OT autism?

[java]

Hi all this is an out here question that I m hoping someone can offer suggestions on.

There is a seventh grade boy in my eigth grade daughter's school with autism. She was told severe autism,whatever that means. My daughter has been attempting to be friends with him. She has been slowly winning his trust.
However, recently, at a dance she asked him to dance and he started to cry. He later shared a painful story with her about something that had happened at a dance previously.

Well now he has shared his Lego creations with her. She was wanting to give him some Lego plans we have. Is that again too personal? She doesn't want to upset him. I am at a loss on advice on this. I would think it's fine but she doesn't want to take any steps backward.

I know the spectrum of autism is so broad that there may be no way of knowing his reaction. So I suppose a better question would be as a mother of an autistic child would this bother you?

 

[bookwormde]

It is wonderful that your daughter is open and caring and wants to be friends with this child.

The fact that he was comfortable enough with her to share why he was upset about dancing says alot about both how special your daughter must be and how much this child trusts her.

There willl be bumps at times as thier frendshiip develops, but that is not a reason not to try things, as long as your daughter is not taken aback if the reaction is not typcial.

Yes by all means talk to the child's mother, but be prepared for her to cry at the fact that your daughter wants to be friends with him since this can make all the difference in this child's quality of life and abiltiy to learn to adapt to societies challenges and have as fullfilled and productive life as possible.

You should be very proud of you daughter

bookwormde

 

[lovethattink]

Your daughter sounds like an amazing child! As bookwormde, said be prepared for the mom to cry, because I teared up just reading!

 

[tinytreasures]

Your daughter sounds like an amazing child! As bookwormde, said be prepared for the mom to cry, because I teared up just reading!

tearing up here too
What a wonder child you have

 

[java]

Thank you for the kind words. I really feel like she is walking in my Grandfather's footsteps. Caring and wanting to learn from those that are different abled than she is.
I have to say we get as much as she gives. We've learned so much from our friends with differing abilities. Getting to see the world through different eyes makes our own world bigger and brighter.
Know that there are kids out there looking at the children with "labels" from the school as just another potential friend. They see the person not the name.
Thank you.

 

[robin09]

Hi all this is an out here question that I m hoping someone can offer suggestions on.

There is a seventh grade boy in my eigth grade daughter's school with autism. She was told severe autism,whatever that means. My daughter has been attempting to be friends with him. She has been slowly winning his trust.
However, recently, at a dance she asked him to dance and he started to cry. He later shared a painful story with her about something that had happened at a dance previously.

Well now he has shared his Lego creations with her. She was wanting to give him some Lego plans we have. Is that again too personal? She doesn't want to upset him. I am at a loss on advice on this. I would think it's fine but she doesn't want to take any steps backward.

I know the spectrum of autism is so broad that there may be no way of knowing his reaction. So I suppose a better question would be as a moth
er of an autistic child would this bother you?

As a mom of a 12 year old girl with Aspergers, I need to commend you and your daughter. My daughter has few friends if any that would care at all about her feelings. I wish more people were more thoughtful and giving as you. It definitely would not bother me in the least, it would probably make me cry. I would say to approach the Mother first, to make sure she can prepare her son.

 

[lambersalex]

As a mom of a 12 year old girl with Aspergers, I need to commend you and your daughter. My daughter has few friends if any that would care at all about her feelings. I wish more people were more thoughtful and giving as you. It definitely would not bother me in the least, it would probably make me cry. I would say to approach the Mother first, to make sure she can prepare her son.

My son has his own special needs, but finds it very rewarding to be the protector and defender of his other classmates who get picked on. Your story makes me cry too and appreciate the kindness of your daughter. I now want to encourage my son for doing his part too.

 

[Tistal]

OP, your daughter sounds like a beautiful person. My sister is in high school and has autism, and she will tell you that she does not have any friends except me. I wish she had someone special in her life like your daughter. A parent actually called my mother and told her to tell my sister to no longer sit with her daughter at lunch (my sister doesn't understand the "we don't want to talk to you" social cues).

You may try calling this young man's mother/father/guardian. I can't imagine that this child's parent(s) would be upset with you for inquiring as to what will and won't work since your daughter is trying to be friends. They know what the triggers are. If anything, they will be elated that someone wants to be friends with their son.