OT: Found my stepdaughter's myspace page

[Disneymucks]

I was thinking that to. Any kid that knows enough about myspace would totally create another account and not tell you. When my 10 year old daughter gets on the computer, I load every site for her and she stays in the room with me at all times. I would never let my child that young be alone on the computer, even if they "gave me" the account, and password. Kids are smart about computers now a days, smarter than most of us as parents. Good Luck OP,

 

[GothTink]

My DS (14) has had a MySpace profle for almost a year. It's private and I set the password, so I know what it is. It's his only profile, as DS is very much rule-bound (he has Asperger's, so he adores rules and folows them to the letter of his own accord). Whenever he receives Friend Requests, he tells me and we talk about who to add and who not to. He's been well educated about the dangers of giving out too much info to people you don't see face to face on a daily basis, and isn't allowed in chat rooms (and can only IM with his friends from school, whom I know personally). The computer is in a central location in the house and he's never alone when online. It's just not safe. AS for my DD (7), she plays games on sites like Nick.com, but isn't allowed in any kind of chat room, and cannot have a MySace page until she's much older, and has proven herself to be trustworthy.

Let us know how it goes!

 

[ilovejack02]

From one stepmom to another you need to get DAd to handle this so you dont become the evil stepmom.. It needs to be addressed and needs to addressed quickly.

 

[Vickibean]

Update:

Dad definitely handled it with X-wife. She grounded DSD. But, if she's good, she'll let her go to her friend's on Saturday. DH may insist that she spends the weekend here. Who knows how that will go over, but there may be a custody fight soon.

Myspace parental help is non-existent. I sent a request 48 hours ago to find out what was on the private page and I have heard nothing. I sent another request yesterday to have all 3 pages removed and still, nothing.

Supposedly, DSD requested to have them removed, but it takes 48 hours.

 

[Atotty]

I contacted MySpace several months ago to get my teen's page removed that she posted without permission. Never have heard back. I don't feel they are parent friendly. I guess they're defense would be "we don't know if you're really her parent or someone else just trying to get rid of the page".

 

[twob4him]

For my household the simple solution is this...no Myspace at all. My DD is almost 10 and the issue isnt even on the table. If she needs computer access, I sit next to her. Usually this is for school stuff. She occassionally plays online games but only uses Disney or Nick sites. Our computer is in the great room (family room) for all to see.

 

[odc146]

My son is 14 and I told him I would only allow a myspace page if he added me as a "friend". I just created and account that is basically empty, just my user name and him as a friend so that I can go in and look at his info that he and his friends post. I agree you and your husband should present a united front when talking to her about it also with the mother if that is doable for your situation. I saw a news story about a young girl who gave out too much info over the internet and they male she was talking too ended up finding out where she lived and showed up at her door step. The parents were home and it turned out it was the police showing the dangers of the internet and how easily it would be for a predator to locate a child. If the mother isn't receptive just to the inappropriatness of the myspace page, then maybe try the other route of the danger factor that her daughter could be the target of a sexual predator who surfs the web looking for victims.