My siblings and I used to not get gifts for each other but we always bought for the nieces and nephews. There are now 15 total. I keep my gifts at an average of 25. After I remove my kids that means I have 12 to buy for which means I spend around 300. Sometimes if one of us saw something cute and little for a sibling we would pick it up, sometimes not. Several years ago we added an adult Polyanna. The limit for this is 40. If you add in birthday gifts for the nieces and nephews it gets expensive. Half of the nieces and nephews are now in college. Every year there are arguments about this whole exchange. Should the young adult children be put into the Polyanna? Cons against this are brought up such as the fact that sometimes there are adult themed joke gifts given here and the fact that these college kids are always broke. Should we stop giving gifts to the young adults? Two siblings get very upset about this because they have more young kids then older kids and they have been giving to other older kids and they think their kids will get ripped off. Every year I get stuck in the middle here as the two sides try to get me to side with them. I suggested a 13 and up Polyanna, I suggested a niece and nephew polyanna and we would draw per our number of kids and I would spend more on the gifts. (I believe the older kids would rather have one really good gift then 4 twenty buck gifts. My one sibling is really having financial stress. She can't afford to participate and really thinks it is ridiculous to be buying for so many older kids. I kind of agree with her. The problem is the two sisters won't compromise. They just say they are buying for everybody and if you don't want to do it fine. So last year there was a big fight. There was no adult polyanna, which I loved. One sibling bought a family dinner gift cert for all the other siblings and everybody else did the gifts for everybody thing. I would like to end the gifts for older kids but don't feel comfortable doing this if they are still buying for mine.
The other complication is that soon there will be engagements and weddings among the older kids. What then. I really hate confrontation, taking sides and conflict. I'm the oldest and I guess that's why they think I should solve this.
The other complication is that soon there will be engagements and weddings among the older kids. What then. I really hate confrontation, taking sides and conflict. I'm the oldest and I guess that's why they think I should solve this.