OT - DD got a timeout (for kissing a boy)

[tmarquez]

Calling all Moms...help please?

My DD (4.5) came home from school yesterday and told me she got a timeout. I asked her what she did. She said she "kissed Mason". Um...ok. She talks alot about this boy in class, Mason. I asked her where she kissed Mason...it was on the cheek. I asked her if she was going to kiss Mason anymore since she got a timeout. She giggled and told me that she would kiss him again...even if she gets another timeout because Mason is going to marry her! She said that Mason told her that he had a dream and they got married.

I asked her what people do when they get married. She said they get all dressed up and dance around. Too many Disney movies?

I know times have changed, but she's only 4...and seems to be boy crazy. Is this normal or do I have a problem on my hands?

 

[DVCLiz]

Probably very normal - unless Mason comes over later today and asks to speak to your husband!!!!

Tell her you hope she follows the teacher's rules, and then let the teacher put some in place. You'll here if it gets any worse!!!!

Nice choice, btw - my dad's name was Mason!!

 

[QueenGoblin]

Yeah I think you are definately in the range of "normal" here. One of my DD's friends is close friends with a boy and she refers to him as her "boyfriend" and talks about them getting married, etc. They are all 4. I think it is just another example of pretend and role playing. I'm kind of surprised your DD got a time out for a kiss on the cheek, unless Mason objected? The kids at my DD's school are always hugging and holding hands, etc.

 

[all4fun]

Probably very normal - unless Mason comes over later today and asks to speak to your husband!!!!

LOL very funny.

I have a 4yr old and I think this sounds in the range of "normal" behavior (jmho). Look at it this way: It's better than hearing about her getting put in time out for hitting.

 

[jenrein]

I shouldnt tell you then that my 6 yr old had her friends help her chase down her crush to kiss him on the playground

 

[tmarquez]

Thanks you guys...you've eased my mind! I grew up around all boys and I don't remember chasing down boys until like 3rd or 4th grade.

I'm kind of surprised your DD got a time out for a kiss on the cheek, unless Mason objected?

I guess what happened is that when she kissed him...he started acted all silly, runnng around the room...they disrupted the class...which was the true reason for the timeout.

I also found a site drspock.com that had a blurb about this issue. I didn't spend a ton of time on the site, but what I did see was pretty good. Lots of Q & A about behavior and health etc. Good reading for people like me with only 1 kid and are always wondering what's "normal".

Anyway...thanks again!

 

[mitushib]

Wheni go to pick my DS4 from preschool there is a whole hug and kiss marathon before he leaves. all the girls come by one by on give him a hug and a kiss. Unless ur future SIL Mason cried due to the kiss ask the teacher why there was a timeout?

 

[mitushib]

when she kissed him...he started acted all silly,

sounds prefect for ur DD.

 

[lg3]

Thanks you guys...you've eased my mind! I grew up around all boys and I don't remember chasing down boys until like 3rd or 4th grade.



I guess what happened is that when she kissed him...he started acted all silly, runnng around the room...they disrupted the class...which was the true reason for the timeout.

I also found a site drspock.com that had a blurb about this issue. I didn't spend a ton of time on the site, but what I did see was pretty good. Lots of Q & A about behavior and health etc. Good reading for people like me with only 1 kid and are always wondering what's "normal".

Anyway...thanks again!

Another parent w/only one kid - a 4 yr old girl also! I am a room mom at DD's PS, and really have come to realize it is very normal behavior. As long as it is kept to the cheek. I do understand the time out because of disrupting the class. I'll have to check out that web site.

 

[lulugirl]

I absolutely think this is normal behavior for this age.
I also think it is a good opportunity to teach our children boundaries and respect for others personal space.
When Dd was in preschool there was a child (another girl) who would NOT leave Dd alone. This girl was constantly kissing and hugging her, she seemed to want constant physical contact w/ my Dd. It annoyed the crap out of her and unfortunately the other Mom thought it was just adorable. I told DD to politely ask the girl to stop touching her, it didn't work and the Mom just kept remarking how cute it was
This girl is an extreme example but my point is just that some kids are truly uncomfortable w/ that kind of attention.

 

[mcraft17]

It is normal, when my dd was 4 there was a boy who she was friends with and she would go around telling everyone that they were going to get married and have puppies.

 

[*KeepMovingForward*]

I think it's totally normal behavior too. Like PP said...I too remember chasing around little boys when I was that age and trying to kiss them. I wouldn't be worried at all. I'm sure the time out had more to do with the disruption and not the kiss.

Gotta love the kids...too cute!

 

[Beth E. (NJ)]

My daughter was in preschool (in the 3's) but at the end of the school year. I was visiting the class because she was student of the week. We were doing some type of "cooking" working with cookie dough and in the middle of it my daughter leaned over and kissed the cheek of the boy sitting next to her.

I had often heard his name at home and knew he was her "boyfriend." I just told her that it wasn't appropriate behavior for school.

 

[wilma-bride]

Totally normal

My son, who is also 4, tells me all the time about the children he will have 'when I'm a Daddy' - 2 kids, a boy and a girl named Matthew and Josephine. Matthew and Josephine's Mummy isn't going to live with them, though - she's just going to come round on Christmas and make dinner There is so much more - he has his whole life mapped out. It's worth mentioning, by the way, that me and DH are very happily married so I can't understand for one minute why the thing about him not living with the mother of his children but, hey, he's a kid - I sure hope he's gonna grow out of it.

So, anyway, we've established your DD is normal - having read back what I just wrote, I'm wondering now about my DS

 

[kelma]

Both of my kids are very physically affectionate. Last year when my son was 5, we had a rule that kisses were only for mommy and daddy and that hugs were OK for friends as long as that friend wanted a hug. His definitely weren't gender specific and this year all girls have cooties so no worries here

 

[jcc0621]

My DS 3.5 got married at school last month. The littel girl in his class told DH all about it when he picked him up after work. Me and Ds are getting married tommorw and then he can come to my house and we can watch movies and make popcorn and go to the playground. I have a daughter-in-law

 

[bzzymom]

How funny! I had a similar experiance. DS was 5 and was in Kindergarten and sat next to a girl named Emily. I know her mom well, she works at the hospital I do. One evening during his bath, DS told me that he and Emily were going to get married on Saturday and that he wanted to invite me

The next time I saw her mom, I told her what DS said. We joked around about getting the round smukers PB&J sandwiches and goldfish for the reception

 

[fan_of_small_world]

It's very normal. DD was a flower girl two years ago, and ever since the whole "getting married" thing comes up in playtime on a regular basis. It's just role playing, just as when she plays mommy to her baby dolls.

Her best friend is a little boy who is very affectionate (he totally reminds me of my DS) and they are always hugging. His mom and I, though, have told them that hugging is OK, but kissing is for family only. It just seems like a good way to handle it, for both of us.

There is one girl in their pre-k class who is more into the "boys" thing, but she has a much older sister, so I think that's where it comes from.

 

[jcc0621]

How funny! I had a similar experiance. DS was 5 and was in Kindergarten and sat next to a girl named Emily. I know her mom well, she works at the hospital I do. One evening during his bath, DS told me that he and Emily were going to get married on Saturday and that he wanted to invite me

The next time I saw her mom, I told her what DS said. We joked around about getting the round smukers PB&J sandwiches and goldfish for the reception

My DIL's name is Emily too....Must be that name

 

[reginaastralis]

Haha ... how cute!

My dd is in "love" with a little boy named Zachary. The funny thing is she went on and on and on about a little one named Alden, and I thought Alden was a boy .. turns out Alden is a girl and her and Juliette are together always. They give eachother hugs whenever one of them comes into the room. Zachary asks Juliette to sit next to him at snack ... he says "Julie, come sit by me my Julie". Too cute!

Juliette only has one man on her mind though, Prince Charming. She asked me if Zachary was a prince .... I told her to ask his mommy. We met Prince Charming at the P&P Party, and all she'll talk about is how "charming" Prince Charming is ... and that he's really cute. I'm ok with her liking Charming ... but maybe he needs to stand his ground to this Zachary kid.

Gotta love this ... I can't wait until she's four. I know she'll be trying to kiss him with my luck.