Overreaction or Innocent?

[PigletsPal2]

Even if DH could figure out how to open texts on my phone, he'd be grateful that he didn't have to make my breakfast (as if he ever did!)

Queen Colleen

 

[Liberty Belle]

Good Lord...Asking what you want to drink is now a passionate affair?
I've been around the block then....

My co-worker actually bought me a mug and brought in a mocha latte for me (on two separate occasions). We were really going at it.

 

[npmommie]

Good Lord...Asking what you want to drink is now a passionate affair?
I've been around the block then....

 

[Allison]

Are sweet tea or lemonade now codes words for something I don't know about? Otherwise, I don't get it.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

BFD. If it read "Hey sweetcheeks. I thought about you all last night. What can I get my hot mama to drink this morning?" that would be upsetting.

"Hey, what do you want to drink?" is NOT a big deal. He may have even sent that to a few other coworkers what they wanted, too.

LOL it sounds like the coworker went to Chick Fil A!

 

[FireDancer]

I think the guy has some serious control and/or jealousy issues.

 

[Disneefun]

LOL it sounds like the coworker went to Chick Fil A!

If it was Chik fil a, and it was yesterday (Tues) it was probably as innocuous as the coworker got free breakfast. I know our chik fila's are having free breakfast Tuesdays in march if you've joined their text message club. You go in, show your phone and get whatever free entree they're giving that day. Probably the coworker got free breakfasts and was just asking what she'd like to go with it.

 

[shortbun]

Boy, someone REALLY has a wild immagination! Co-workers communicate. Could the text have been more benign? Not like the guy said, 'what are you wearing?'

 

[scrapquitler]

WAAAAY Overreaction

Where I work, there is always texting going on "Do you want Dunkin Donuts" "I'm stopping at subway on the way in, do you want something?" Geesh...someone being NICE doesn't mean the wife is having an affair. It's a HUGE stretch.

Now if they text was "Hey what flavor ice cream should I buy to lick of your nakid body?" that would be different.

 

[AmberHeartsDisney]

I bring my co workers stuff in all the time so I dont think its a big deal.

 

[wvjules]

She's obviously a little tart and "what do you want to drink" is code for I want to shag you by the water cooler.

 

[Bren's Mom]

For MY marriage, thinking about MY dh and myself? Overreaction. Our cell phone/Ipods/etc are open books. He knows my codes, I know his, etc. If he questioned a text, I would happily explain it. And I do get texts from a male coworker, at least once a week. Often, they have a message on them to 'share with dh'sname' because he thinks my dh will like the joke. And this coworkers wife and I are friends on FB. I have nothing to hide, and both my coworker and I would laugh ourselves silly if anyone thought we were doing anything untoward. So would our spouses!

BUT, in a marriage where infidelity has already occurred, or where one partner or the other is jealous or possessive or abusive...it might not be an overreaction.

 

[bumbershoot]

I think the guy on the radio is a little paranoid.

"Hey baby, I can't wait to see you today. I heard that bathroom is still supposed to be out of order " would indicate someone is having an affair at the office.

"I'm bringing breakfast" DOESN'T indicate anything of the kind.

Now, if he'd asked "would you like a cup of coffee", and they are both Eddie Izzard fans, THEN it might mean a passionate affair (or the desire for one)....



The guy might be jealous for no reason. But it also might be the straw that broke the camel's back, and this has finally pushed him into realization that maybe something is happening. No good way to know from this ONE text.

(and thank goodness her phone didn't "correct" her spelling and put "sweetie" instead of "sweet tea"!)

 

[dislaney]

I bring my co workers stuff in all the time so I dont think its a big deal.

You mean, gasp, your NOT having an affair with them!

Total overreaction. Although, I wish my DH made me breakfast.

 

[rockydek]

Sweet Tea means... SWEET THANG
lemonade means.... SQUEEZE ME SUGAR

Isn't this obvious to everyone else!

 

[disykat]

Whoa, back it up. The words "sweet tea or lemonade" are too familiar? Seriously?

What the heck kind of world is this where one's drink preference is considered crossing a boundary?

I said it quite clearly that I don't consider the text itself an issue. However, I might wonder about casual texting between coworkers that implied a relationship I wasn't aware of. I honestly believe I'm aware of all my dh's relationships that are this casual and he is aware of mine.

The only person I can imagine texting back and forth without some niceties like "nice!" or "thanks" or "don't go to any trouble" would be someone who I regularly shared meals with. If I found out I had been packing lunches for my spouse but he'd never mentioned to me he sometimes eats with someone else I would be . I wouldn't be calling a private detective, but I'd definitely be asking some questions.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

I wouldn't consider it abnormal for a co-worker to send this kind of text unless there were other indicators that she was having a fling or an affair.

Exactly. Taken at face value, there is nothing worrisome (to me) in that text.

I said it quite clearly that I don't consider the text itself an issue. However, I might wonder about casual texting between coworkers that implied a relationship I wasn't aware of. I honestly believe I'm aware of all my dh's relationships that are this casual and he is aware of mine.

I'm certainly not going to tell you how to feel, but I'm curious as to why you think the text signifies a casual relationship?

At my office, everyone in my department is required to have each other's phone numbers. If we need to communicate outside of work, we text. Sometimes someone will be running late and will shoot off a text that says "stuck in traffic, running late" or something like that. I do not have what I would consider to be a casual relationship with my coworkers. They're just that... coworkers. But when we need to communicate, we text.

The other thing is... the wife could have been one recipient on a mass text that went to everyone in the office. Depending on what kind of phone you have, that may or may not be obvious. It's possible the entire office got the same exact text and the person who sent it needed a written list of who wanted what.

 

[JenSop]

I said it quite clearly that I don't consider the text itself an issue. However, I might wonder about casual texting between coworkers that implied a relationship I wasn't aware of. I honestly believe I'm aware of all my dh's relationships that are this casual and he is aware of mine.

The only person I can imagine texting back and forth without some niceties like "nice!" or "thanks" or "don't go to any trouble" would be someone who I regularly shared meals with. If I found out I had been packing lunches for my spouse but he'd never mentioned to me he sometimes eats with someone else I would be . I wouldn't be calling a private detective, but I'd definitely be asking some questions.

Really? I guess everyone's different. My DH and I have some mutual friends, but most are our own friends. I have guy friends that my husband hasn't met (now, granted, I work in theatre, so most are gay, but not all.) He sometimes goes out to dinner with work friends, and since he's the music teacher at an elementary school, most of those work friends are going to be women. I don't know any of them, and that doesn't bother me. Why should it? I text a lot of my friends - sometimes important things, sometimes silly things. Again, should it matter?

I guess everyone's relationship is different. I'm turned off my jealousy more than anything else. It's the reason I dumped my boyfriend that I had before I met my husband. My first reaction to a husband from the original post, would be not to have married someone like that and if I had, take the hard road to divorce.

 

[EclecticWAHM]

I said it quite clearly that I don't consider the text itself an issue. However, I might wonder about casual texting between coworkers that implied a relationship I wasn't aware of. I honestly believe I'm aware of all my dh's relationships that are this casual and he is aware of mine.

The only person I can imagine texting back and forth without some niceties like "nice!" or "thanks" or "don't go to any trouble" would be someone who I regularly shared meals with. If I found out I had been packing lunches for my spouse but he'd never mentioned to me he sometimes eats with someone else I would be . I wouldn't be calling a private detective, but I'd definitely be asking some questions.

Do people really bother with "niceties" in texting? Seriously. To me texts are just for short, to the point messages, not for conversation. It's hard enough just getting the right letters out on those tiny keyboards without bothering with unnecessary junk like "don't go to any trouble."

I think that unless there have been other indications of a problem that the guy is totally overreacting. A few casual texts between coworkers wouldn't even be on the radar with me or my dh.

 

[Anewman]

If the wife is untrustworthy, of course the text could be a big deal.

If good old uncle bob gives your kid candy, innocent.
If the convicted pedophile from across the street gives your kid candy...

Only he knows his wife, or maybe not.