Out of control adults need to get a grip!

[bsusanmb]

Here I am in the World...in MK, having a great time...just DH and me, missing my grands and my children...and some adults just amaze me with their behavior. I heard this child about 7 screaming and crying, I'm sorry, I'm sorry and this woman as holding him by the neck walking in a fast pace yelling, "I worked two jobs to bring you here, and you don't appreciate anything!" She was going on and on about how hard she worked and she was the grandmother .... it was so embarrassing. Even if I was thinking that, I wouldn't be yelling it through the MK for all to hear. I felt sorry for the child. Then another woman was yellling at her child, who looked about 4...I brought you here to have fun and you're going to have fun if it kills me! Oh my.

Maybe it's the heat...well, it can't be the heat, it isn't all that hot...I suppose it is the exhaustion that frazzles nerves...but gosh, people, think before you lose your temper and how you make a child feel!!!

Ok, I am done now. I will get off my soap box!

 

[LuvMickey36]

My dh & I notice stuff like that when we are @ the world. It is truly a shame.

Doesn't anyone read the unofficial guide with kids anymore. I remember a particular sentence going something like this...........

Go back to your room midday & Take the nap! Take the nap! Take the nap!

We have lived by that motto since we have been taking ds. Even if a child is frightend of a ride, tired or just plain grouchy for whatever reason, that is no excuse for a grownup to EVER act that way towards a child.

BTW........ Sorry you are missing your kids & grands..... Hope you have a little fun anyway.

 

[Grendalynn]

You are very right. And its not just at WDW - too many people are airy their dirty laundry these days... DH and I pick up on it at WDW and just shake our heads - its suppoed to be the happiest place on earth!!?? Everyone should just chill and enjoy their kids - they are only little for so long. Soak it up and enjoy ithem and all their glory. You never knwo what the next day will bring.... That should go for everywhere - not just WDW?!

 

[bsusanmb]

It was just amazing that this grandmother was basically announcing to the world that she worked two jobs...ok, well, that's great, but if she was going to act out, she would have been better off just staying home. She wasn't doing her grandson a bit of good. Yes, children grow up so fast. It seems like in a blink of an eye....I just treasure every minute I spend with my grandchildren. And I am so proud of their parents...how blessed we are. Come to think of it, some people just don't appreciate the miracle children are. DD and DSIL could not conceive and they adopted the precious little blonde below when he was 13 months from Russia. I think that's why I love children so much...just knowing how very little he had and thousands of children do not have...well, enjoy your children. I am playing fairy godmother for some moms while I am here and sending post cards to their children and signing the character's name...talking about their upcoming trips...such fun!!! I don't think I will ever grow up!

 

[nonzerosum]

I think many more parents than children need time-outs. This kind of behaviour, and the public humilation that comes with it, is just gross. The poor child.

 

[badblackpug]

Playing devil's advocate, but you don't know what these kids did.........Maybe poor grandma had all she could take.........

 

[proteus]

That is like being invited to a party and listening to the host vent about how much work went into preparing for it. It is a real social faux pas. In my opinion the best hosts are those who make everything look effortless, never complain, and never ask for something from their guests.

Reminding your family (or even worse your kids) of the expense of taking a vacation is the ultimate in poor taste. It does absolutely nothing to enhance the experience and ends up making others feel guilty.

 

[RMulieri]

I agree that parents do need to chill.But as a parent I can tell you it is a STRUGGLE not to lose it sometimes .My dd knows how to push those buttons faster than any person alive.Factor in oppressive heat and humidity and a whining DD and I could see someone losing it real fast.So this trip it is going to be slow and easy pace with lots of pool time.

 

[sandybobandy]

I'm not a parent (but I like to read this particular board) and can't help but giggle when I think of one day during my trip last year we were at MK and this kid was pouting and the dad put him in a "timeout"...on a bench...facing the castle. I was thinking..."Now THAT is a sweet timeout!". lol

 

[jcc0621]

I am a parent and it amazes me how some people act. I know what we do if DS starts to get cranky, etc..we take a break. Whether it is back to the hotel for a dip in the pool or just finidng a place to sit and have a snack. That small break is just the thing to rejuvenate his (and our batteries). WHen I see people acting like the OP described my heart just breaks because in my heart I know these are the memories the child will have of Disney, not the magical memories they all deserve.

 

[Stephres]

We have been going once or twice a year since the oldest was 18 months and we have seen maybe three parades in 7 1/2 years, and one was by accident when we got stuck there and couldn't get out. We always take a rest and go back to the room after lunch. I have found that I need it just as much as the kids.

Hey Susan! How are your beautiful grandkids?

 

[maymom96]

I was one of these moms when we went to Disney. My son (who was 11 at the time) has a way of sucking the life out of a situation if he's not happy. We always say, if Nate isn't happy, no one is happy. He wasn't happy about something and started being a jerk to everyone, not listening, walking off, ect. On the mono-rail, he started playing with the panels above our heads. I told him to stop and next thing I know, he pulled a panel down. The rail was filled and everyone was looking at me. I was so embarrassed and had my fill of my son at that point. I think I did tell him he was selfish and did he not understand how much this vacation cost us.
Yes I was hot and tired. But I also had my fill of a bratty 11 year old who was trying to take the fun out of a very expensive vacation.
We ended up leaving Animal Kingdom early (like late afternoon) because of how my son was acting. I wish I could remember what set the fit off but I can't. Perhaps forgetting about the situtation is my way of healing. LOL

 

[badblackpug]

I agree that parents do need to chill.But as a parent I can tell you it is a STRUGGLE not to lose it sometimes .My dd knows how to push those buttons faster than any person alive.Factor in oppressive heat and humidity and a whining DD and I could see someone losing it real fast.So this trip it is going to be slow and easy pace with lots of pool time.

This is kinda how I felt. Think of it. It is Orlando, it is 3 degrees hotter than h*ll, it is humid as a greenhouse, and the entire population of a nation is surrounding you. ...and you are grandma, so you are a little older, a little less used to small kids and a little more tired. ...and little Billy keeps doing precisely what he is told not to do. "Billy, stop hitting your sister!" "Billy stop hitting your sister!" "Billy, stop hitting your sister!" (all the while Sister is whining "Mom! Billy hit me again!" "Mom! Make him stop!" "Billy! Stop!" (obviously, sister hitting is prevalent in my world!) Remember, you are hot and tire and this kid is old enough to know better, he just trying to get a rise out of you and Sister. You finally throw out the "Billy, if you hit your sister one more time, we are going back to the hotel, and I MEAN it!" Billy, being a kid has to test those waters, and what does he do? Hit his sister. So it is back to the room he goes. Now, Billy isn't sorry he hit his sister, but he is VERY, VERY sorry he is being punished and the rapid-fire apologzing begins "I'm sorry, I'm sorry I won't do it again! I promise!" When that plan of attack for getting out of his punishment doesn't work he digs in his heels. So you grab him by whatever (arm, scruff of neck, back of pants) to move him along. He continues the apologizing and adds blubbering in an attempt to win your sympathy. Now, you are p*ssed, because not only has Billy ruined a day which was supposed to be fun for everyone, he has cost you a lot of money, and he is making a scene. To add insult to injury people are staring and "tsk, tsking" at you like you can't control your child. I, for one, would know I would have something to say about his behavior, and the fact that he was ugrateful for this privilege that he was given. Would I be screaming it in front of everyone? I don't know, but given the circumstances, I can't rule it out!

No, seriously, kids push buttons, we all know that. ...and I know, personally, that my kids employ several techniques, depending on the child, to avoid punishment. (the oldest does the apologizing, blubbering thing, the next is a cryer, the boy does the run away with a look of fear like he is going to be keel-hauled while apologizing) We just don't know what lead up to grandma losing it. Maybe the kid WAS being an ungrateful brat, and deserved to leave?

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Playing devil's advocate, but you don't know what these kids did.........Maybe poor grandma had all she could take.........

That's what I was thinking too. Not that you should be a monster but perhaps the child was being one all morning and a nap will not fix an "entitled" child.

ETA- I wanted to add that I cannot stand when people go on about how much something cost them. I never do that to my kids. I hate that.

 

[ALittleDisneyFan]

My mother used to tell me I better smile or she was going to punch me. This in AUGUST (the hottest month in FL LOL). I remind her of that, and she does not like it!


I don't like seeing parents carry on that way. Kids get tired, the heat gets to them, let them relax! Discipline your kids in a private manner. JMO

 

[TheRatPack]

This is kinda how I felt. Think of it. It is Orlando, it is 3 degrees hotter than h*ll, it is humid as a greenhouse, and the entire population of a nation is surrounding you. ...and you are grandma, so you are a little older, a little less used to small kids and a little more tired.

I love your post.....HILARIOUS but true. I sat here shaking my head yes the whole time.....we have 5 kids (2 bio, 3 adopted, 1 with some severe issues in behavior). So yes....while I think it's wrong to embarrass your children in public, sometimes when you're just trying to have fun and the one that already has some deep issues starts their skit.....you're stuck in the public eye just trying to find the escape hatch (or the eject button LOL).

 

[badblackpug]

I love your post.....HILARIOUS but true. I sat here shaking my head yes the whole time.....we have 5 kids (2 bio, 3 adopted, 1 with some severe issues in behavior). So yes....while I think it's wrong to embarrass your children in public, sometimes when you're just trying to have fun and the one that already has some deep issues starts their skit.....you're stuck in the public eye just trying to find the escape hatch (or the eject button LOL).

Hee! Hee! Been there, done that! Aren't there times you wish there was a magical trap door that would just open and slide you down a giant chute to home?

 

[wife5080]

Sorry people but children learn from example. They also learn at an early age what they can and cannot get away with. If you tell your child several times to stop doing something, and they continue, I don't think it's entirely the kid's fault. It's the parent's fault for letting the child continue the negative behavior. IMO a child should not be told more than twice to stop doing something I do not approve of. If after the second time it continues there will be consequences.

Just my two cents worth but I am so tired of ill mannered children.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Sorry people but children learn from example. They also learn at an early age what they can and cannot get away with. If you tell your child several times to stop doing something, and they continue, I don't think it's entirely the kid's fault. It's the parent's fault for letting the child continue the negative behavior. IMO a child should not be told more than twice to stop doing something I do not approve of. If after the second time it continues there will be consequences.

Just my two cents worth but I am so tired of ill mannered children.

Perhaps this child was having his consequences?

 

[noodleknitter]

I always figure tha I am only seeing a brief snapshot of people's lives. I've never had my kids by the neck!!! but I haven't always been kind.