Hi everyone,
I was wondering how I should handle this. My DD (9) was riding home on the school bus yesterday, when a little boy in her class started calling her "fatty" and another girl joined in calling her "fatso". Which, is puzzling also because she is 4'7" and weighs 67 lbs, (but even if she weighed 100lbs, it would still be out of line). So, my dd told these kids to stop and the girl slapped her in the face and the boy punched her repeatedly at the top of her forehead, just above her hairline. I called the parent of the little girl sitting next to my dd on the bus, and their daughter told them the same thing, that it was completely unprovoked.
Anyways, she gets off the bus, and the bus driver didn't say one word to my husband about the incident, just waved to him. (My dd did tell the bus driver and all she did was told my DD that she was assigning seats on Monday). My DD was in tears because this kid hit her so hard. So, she told my husband, who immediately called the school and the bus depot, but since it was a Friday afternoon, no-one answered at the school. Fast forward a 1/2 hour when my daughter starts vomiting profusely, every 1/2 hour. So we took her to the urgent care at 7:00 and they told us to go directly to the ER for a CT scan b/c it sounded like a closed head injury. After 3 hours in the ER, talking to social workers, police, etc. about the incident, the CT came back ok, and we went home.
So, obviously we are furious about the entire situation. We have to go to the school first thing Monday morning to report this incident to the principal. My husband wants the bus driver fired (this isn't the first time she has messed up, when my DD was in 1st grade, she "forgot" her on the bus because dd fell asleep, and didn't realize it until a 1/2 hour later when they got to the bus garage, meanwhile DH was in a panic calling the school, etc.). I think the little boy should face some serious consequences, including suspension from riding the bus and perhaps from school as well. We did not press charges as of last night b/c I thought it would be better to talk to the parents first. The little girl that was in on it, she also should have to face some sort of consequences as well, I just don't know what.
Then there is the matter of that this little boy quite possibly cost my family up to $1000, which is my insurance deductible. Is it out of line to expect his family to pay that? I looked up the cost of CT scans online, and the scan is $200-$400 alone, let alone my ER visit. Its not that I can't afford it, but their child assuaulted mine for no reason, I think they should have to pay.
Anyways, like I said, she's ok, and that's all that matters, but I really dread going into that school on Monday :-(. I think we are handling it the right way, I just hope the school handles it appropriately.
Michelle
I was wondering how I should handle this. My DD (9) was riding home on the school bus yesterday, when a little boy in her class started calling her "fatty" and another girl joined in calling her "fatso". Which, is puzzling also because she is 4'7" and weighs 67 lbs, (but even if she weighed 100lbs, it would still be out of line). So, my dd told these kids to stop and the girl slapped her in the face and the boy punched her repeatedly at the top of her forehead, just above her hairline. I called the parent of the little girl sitting next to my dd on the bus, and their daughter told them the same thing, that it was completely unprovoked.
Anyways, she gets off the bus, and the bus driver didn't say one word to my husband about the incident, just waved to him. (My dd did tell the bus driver and all she did was told my DD that she was assigning seats on Monday). My DD was in tears because this kid hit her so hard. So, she told my husband, who immediately called the school and the bus depot, but since it was a Friday afternoon, no-one answered at the school. Fast forward a 1/2 hour when my daughter starts vomiting profusely, every 1/2 hour. So we took her to the urgent care at 7:00 and they told us to go directly to the ER for a CT scan b/c it sounded like a closed head injury. After 3 hours in the ER, talking to social workers, police, etc. about the incident, the CT came back ok, and we went home.
So, obviously we are furious about the entire situation. We have to go to the school first thing Monday morning to report this incident to the principal. My husband wants the bus driver fired (this isn't the first time she has messed up, when my DD was in 1st grade, she "forgot" her on the bus because dd fell asleep, and didn't realize it until a 1/2 hour later when they got to the bus garage, meanwhile DH was in a panic calling the school, etc.). I think the little boy should face some serious consequences, including suspension from riding the bus and perhaps from school as well. We did not press charges as of last night b/c I thought it would be better to talk to the parents first. The little girl that was in on it, she also should have to face some sort of consequences as well, I just don't know what.
Then there is the matter of that this little boy quite possibly cost my family up to $1000, which is my insurance deductible. Is it out of line to expect his family to pay that? I looked up the cost of CT scans online, and the scan is $200-$400 alone, let alone my ER visit. Its not that I can't afford it, but their child assuaulted mine for no reason, I think they should have to pay.
Anyways, like I said, she's ok, and that's all that matters, but I really dread going into that school on Monday :-(. I think we are handling it the right way, I just hope the school handles it appropriately.
Michelle
and hope she feels better! When my DD (now 18) was in middle school she was assaulted on the bus(a rock was thrown at her and hit her eye) and then beat up at the bus stop. The school refused to do anything!! They claimed bus stop problems aren't theirs. We had much more success dealing with the police. They notified the girl and her parents telling them if there were any other issues their daughter would wind up in juvie. That girl never bothered my daughter for the rest of their school years. My advice is let the police do whatever they can considering the ages of the children. My heart goes out to you,I know how painful it is to see your child hurt!
