinwdw]

Latest update - they wouldn't accept his resignation and are trying to make changes to keep him. He is still looking elsewhere for work so I guess it will mean that he will probably be there until he does get another job, which eases my mind on the financial side. At least now they know the health side of what is going on and I hope that they make the necessary changes for him. He has said that its up to them, as he feels its stupid for them to pay him to do a job he cant do all the duties to anymore, but so far they are saying they still want him no matter what. Of course that could change if they find a replacement for him.

thanks again for all your support and advice, I am still looking at some alternatives and having plan b and c ready in case things do change, that way I wont go into a huge panic. It has been good hearing the stories of those that have made career changes and the positives that have come from it. As much as I was stressed about him being unemployed I was able to let him know that I supported him and his decision.

I will keep you all posted if anything does change.
Again big hugz and thanks

 

[WanderlustNZ]

That's great news. I hope your husband's boss can find a solution that works for everyone.
If nothing else, it must be an ego boost to your husband that his boss values him so much.

 

[PrincessInOz]

Good for you and your DH, Tash.

 

[zanzibar138]

That's great news! It will be the best solution for everyone if they can find him some different work to do that doesn't aggravate any health issues