Thank you all! Especially Pbharris4 and LakeAriel, your stories give me so much hope. I never got down on my knees and prayed that my DH had cancer, but the other night, I prayed he had lymphoma over pancreatic adenoCA.
My in-laws are coming tommorrow (they just found out yesterday) with my 2 BILs who went to tell them personally. One BIL is a pHD physiologist and wants to come to Boston with us. It'll be nice to have an extra pair of shoulders there. I'm a CRNA in western Mass, so having at least some ties to the medical community helps. Our family and friends have been wonderful. Needlesstosay, there's been lots of soup dropped off in my fridge (LOL!). Lots of offers to help around the farm (we have horses...DH is a blacksmith), offers for rides, babysitting, shopping, you name it. I must say, when something this cr***y happens it really brings out the best in folks.
I'm still undecided as to what we'll do with the ressie in Sept. Obviously, we're not going, but 2 of my aunts were joining us. I want them to go anyway (they don't want to). They offered to go and take our kids. I think my 7 yr old would stay, but my 5 yr old won't even stay overnight yet with out me. I may suggest that they go even for just a few days. I'd like to take the remaining pts and put them in holding for now. We have until Feb 1, 06 to use them. We'll have a little clearer picture after Tuesday I hope, but I thought maybe we could take the kids and scoot down for just a couple of days if he's feeeling up to it around the holidays. He was very amenable to that, too!
For now, the waiting has just been the hardest part. That and being able to give my kids just "so much" info that they need to know. My 7 yr old is very bright. She 's not the kind of kid that you can talk around and not expect her to pick up on everything. She's been spending an awful lot of time snuggled in close to her Daddy.
Please keep your prayers coming. Everyone tells us that the majority of theis fight is in your head...and DH has his battle armour on. He's so amazing ready to take anything they send at him. He told me last night that he's not worried for himself...just about me and the kids. If anyone can get through this, I know he can. Much Love to all of you! Kristie