Our House is on the Market and I HATE IT!

[DawnCt1]

There is nothing I like about this. First of all, we haven't found a house "at the other end" that we like. Ideally a 'lateral move' would be perfect. There is no such thing moving from Northern Ct. to Eastern Massachusetts. We have accepted that if we make this move, we will have a mortgage equalled to the one we don't have anymore. It has been nice to be mortgage free. I had to pack up all of the family pictures; and declutter. I don't like a lot of clutter but creating a "bare environment" is unpleasant, particularly in the bathroom. We use that stuff.
Since we don't have a house at the other end, the sign on the front lawn is annoying. I called my neighbors before it went up but some weren't home and I didn't want to leave a message. Today, several called me. They aren't happy. I jokingly said "the devil you know, etc" but that didn't help. I have wonderful neighbors.
Thirdly, we like our house. We like our yard. We like our neighborhood. We like our town.
Lastly, Jude is sick. I have to put him in the car, drive him around and come home. That's fine, he likes the car but now he is resting and I have to vacuum. He is peeing blood this morning. It started out that way, and the less he moves, I think, the better.
Yesterday I got a call. Apparently there is a buyer who "doesn't mind a pool" but would only be interested in a vinyl liner pool because she "doesn't want to paint a gunite, plaster pool every year". The agent wanted to know how often we 'paint it'! the answer? NEVER! Where do people get these ideas?? Just venting.

 

[Handbag Lady]

So, why are you moving?

 

[DawnCt1]

So, why are you moving?

DH changed jobs and is working near Boston. A good part of that involves air travel, so his commute is limited to 10 to 12 times a month and he works from home as well.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

DH changed jobs and is working near Boston. A good part of that involves air travel, so his commute is limited to 10 to 12 times a month and he works from home as well.

We already know that. We are wondering why you finally caved to selling your house when it is pretty clear you don't want to?

 

[DawnCt1]

So, why are you moving?

We already know that. We are wondering why you finally caved to selling your house when it is pretty clear you don't want to?

I answered the question. We have a contingency clause. Unless we find something we like, we will stay here. We put the house on the market because spring is coming and we may indeed find something we like. If we find something we love, then moving will be exciting and selling won't be an pain. In the meantime, it is a "ventable" experience.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I answered the question. We have a contingency clause. Unless we find something we like, we will stay here. We put the house on the market because spring is coming and we may indeed find something we like. If we find something we love, then moving will be exciting and selling won't be an pain. In the meantime, it is a "ventable" experience.

I thought you were redoing the kitchen and staying put and your dh was going to commute? Maybe I missed a few posts?

So you are putting on the market for spring only? I can see that. It is prime time now.

I had to move 3 times in the past 2yrs so I understand the venting.

Good Luck!

 

[Tuffcookie]

I think I would have waited until Jude passed away. You have enough stress to deal with over that!



TC

 

[DawnCt1]

I thought you were redoing the kitchen and staying put and your dh was going to commute? Maybe I missed a few posts?

So you are putting on the market for spring only? I can see that. It is prime time now.

I had to move 3 times in the past 2yrs so I understand the venting.

Good Luck!

I am a "planner". I have a Plan A, B, and I haven't come up with "C" yet. Right now I am working on "Plan A". We are hoping to find something to buy in the spring market and to be able to act on that, this house needs to be on the market. Moving 3 times in 2 years is tough. We moved a lot when we were first married but only twice after we had kids. My cousin always said, "never stay too long in a house. It gets old and you get attached".

I think I would have waited until Jude passed away. You have enough stress to deal with over that!



TC

I think I am in some kind of denial over that. I still look at yards with him in mind and it isn't to be.

 

[KadysMom]

Moving sucks!! Are you looking to move to boston?

 

[Silent1CB]

If I remember correctly, you don't have all that many years until your DH retires. Why not rent out your CT house and rent in MA? Then when he retires, you can come back to the home and neighborhood you love.

Sorry about Jude also. I wondered what we would have done with elderly pet when we thought we were going to put our place on the market.

 

[DawnCt1]

If I remember correctly, you don't have all that many years until your DH retires. Why not rent out your CT house and rent in MA? Then when he retires, you can come back to the home and neighborhood you love.

Sorry about Jude also. I wondered what we would have done with elderly pet when we thought we were going to put our place on the market.

I know that time is growing short for Jude so I am putting him first. The family room isn't getting vacuumed today. I have to get him into the car in 10 minutes and that is enough inconvenience for him. I will shovel more snow over the "red" snow and that's that. I am sure all of this is coloring my perception of events. He just got up and came to give me kisses.

 

[Bren's Mom]

Have you gotten any offers? It's likely your contingency might turn off some buyers. They might be concerned that they won't make the April 30 cutoff for the tax credit, or they might just not want to fall in love with the house only to find you've decided not to move.

Regardless, sorry you're feeling so stressed about this!

 

[mamamary]

I am a "planner". I have a Plan A, B, and I haven't come up with "C" yet. Right now I am working on "Plan A". We are hoping to find something to buy in the spring market and to be able to act on that, this house needs to be on the market. Moving 3 times in 2 years is tough. We moved a lot when we were first married but only twice after we had kids. My cousin always said, "never stay too long in a house. It gets old and you get attached".



I think I am in some kind of denial over that. I still look at yards with him in mind and it isn't to be.

 

[yoopermom]

Dawn, if it's true that misery loves company, let me tell you about when we sold our house without having found a new one yet (almost 4 yrs ago now), my beloved Jilly dog was in the end stages of heart failure (on massive amounts of prednisone, so peeing constantly), we ended up moving into the IL's "summer cabin" nearby, but MIL didn't want Jilly in "her" house, so I spent the last two months of Jilly's life living with her in our motorhome parked right outside the summer cabin! DH thought I was out of my mind, but I said, "If she doesn't want my dog, she doesn't want me!"

So I think you're VERY wise to have a plan (and a back up, and a back up to the back up). Hugs to you and your pup. It's been four years, and I still expect to see Jilly wandering around the yard.



Terri

 

[Imzadi]

I wonder if the WMs will create a special circumstance and let you change your screenname to DawnMA1?

 

[puffkin]

Dawn, I totally understand! Vent away!!!!

We are in kind of a similar but different situation. We like our house/neighborhood/school district. But we have a tiny yard and only 3 bedrooms. We want 4 plus a bigger yard. Not huge, but bigger. We have been looking for 2+ years and FINALLY something perfect came along at the worst possible time for us. It is like a comedy of errors and will take a miracle (and a lot of stress) to get us in the house.

1. I have a temp job. It is supposed to go perm in 30 days but they said that 30 days ago and here I am. Temp income won't count for mortgage and won't qualify on just DH's income. I am interviewing like crazy but haven't got an offer yet. Hopefully soon....Kicker is the new house mortgage would be CHEAPER than our current mortgage.

2. Can't put an offer in on the house due to job situation but also because the seller has a very sick relative and is doing nothing to sell the house at this point. No showings, no entertaining offers etc. Just waiting. So, in that case, the delay is actually helping us a bit.

3. We will not list our house unless the seller accepts our offer. We do not want to sell if we can't go for that house. We are very picky.

4. If we list, we know we will have to underprice our house which stinks but we have already factored that in. We do not want to make any repairs to the house though to "stage" it beyond declutering. It is only 5 years old so in overall good shape. But I do like bright/bold paint. If the other house falls through, we will stay here and I like my paint! Also, the carpet in the family room needs replacing, but if we stay I am putting in bamboo floors in there. I don't want to put in a cheap carpet and then lose the other house and be stuck with that. We would rather just offer credit to the buyers.

There are just so many what ifs and we are doing everything backwards. It is so frustrating because my nature is to move forward and we can't do anything. We really love that house but we love our too. If that one fall through it could be another few years before something else comes along. Aghhhhh!!!!

Hang in there Dawn and on an aside, enjoy every precious moment with Jude!

 

[Meriweather]

I hate it too.....my house has been for sale for 22 months!!
I hate not having pictures and all my Disney things out.

We are lowering it once again And giving it until July and then figuring something else out.
We do have a new house we had built in AZ....that isn't so new anymore. It was finished 15 months ago.
We were hoping to put the equity in that house and have it paid off, but now with all the lowering, we will have to have a mortgage.

Best of luck to you.

 

[ontariomonkey]

I hated the process of selling our house. We loved the house but in order to make the geographical move that we wanted, we had to get a smaller, crappier WAY more expensive house so I feel you on that one. But what I really hated was getting the house in show-room state to for prospective buyers. Having the house be perfect on short notice etc. It is a big effort.

Good luck with your situation.

 

[Handbag Lady]

DH changed jobs and is working near Boston. A good part of that involves air travel, so his commute is limited to 10 to 12 times a month and he works from home as well.

Thanks, I didn't know that part!


I feel for you. We used to live in Marina del Rey until my husband got a job with stupid Disney all the way in Burbank. We fought for two years and I finally lost. He was SICK of the three-hour daily drive back and forth. To this day, I still don't tell people where I live unless I HAVE to tell them.

I still miss the Marina and I am going to move back someday.

 

[DawnCt1]

We are fortunate because we have a relocation package that pays for the commission, closing costs and if necessary provides a 'buy out', but I have no doubt that we would do better selling it with the agent. I think Jude's condition is affecting my attitude. Yesterday he seemed okay. Today, he seems more tired. Its hard to get excited about moving when he is so sick and I am going to lose him.