OT: Christmas blues

[daleswife]

So I have NOT been in the "Christmas" spirit lately. Actually I haven't been in the spirit at all. I just cant get into Christmas this year. I just really dont care and I cant wait until its over. Maybe because I havent had time to do anything and our finances are horrid and we still havent bought the things the kiddos wanted and DH's next pay check isnt until Dec 23rd. I think Im in some kind of slump. I dont even get to rest after Christmas. Ive been booked up since November 15th. Every saturday since then has been taken and through the week I have had to do things to get ready for the weekends (i cater and bake). Now this weekend is my DH Christmas party for work that we have to go to. then after Christmas Im going to TN to my parents.....Maybe new years weekend I'll acutally get a break...... Sorry just wanted to get that off my chest.....

 

[RMulieri]

Sorry you are "blue".It is quite normal this time of year, and worse than normal this year for many of us.I don't have money troubles(yet) or fear of losing my job(yet), but I am totally not into it this year.In fact I was saying to Dh I can't wait till its all over( and that is not like me at all).So I can sympathize

 

[tinkerlisa]

I have been bummed too so you're not alone. We just lost my hubby's mom November 17th and then my grandmother passed away a week later on the
24th. We were even going to have a Christmas Party for hubby's side of the family but financially we decided to cancel it. To top it off, my step daughter has decided that she wants nothing to do with us anymore and has caused all kinds of conflict in the family.
Normally I love this time of year but it has been a rough year for us. I don't even want to bake or do any crafts.
I try to stay positive for my kids. I get my older son excited by tellling him that Daddy has Christmas off this year. It will be the first time in 5 years he has been able to spend it with us. I am happy about that but at the same time I think what is going to go wrong next? I just wish this year was over...

 

[CLEVERGIRL]

I don't know if you believe in Christ or not but if you do try shutting off all distractions and open your bible to Luke 2: 10-20. I pray that you will have renewed joy and Christmas spirit. Be encouraged! God is still on the throne and cares and is concerned about you! I encourage any who read this to read these scriptures and be revitalized with new joy! Merry Christmas and God Bless.

 

[lcrane]

We have not had Christmas for the last 2 years have not even put up the tree, there are no present for anyone and it is to despressing to look at the tree with no present underneath. My husband is disable and has not been able to work for the last 2 years (kidney failure is on dialysis needs a transplant, CHF) I have breast cancer DCIS went throu mastectamy and reconsturction this year. My kids are teenager they understand it is harder for me then anyone, I work 2 jobs just to make ends meet we do get SSD, but it does not pay much he worked for one company for 20 some years and are SSD is not even half of what he was making so everythings goes for bills.

But I have my husband and 2 kids and really all we want for Christmas this year is the same as last year a Kidney Transplant for Les This will be his second one the first one we got the day after Thanksgiving and it lasted for 22 years, he was on the list for only 11 months (he was 22 when he got his first kidney) they say the second one is harder to get it has been 2 years this time around. (on List).

Merry Chirstimas everyone enjoy your family give them a hug and kiss everyone morning and night, this is what will see you throu. What does not break me will only make me stronger I say this everytime something happens, it has not let me down yet.

 

[CLEVERGIRL]

Merry Chirstimas everyone enjoy your family give them a hug and kiss everyone morning and night, this is what will see you throu. What does not break me will only make me stronger I say this everytime something happens, it has not let me down yet.

I agree wholeheartedly! I am adding your family to my prayerlist. Keep the faith and God Bless.

 

[daleswife]

I don't know if you believe in Christ or not but if you do try shutting off all distractions and open your bible to Luke 2: 10-20. I pray that you will have renewed joy and Christmas spirit. Be encouraged! God is still on the throne and cares and is concerned about you! I encourage any who read this to read these scriptures and be revitalized with new joy! Merry Christmas and God Bless.

I am a CHRISTian. I have read Luke 2 many many times. I can repeat it by memory. but this year its just not the same. I try to enjoy myself for the sake of my kids, but I just cant get into it. I know the real reason for Christmas and I am thankful for Jesus but the rest of the hype is just blah to me. I am usually telling everyone I see Merry Christmas. This year I may have said it once. Thanks for your prayers...I need them....

 

[CLEVERGIRL]

We have not had Christmas for the last 2 years have not even put up the tree, there are no present for anyone and it is to despressing to look at the tree with no present underneath. My husband is disable and has not been able to work for the last 2 years (kidney failure is on dialysis needs a transplant, CHF) I have breast cancer DCIS went throu mastectamy and reconsturction this year. My kids are teenager they understand it is harder for me then anyone, I work 2 jobs just to make ends meet we do get SSD, but it does not pay much he worked for one company for 20 some years and are SSD is not even half of what he was making so everythings goes for bills.

But I have my husband and 2 kids and really all we want for Christmas this year is the same as last year a Kidney Transplant for Les This will be his second one the first one we got the day after Thanksgiving and it lasted for 22 years, he was on the list for only 11 months (he was 22 when he got his first kidney) they say the second one is harder to get it has been 2 years this time around. (on List).

Merry Chirstimas everyone enjoy your family give them a hug and kiss everyone morning and night, this is what will see you throu. What does not break me will only make me stronger I say this everytime something happens, it has not let me down yet.

I am a CHRISTian. I have read Luke 2 many many times. I can repeat it by memory. but this year its just not the same. I try to enjoy myself for the sake of my kids, but I just cant get into it. I know the real reason for Christmas and I am thankful for Jesus but the rest of the hype is just blah to me. I am usually telling everyone I see Merry Christmas. This year I may have said it once. Thanks for your prayers...I need them....

I'm right there with you sweetpea. I'm not going to give up on you though. Just know I'm going to continue to pray and I have faith that this cloud will lift off you. Also know that as I am trying to encourage you I am likewise encouraging myself. I won't go into my particular struggles Because I don't want to give them any glory. Just remember you are not alone and there's a woman in Alabama praying for you!

 

[carj]

I think that there are a lot of people feeling this way this year. I don't have anything incredibly difficult like an ongoing illness, job loss or family tragedy and I am still feeling overwhelmed and worn out.

I think that a lot of it is the uncertainty of the economy but for me it is just that there is so much to do. We don't have that many Christmas or holiday commitments, it is just the normal, everyday stuff that just keeps piling on.

Hopefully we will all have the chance to rest and rejuvenate over Christmas.

 

[nessz79]

Sorry you're having a hard time, OP. I think some years are just kind of like that.

Sometimes the best thing you can do when you're feeling down is to focus your attention on helping others...cheering other people up, doing little things for them, etc. It helps you not to focus on your blues. I'm not at all insinuating that you are being selfish, so please don't take that the wrong way . Maybe doing some volunteer work with your church, giving away some toys to a charity, etc.

 

[lcrane]

I put one foot in front of the other. I have to continue to go on, there are times that it is tough then I look at Megan and Chase and I see how hard there dad is trying not to get sick so that they do not see or here him (some day are better then others). I know that it will get better it has to I can only handle so much my shoulders can only take so much on, but there are days that i just want to say enough is enough when is it going to be our turn to have some good news. Any good news it just seems for the last 2 years nothing has been going good, see know I am crying just typeing this.
Sorry everyone Christmas is not a good time for me.

Lisa

 

[CLEVERGIRL]

I put one foot in front of the other. I have to continue to go on, there are times that it is tough then I look at Megan and Chase and I see how hard there dad is trying not to get sick so that they do not see or here him (some day are better then others). I know that it will get better it has to I can only handle so much my shoulders can only take so much on, but there are days that i just want to say enough is enough when is it going to be our turn to have some good news. Any good news it just seems for the last 2 years nothing has been going good, see know I am crying just typeing this.
Sorry everyone Christmas is not a good time for me.

Lisa

Here's some hugs and love for you too!!
We are all going to be okay ya'll! I'm about to go to church to decorate for our Cristmas Ball this weekend. I am going to go down on my face and send up some prayers for all of us! Hang in there sisters and brothers! Love ya'll.

 

[a1tinkfans]

We have not had Christmas for the last 2 years have not even put up the tree, there are no present for anyone and it is to despressing to look at the tree with no present underneath. My husband is disable and has not been able to work for the last 2 years (kidney failure is on dialysis needs a transplant, CHF) I have breast cancer DCIS went throu mastectamy and reconsturction this year. My kids are teenager they understand it is harder for me then anyone, I work 2 jobs just to make ends meet we do get SSD, but it does not pay much he worked for one company for 20 some years and are SSD is not even half of what he was making so everythings goes for bills.

But I have my husband and 2 kids and really all we want for Christmas this year is the same as last year a Kidney Transplant for Les This will be his second one the first one we got the day after Thanksgiving and it lasted for 22 years, he was on the list for only 11 months (he was 22 when he got his first kidney) they say the second one is harder to get it has been 2 years this time around. (on List).

Merry Chirstimas everyone enjoy your family give them a hug and kiss everyone morning and night, this is what will see you throu. What does not break me will only make me stronger I say this everytime something happens, it has not let me down yet.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. You have so much on your plate! I am a cancer survivor myself, also dbl mastectomy and f/up surgeries as well. Actually had a bit of a "glitch" this week myself, so off to Oncological Surgeon later this week.
I agree with the verse you quoted and am glad that it brings you an inner peace to deal with what we are dealt in life.

I just want you to know that there are people out here that care and I will keep your family in my prayers for ALL things good to happen!!

God Bless and Best of Luck to all of you!!!

 

[lcrane]

Here's some hugs and love for you too!!
We are all going to be okay ya'll! I'm about to go to church to decorate for our Cristmas Ball this weekend. I am going to go down on my face and send up some prayers for all of us! Hang in there sisters and brothers! Love ya'll.

Pray for Megan, Chase and there Dad they are the best. I know that everything happen for a reason. It is just hard sometimes to thank positive, but I am trying I have a very loving family just today my son told me that he loved me was hoping that I would not have to work tonight, but he understand if I do.

 

[CLEVERGIRL]

Pray for Megan, Chase and there Dad they are the best. I know that everything happen for a reason. It is just hard sometimes to thank positive, but I am trying I have a very loving family just today my son told me that he loved me was hoping that I would not have to work tonight, but he understand if I do.

I got you girl! I'm headed out right now and just wrote those names down Lisa, Megan, Chase, Dad, and all my other friends on The Dis Boards tonight. I am a woman of my word and I am praying. Everybody be Blessed and goodnight. Weeping may endure but joy cometh in the morning.

 

[Louise-Montreal]

Thank you for your uplifting spirit. Your faith shines through and offers hope.

 

[lcrane]

My thoughts and prayers are with you. You have so much on your plate! I am a cancer survivor myself, also dbl mastectomy and f/up surgeries as well. Actually had a bit of a "glitch" this week myself, so off to Oncological Surgeon later this week.
I agree with the verse you quoted and am glad that it brings you an inner peace to deal with what we are dealt in life.

I just want you to know that there are people out here that care and I will keep your family in my prayers for ALL things good to happen!!

God Bless and Best of Luck to all of you!!!

I hope everything is ok, I had trouble with my plastic surgery part with the expanders the wound did not want to stay close so that had to go back in a clean everything out put the implants in closed that up and I also came home with a JPeg oh how i hate them. I had 3 after my surgery for the mastectomy and then 1 after the implant because of all of the trouble that I had with the expanders. I go see my Oncologist and my Plastic Surgon Thursday and we also have freezing rain coming in that morning. Let me know how eveything went with your Doctor appt. my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Lisa

 

[lcrane]

I got you girl! I'm headed out right now and just wrote those names down Lisa, Megan, Chase, Dad, and all my other friends on The Dis Boards tonight. I am a woman of my word and I am praying. Everybody be Blessed and goodnight. Weeping may endure but joy cometh in the morning.

Thank you for the prayers. I just sometimes need to talk about it to someone that I don't know or see everyday. You know you don't want your kids to worry or I don't tell Les everything that is going on with myself or the bills because I don't want him to worry about it. Sometimes when I get in the car and I am either on my way to my second job or Home I remember when Les told me that he felt that we needed to take the kids back to Disney World they had only been once before we had so much fun the kids where (14,12) when we went the second time, he did not feel good that whole week but he went everywhere and we did everything 2 days after we got back home he went into kidney failure and CHF. See he told me that he felt like he needed to do this (Disney World). It was like he knew that there was something going on with his body, the kids still talk about that trip and they are now (16,14) we even want to go back but we will have to wait for a Kidney Transplant. Here i am going on again, just wanted to say thank you for the prayers.