OT: pitiful, need support

[shaylyn]

Thanks again, my third child is older he is 21 works full time has a girl friend and and is very busy. I will try a new church soon. Are there singles travel clubs? Went to Disney with the kids for many years, I am really missing it. Really thought I had two more graduation trips to go...... Ugh....I don't wallow long but tonight feeling so discouraged.

How about going on one of the women only trips to Disneyland that are planned on the DIS boards?

 

[irishsharon]

 

[nunzia]

Thanks guys...will find time to volunteer when mom is a bit more stable. I used to volunteer at church all the time. We were very involved with our local church until my children made choices then they kicked us out. " needed to purify the church" and " think of church reputation" haven't been back to a church since. We live in a small town and most of the churches hold joint activities with the one we attended for years being the big one. Wow.....when you write it all down sound so unbelievable. It really is true......

Wow..I work at a church and that is just unacceptable..I'd find a way to find a church that is supportive. Shame on the church you were at.

 

[hsmamato2]

what others have said.... but I want to add....this part of your life sounds really rough,but it's just part of it. It won't last forever,and things DO change. Take some time for yourself,and maybe find a group for family of addicts,someone to talk to who understands......

 

[bedogged]

I know this isn't the place but this is where I spend my time. I have lost everything in the last year and a half. Feeling so low and don't know where to turn. My kids 2 of 3 (16 and 18) ran away last year to do drugs when I wouldn't allow it. Then just when my grief was stabilizing from that My mom had a major heart attack and had quint bypass valve replacement and a whole in her heart replaced. Spent 23 days in the hospital. While she was in the hospital my best friend and total support died. I have spent so much time in the last years being a single mom, daughter of a single needy mom and best friend that I now find myself with no one. So tired and desperate for rest and spread so thin.....and mom who is still recovering so demanding and thinks my grief is an insult to her. Ugh.....it has been 45 days since I had any time to myself even to shower regularly or sleep in my own bed, and she thinks it is that I am mad at her. Ugh........anyway really want to go on vacation but have NO ONE. And I really am a people person been so caught up in helping everyone else. Where at forty four do you find friends? Help......so scared.....this can't be the rest of my life.

Thanks for listening.

I am sending you only good thoughts, but I really believe that you should see your doctor as soon as possible! Repeat to him exactly what you have told us. I am not a physician, but in my layman's mind, it seems to me that you may be clinically depressed. It is possible that he may prescribe an antidepressant for you. Sometimes medication can help a person begin to rebuild their life. It is possible that a professional counselor might be of help as well. Let us know how things go for you.

 

[littlebit0863]

I'm sorry you are going through this. It seems like church isn't an option for you. (unless you drive to a nearby town?) If you are in a small town I'm assuming there is no events and adventures. (club for singles who show up to meet people, not just romantically.) Is there anyway you could hire someone to care for your mom? Maybe just a few hours a day. I think a great way to meet friends is through work. Maybe you could get a part time job, just enough to have time to yourself. I know it seems like MORE work would be stupid, but it can be really fun sometimes.

 

[mistysue]

You could look into whether you have local chapters of red hat or pink hat (younger) ladies! It sounds so cheesy and cliche, but the red had ladies I've met around me always seem to be having so much fun! I'm 31 and sometimes I envy their social lives a bit.

 

[hugabearjo]

Thanks guys again. Some great suggestions....I do work full time as a psych nurse. Thank goodness for FMLA that has allowed me to cut to part time although at some point my PTO will run out......thought you had to be 50 for red hatters that sounds like fun. Will check it out

 

[Amii]

Hugabearjoe,

I sent you a PM. I understand what you are going through. If you ever want anyone to talk to let me know. I hope things get better soon. Take care. ((hugs))))

 

[littlebit0863]

Thanks guys again. Some great suggestions....I do work full time as a psych nurse. Thank goodness for FMLA that has allowed me to cut to part time although at some point my PTO will run out......thought you had to be 50 for red hatters that sounds like fun. Will check it out

Maybe you could suggest to your coworkers that you all go out for a drink or lunch? Or if you think it will be awkward, next time you are all discussing a movie or play, suggest you all go together.

 

[lakelandgal70]

First off I am very sorry for your loss and for everything that has happened to you. I agree with other PP you need time for yourself. Is there anyone that can look after your mom so you can get away for a week or even a weekend? Go to the beach or mountains or wherever you find the most peace. You definitely need time away to process and heal. You would be amazed how a change of scenery sometimes puts things into perspective.

 

[DisneyMomma81]

Bless you I agree with the poster who mentioned the DLR Girls Only Trip late Feb-early Mar 2013, they're a fun group of ladies - check out their thread