Other Mothered - Disney Edition

[FlightlessDuck]

I wonder what her DIS username is.

 

[Hikergirl]

Holy Moley that woman is a psycho. I would be glad that my child isn't allowed to come over for playdates with her son. Stay far away from that whole nonsense.

 

[Baklava]

Given the phone exchange... this was not simply a misunderstanding. She really, truly wants to force you to vacation her way or else she'll punish your child as retribution.

This is not a healthy woman. This is not a woman you want around your son. The hurt he feels short term is nothing compared to what he'll feel later on if she freaks out over something bigger.

I am so sorry for your kid and for you. I will point out, gently and with nothing but kindness, that a fair number of people would feel attacked by the quoting of a Bible verse. I'd feel judged. It may not have been how you intended it but for future interactions it is worth taking into account that many people will take it poorly. Live and learn.

 

[Neotericisis]

WOW! Landon's mom is off the deep end. You will call her crying? Your trip will be miserable? Whats your reservation #? Its laughable (not for you or your son of course).

She has been there twice, so now she is an expert?? Also, I'm sorry, but who in world wants to cook on vacation? I can see saving money on a meal or two, but I am not slaving over a stove every night, its my vacation too! (we will be staying at a Timeshare and I'm not cooking all the time!). Also, I may be wrong, but she seems to be in the minority when it comes to staying on/off property. Most of my research has pointed to people preferring to staying on property for the convenience, full experience of Disney theme, included magic bands etc. (I am off property because it is an extended family trip, the next go round I want to be at a resort on the Monorail!).

Your poor son!

 

[Carolrita]

Given the phone exchange... this was not simply a misunderstanding. She really, truly wants to force you to vacation her way or else she'll punish your child as retribution.

This is not a healthy woman. This is not a woman you want around your son. The hurt he feels short term is nothing compared to what he'll feel later on if she freaks out over something bigger.

I am so sorry for your kid and for you. I will point out, gently and with nothing but kindness, that a fair number of people would feel attacked by the quoting of a Bible verse. I'd feel judged. It may not have been how you intended it but for future interactions it is worth taking into account that many people will take it poorly. Live and learn.

I don't disagree that many would feel attacked by a bible quote. I just don't understand why. I also think many of the problems in our society are because people would rather be attacked than 'condecended to with s bible quote'.
I'm not being nasty, just something to think about. I doubt that woman would have been as offended if she was just told to shut up. For some reason, the mention of God is offensive.
I'm sad for this world.

 

[EvilQueen2018]

I don't disagree that many would feel attacked by a bible quote. I just don't understand why. I also think many of the problems in our society are because people would rather be attacked than 'condecended to with s bible quote'.
I'm not being nasty, just something to think about. I doubt that woman would have been as offended if she was just told to shut up. For some reason, the mention of God is offensive.
I'm sad for this world.

I wouldn't want someone "preaching" to me (though I don't think that is what Op did) but I also wouldn't demand someone spend their money to relive my vacation. If I did, then I would expect that person to come at me with whatever they had. At that moment, Op had a bible verse to defend herself. Good for her for not being a door mat in the first place.

BTW, I'm with you. Telling me to shut up is worse than you breaking out the religious quotes. I am not a religious person but I have no issue with those that are. The quote wouldn't faze me a bit. Those with issue should come back with "sticks and stones..." not hostility.

 

[Bluegrrl]

Ok, bible quote would irritate me, but ideally an argument wouldn't get to that point. That's a little too Sheldon's mom from Big Bang for me.

However..... You apologized beautifully, and anyone in their right mind should accept it. She, does not sound like she is in her right mind.
Offering advice on rides, eateries, activities is one thing. Telling someone to change their entire plan, then taking their res # to change is a whole other kettle of fish!! I would only let a trusted TA do that, not someone I just met by my 5yr!

Drop here, and call Disney to make sure your res are secure. Explain the situation to them, hopefully they can help you.

If you want your son to gain more friends or support, try a state or city association kids support group for his issue. He can meet lots of kids and you can met parents who are hopefully less weird.
With regards to staying off site, my mom had this to say when we stayed at Saratoga Springs: "if I wanted to make my own food on vacation, I would have gone camping." Off-site/on-site debate, if this was my first vaca to Disney, I would go onsite. So much more fun and easier for a beginner. "Dis" her and enjoy yourself. Life is too short for this crap to plague you.

 

[Baklava]

I don't disagree that many would feel attacked by a bible quote. I just don't understand why. I also think many of the problems in our society are because people would rather be attacked than 'condecended to with s bible quote'.
I'm not being nasty, just something to think about. I doubt that woman would have been as offended if she was just told to shut up. For some reason, the mention of God is offensive.
I'm sad for this world.

I am certainly not offended by God, but someone presuming to quote Him at me to win an argument is a different thing entirely.

 

[roseaster]

I don't disagree that many would feel attacked by a bible quote. I just don't understand why. I also think many of the problems in our society are because people would rather be attacked than 'condecended to with s bible quote'.
I'm not being nasty, just something to think about. I doubt that woman would have been as offended if she was just told to shut up. For some reason, the mention of God is offensive.
I'm sad for this world.

I'm not Christian.

 

[Pesky]

WOW. To start, way too pushy with the advice in the beginning. I can understand that the verse used was probably something that could easily be taken out of context or misinterpreted, so agree might not have been the best approach. Probably better to say "you have so much insight, I wished I'd talked to you sooner. We're going to try it as planned to see how it goes, to see if that 'different strokes for different folks' pans out. If not, I'll certainly be bothering you for next time." Needless to say, then there is the text exchange. With the yelling. For YOUR reservation number.



So just slowly back away from the crazy and thank your lucky stars you got out of that relationship. It is sad that she is so vindictive with her child's time but honestly, probably means this would've happened sooner or later. I'd be honest with your DS that unfortunately, his mom has said her DS can't hang out with him after school because she disagreed with how you were planning the trip. Otherwise it could lead to greater confusion on his part. BTW, I also agree with the pps that I disagree with your DH. It's not funny, it is certifiable.

 

[Vijoge]

@DisneyArie Landon's mom is nuts. Crazy. Unhinged. Run( Do not walk.) away.

 

[here757]

Just wondering if the OP managed to have a great trip without the excellent advice?

 

[DawnM]

Yes, I would love an update!

 

[ajwolfe]

Wowsers! I hope you had an excellent trip and would love to hear the update. I'm crossing my fingers you did not let this crazy person back in your life. I can only imagine if she would act like that about vacation she would act like that about a lot of other things.

 

[bookgirl]

Just wondering if the OP managed to have a great trip without the excellent advice?

Click on her name she posted in another thred that they had a great time.

 

[here757]

Got the message.. limits the number of views
But thanks anyhow! As long as they had fun