OT-so depressed I don't want to plan

[Ashlander]

pakhowe-I work with some kids in schools but not as a teacher. I have clearances and CPR and everything like that, in addition to a college degree but at this point I am just hoping to find any kids to watch, I'm not picky on when.
princessmom29-I LOLed at your post. My little darling apparently just likes to get up every two hours. I have not done any kind of sleep training (except for like 1/2 night of No Cry Sleep Solution). There never seems to be a really good time for DH to be woken up (he doesn't wake up when she wakes up now but would if I let her CIO). She's a really happy easy baby as is but since she's turned one, I am putting some serious consideration into Ferber or at least trying to night wean.

I am laughing inside because I do this to my husband now. I "never wake up". Hello - I'm a mother - of course I'm awake. I just choose after so many years of getting up that it is now his turn. I know it is selfish...but the kids don't get up very often and if they are sick or they truly need a mother's touch, then I definitely get up. I just really have a hard time falling back asleep if I get out of bed.

I hate to judge you or your husband since I do not know either of you, but it seems like your husband is selfish. It seems like he decides what he is willing to do and you have to deal with it. My husband would be thrilled if I could stay at home...but it is not an option in our situation. We talked about him staying home, but not our kids are of the age where they are in school or preschool. From what you have said, we would have serious issues in our marriage if my husband acted like yours. However, I know what works for me does not work for everyone and we all ignore some imperfections in our hubbys because we love them.

 

[emh1129]

Did you say that your 12 month old does not sleep mre than 2 hours at a time??? If you don't mind my asking, is there some kind of medical condition underlying this?? If not have you tried sleep training at all? I cannot imagine getting up every 2 hours with a 1 year old. Sleep trainig was the best thing I ever did for peace and sanity in my household. Everyone was miserable when my DD was still not sleeping all night at 6 months. Once we taught her to put herself to sleep both at bedtime and when she worke n the night everyone was much more wel rested and happy. I know that a lot of people thing it is cruel, but my DD was a much happier baby after we did it b/c she was getting all the rest she needed.

My dd did this at 12 months, too. There was no strange medical underlying condition & it never even crossed my mind to "sleep train" her. It was just a phase and she has since outgrown it. At 15 months now, she's sleeping through the night.
It's really not unusual at all for babies that age to go through that- they are going through a lot of changes at that age & often just need the comfort/security to know mama/daddy is there.

 

[emh1129]

OP- I hope it all works out for you. I know how much it means to you to stay home with your baby- it sounds like the sitting might be a good option.
Good luck!

 

[Nina1]

Pay no mind those who judge or criticize you and focus instead on the constructive ideas and good thoughts that have been posted here. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find a solution that will make you and your family happy and content.

 

[disykat]

As for the vacation planning - if I didn't want to do it I just don't think I would. If your dh is the one who wants the vacation, can't he take the lead on the planning?

 

[spare+a_pair]

Try looking into see if Churches in your area need Nursery workers.

When my twins were 11 months old, I needed a low maintanace job that brought in a little extra money. I applies at a church and was hired as a nursery worker. I worked Sunday evenings and Wednesday evnings in the beginning. I loved kids, it was easy work, it got me out of the house a few hours, and I made a few hundred dollars a month.

I have been there for 3 years and have been promoted over time. The twins are 4.5 and I am the Nursery Coordinator and also an Asst Director of Children's Ministries.