OT - Anyone think TLC needs to be the bigger "man"?

[DISdreamin']

Watching J&K used to be fun - a kind of "wow, how the heck do they manage" way, but fun.

Last night was just sad and depressing. I feel for everyone involved, but especially the kids. I truly hope the adults are able to put any animosity aside and try to be there for the kids, but in my experience that isn't usually the way it works out.

 

[ms_missy66]

Like everyone, I just feel so bad for the kids. Kate was overbearing and Jon walked away. Both pretty big sins in a marriage. :-( Nobody is perfect. I watched many episodes screaming at the TV at Kate's behavior, but now I'm disgusted with Jon's. It's hard to not believe this downfall isn't related to the show. I do hope TLC pulls the plug and maybe, just maybe, the family can come back together.

 

[ilandrazdsw]

From the sounds of Kate's own words from a past episode or one of their specials it seems that they have not been on the same page since BEFORE the sextuplets were born. She stated that jon only wanted the 2 and SHE wanted just one more..."bought 1 and got 5 more." Wasn't there some talk too that she didn't exactly go about the fertility treatments as dr ordered...like taking double doses or something.
From the begining of their relationship (from past episodes/specials) Jon seemed like he rather play than be a grown-up and Kate was the know-it-all planner. relationships grow and people do change (like maybe Jon no longer wanted to be the 9th child...or maybe he was the first); however, as people change the relationship also has to evolve and without communication (talking AND listening) both parties will certainly change and the relationship will evolve is different directions.
A very sad aspect of this family is their faith. Granted we only see what TLC shows, but from what I have understood others to say is that Kate writes about their faith and the church in her book...where does this come across on TV??? Maybe once or twice from what I can remember did the show the family going to church or getting ready for it (and hey, GREAT if they took the day to not film!). I know being a Christian does not exempt you from going through challenges like what they had encountered. I just pray that they have their faith to turn to and the support of their church...especially for sake of the children.
Has anyone heard if they ever stated that they attempted counseling or therapy of any kind?
There seems to be fault on all 3 sides (Jon, Kate & TLC). They said this has been going on for the last 6 months...TLC should have stepped in at that point and said they would suspend taping for them to take time to work on their marriage. Life is NOT about the almighty $$ despite what the world seems to tell us.
I really hope that the kids are getting some intense therapy and that the court appoints a guardian to protect their interests...someone that has NO interest in the family!

Hey, now they can follow Jon playing around so they don't have to worry about the number of hours the kids are working and call it Jon - Kate and the 8. Or as Chelsea Handler put it Jon + Jon Cause the (b)witch is gone.

 

[jgazda]

Hey Kate is no angel in this situation. She is a controlling spoiled brat, darn right it was time for him to put his foot down and say this isn't all about you!!!! You are right they both made the decision to have those kids and that means they are both missing out and behaving pathetically. Kate does a great job on the "poor me" attitude, but she is 100% as much to blame as he is. Perhaps if she hadn't treated him like he was her 9th child, he wouldn't have acted like one!

I think what you are failing to realize here is that they are showing us 23 minutes a week of their life. I'm certain there are hours upon hours of footage that the have to use. I'm also certain that if my family or any one else's family for that matter was being taped they could edit me into appearing the same way when I'm really not. I'm sure she has her moments but hey we all do. It's all about ratings for TLC, and since that gets people all up in arms they certainly aren't going to stop. They obviously both have some issues to work out but I don't think it is fair to lay blame and say what kind of person she (or he) is when we really have no idea with the small glimpse into their lives that we see.

 

[Steph9072]

Hate to break it to you guys, but the divorce is because Kate is a closet lesbian. Lesbians are always rude to men...I feel sorry for John that he had to put up with her.

I don’t believe that she is a lesbian. Where did you get this information?

Regardless of what Kate did or did not do she did not deserve Jon cheating on her. If Jon should have closed door before he opened the other. What kind of example is Jon setting for his kids? By his actions Jon has showed his boys that it is okay to sleep around on your wife. By his actions Jon has showed his girls that it is okay if they sleep with a married man. What a horrible example.
Do I think Kate is a saint? No, I don’t. There have been times that she has said or done something on the show and I think what a *itch. But you know Jon accepted her behavior for years, if her behavior became a problem then he should have addressed it not have an affair. Instead of renewing his wedding vows to Kate, if he was having an issue with her behavior, they should have gone to marriage counseling. Why give their kids a false since of security? They told their kid that the renewal was to show them that Mommy & Daddy would always be together. We are all responsible for our actions reactions. Bottom line Jon stepped out on the marriage and nobody is to blame for that but Jon.

 

[DISNEYFOS]

I agree. Its not like he didn't know her personality when he married her, Its not like she just became controlling and bossy overnight. You all may not like her..but he did enough to marry her. I think the way the TLC portrayed her got people to start telling him.."oh wow , poor Jon she's mean etc etc." And the immature tool that he is, enjoyed the sympathy and attention... Rather than going to a marriage counseler and working out their communication issues and looking for a mediator to voice his dissatisfaction in the marriage..he had an affair. For god sake he agreed to go to Hawaii to renew their vows...Are you kidding me???

 

[mom2faith]

Originally Posted by Lexie
Hate to break it to you guys, but the divorce is because Kate is a closet lesbian. Lesbians are always rude to men...I feel sorry for John that he had to put up with her.

This is not where the thread should go.

Let's keep this about the kids and TLCs responsibility to the kids and the public.

Thanks.

 

[mom2faith]

I wrote TLC. Here is the response I got:

Dear Viewer: Thank you for contacting TLC. We appreciate your correspondence and fortaking the time to share your thoughts and concerns with us about Jon &Kate Plus 8. In an effort to ensure the highest quality programming, comments such asthese are taken very seriously. Each and every comment is forwarded on toour programming executives for review and consideration. Maintaining theintegrity of all of our networks is our primary goal. It is these types ofcomments that contribute to creating change and improving our programming. Again, thank you for contacting TLC. Sincerely, Viewer RelationsTLC