OT- uncalled for facebook comment

[Dimples1973ca]

I don't know about you folks but I post an occasional update about our upcoming Disney. Vacation.
Well, today I posted a status about my daughter and niece watching Disney movies in our van during our 4 hour drive to visit my mom.
A "friend" posted what I feel was a nasty comment. She said "Dislike...I am sick of your updates about all of your trips your planning. You are just bragging."

I can assure you that bragging is not and never was my intention. I update my status about twice a week and it isn't always about about vacation.

Do any of you have that kind of experience. Sorry but I needed to vent.

Thanks for listening.

 

[mamaCta]

She's bitter and not much of a friend if she isn't happy for your happiness.

 

[mkygrl]

It's about her not you... If she doesn't like your post she doesn't have to read them. Don't lose or hide your Disney excitement!

 

[Disneylover99]

Simple... "unfriend" her!

 

[Tortuga Rob]

She's bitter and not much of a friend if she isn't happy for your happiness.

I totally agree! Be proud of your trips!

 

[elaine amj]

Ugh. Mostly the only times I post on FB is abt my vacations as I post on FB only once every other week or so.

What a dreadful comment. My niece got a nasty comment once too
..someone complained that she posted abt too many little things abt her kids. I thought that was dumb...isn't that what FB is for?

 

[sherilaine]

There are a lot of people who can not afford to take a vacation or have the patience to plan one - I think FB is a place where many of us can share information with our family and friends but it's like Christmas and Valentines day to many, it just makes them see what they are missing.

I think this was a nasty comment but I'd much rather be on the receiving end of it than the place this woman must be to say such a thing.

 

[dennise]

I like reading other peoples trip reports. Sometime you find something that you didn't know about that is worth trying. Lots of good info.

 

[jennyjinx3]

DH and I don't have FB, but we have also received the snippy, bitter (ish) comments from friends and even family. We choose to ignore it, but it does make you feel offended. For us we would never dream of making remarks like that to someone, we are generally happy for others when something good is happening to them. Sadly not all people are like that.

Don't worry, we share in your excitement!

 

[mytymom79]

It drives me insane too ! I hear people say stuff like that to me all the time. Oh your planning another disney trip or your going back again. Really I do not intend my updates or countdowns to be offensive but some people are just jealous.

I would ignore them, just jealous they can not do something like this. As for not being able to afford it....thats another story.

Anybody can save a little bit just will take you longer. It took me 18 months to save to come back. But I am a single mother with 2 boys and I save and we have been now to both DisneyWorld and DisneyLand. You learn to save, and cut corners. I do not get the dinning plan because it is not worth it for us the way my kids snack and eat. We are just as happy sharing something and having a few healthy snacks.

I would just ignore it ! Do not loose your Disney Magic for nobody !!!

 

[alc571]

Simple... "unfriend" her!

I kind of agree! She's just jealous, and there's no need to poo-poo your Disney party!!

I would totally unfriend her!

 

[Bertie9396]

This person is jealous. Plain and simple.

Last year, we went away to Cuba. I was soooo excited - I hadn't been outside of Canada or the U.S.A. or at an all-inclusive since our honeymoon in 1999. It was also our first time taking our DD to something like that. Anyway, I am a facebook addict and I am known for my countdowns. If I'm excited about something - anything - I have a countdown. Right now, my countdown is about going back to work after my broken ankle - 17 days to go! I don't care if some people find it annoying. People don't have to have to read my posts.

Anyway, this one so-called friend first started commenting that she couldn't believe we were leaving our DD to go away and "just get drunk and act stupid." Clued her in that DD was indeed going with us. I got drunk and acted stupid when I was in Las Vegas and look forward to do it again sometime Then she started with "I can't believe you are pulling her out of school, she's going to freak out at the airport and on the plane". Clued her in again that DD has been on a plane before (when she was 5 and she was fantastic), and told her quite frankly that our decision to take our daughter out of school was our decision and none of her concern. Then she started again about how horrible Cuba is, how the food will be crap. On and on. Basically, anything negative she could think of. At first she started posting these comments to my wall. Then she started messaging me these lectures. I finally got mad - really mad and blocked her from my facebook. But because I can be very passive aggressive, I unblocked her from my facebook when we got back and tagged her in a few pictures of our wonderful vacation. LOL

She has since admitted to me that she is jealous of all the wonderful family time we get to have with our daughter. Well yeah. We work hard and like to enjoy the little time we do get together.

Don't let someone else's negativity get you down. Your real friends will be excited for you. I'm always excited to hear about other people's adventures. Sure, I get jealous sometimes - especially right now when I'm pretty much stuck inside the house - but I would never try to bring someone else down.

Happy planning and safe travels!

 

[alc571]

But because I can be very passive aggressive, I unblocked her from my facebook when we got back and tagged her in a few pictures of our wonderful vacation. LOL

OMG, that's awesome! lol

 

[Bertie9396]

OMG, that's awesome! lol

I thought so. Both my hubby and best friend dared me to. I can't say no to a dare.

 

[damo]

Correct her grammar....maybe she'll quit posting. She doesn't know the difference between your and you're.

 

[M2B]

Tell her to block you for a while, then so she doesn't have to see your updates. Or, isn't there a way to decide who sees what? Remove her ability to see those updates.

I have some family who would be snarky too. I've tried to refrain from many comments or updates but it's getting tough to do.

 

[4orm]

Bitter, petty and she didn't even use the correct 'you're'.
Don't let her ruin your fun. She could always opt to not see your updates in her feed if it bothered her so much but instead she had to be rude. Not worth it.

 

[WishingMom]

It's just jealously! People just cannot be happy for others!

 

[Dimples1973ca]

Thanks for the support. I was so fuming mad when I initially read it. I still had about a two hour drive to go and it gave me some clarity. I was going to write some scathing remark but I didn't have to. A few of my true friends, jumped to my defence. One said that the point of Facebook is to share with friends and if posts were of no interest, then simply don't follow them. Plain and simple. One came out and said, jealousy. In the end, the person who accused me of bragging, unfriended me and I didn't reply or post anything. I stand by the old saying " If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all".

One other sticky development is that this "unfriend", is really close friends with my sister in law. Go figure.

Thanks again. I am still doing my Disney happy dance.

 

[lilsk8nmac]

Call her out on her bitterness then place her on your "restricted" list on FB. Then she wont see your posts.

I would never stop posting about something I want to talk about and makes me happy on MY fb. You shouldnt have to change for her.