OT-3 yr needs glasses-help!

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I found out today the my DS 3 yrs old, needs glasses for extreme farsightedness in one eye. So the glasses are ordered, and now I need some help getting him to wear the glasses and keep them on! I've got a week until the glasses are ready, and I want to have some ideas in place to make it as positive an experience as possible. My DH and I both wear glasses or contacts, so he has that role model already. Any words of wisdom out there, please:goodvibes
 
My DD was 5. We got the glasses, stuck them on her face and never turned back. I'm not sure I'd make any kind of an issue out of it until it becomes one. When you pick them up take some photos and e-mail them out to everyone. (but I have to warn you.. photos ruined by glare are very frustrating..) I wouldn't try any reward system or anything until he is giving you a problem. He may really like them (DD did) and like seeing better.

Good luck!
 
My stepdaughter started wearing glasses at about the same age and we never had a problem keeping them on her. And kids with glasses are SO cute!!!:cool1:
 
I got glasses when I was 5, and was delighted with them simply because 'hey, wow - I can SEE!!!!'. So I would wait to see if you actually have a battle to fight.
 

My son was four when he started wearing glasses. He was so proud to look like Mom & Dad. It also helped that wherever we went, women would totally flirt with him and say how handsome he is with glasses. He totally ate that up! When they're that young, there's no negativity about wearing glasses from other kids.
 
My dd has been wearing glasses since she was 3 or so....and it's never been an issue. When we first adopted her, she was so used to seeing badly that she'd forget her glasses sometimes when she'd get up from a nap...etc. And still (she's almost 6) she bends them or loses her nose piece...etc, but we get them for a fair price so those small losses or adjustments don't kill us. Still, she actually remembers them now, and it's never been a battle to wear them....just at first she would need reminding to get them off the nightstand..etc.
 
My DS5 has had glasses since just before he was two! I actually had him visit the specialist since my brother had an eye problem that needed surgery when he was four and I wanted to have my son checked to be sure he didn't have the same issue. During that visit the doctor said my son did not have the issue my brother had, but he did have astigmatism in both eyes and if I hadn't come in until the typical kindergarten screening he would have had a lazy eye! :scared1:

I too wondered how the heck I would keep glasses on a small child. :confused3 The doctor said don't worry, he will see sooooo much better he won't want to take them off. He was right, we just said buddy, you gotta wear these now and he never wanted to take them off. He tells me that when they are off he can see but things are blurry. Even when he wakes up in the morning he puts them on before he even gets out of bed! And everyone thinks he is the cutest kid ever! I was relieved to see that there were three other children in his kindergarten class that also wore glasses since I started having flashbacks of being the only kid in school who wore glasses...and I mean those oversized brownish plastic glasses they made in the 80's...:scared:
 
My DS started wearing glasses at 14 months. My niece started at 2.

Neither of them really had any problems keeping them on, except maybe a few gentle reminders not to touch. I think if you approach it matter-of-factly, you won't have too much trouble. "Here they are. We wear these now." I agree with the previous poster who said I think they realize the glasses help them, so they are willing.

It sounds like he's got good role models of people who wear glasses, so he'll see you wearing yours too.
 
Once he realizes that he can actually see, he will want to leave them on. I agree with PP that just putting them on and saying "we wear these now" might work. Just like you say we put on our socks, we put on our coat, we put on our glasses,etc.
 
I was, in a former life an optician in a practice that specialized in children s glasses. I agree with others he may just put them on and it not be and issue, epically if he is "extremely "farsighted as you said. If you do have a problem there is always getting a SHORT strap that will make it more difficult for him to take them off. Also he is at the age where a sticker chart may be helpful. He would get a sticker for everyday he kept his glasses on all day and at the end of a period of time have a small reward. Doesn't need to be much (infact when my DS was that age 1 of his rewards for doing things was me taking him for a drive over train tracks! :confused3 go figure)
 
I agree with previous posters. My DD was 2 when she got glasses. The doctor told me I'd have no problem keeping them on her because she'll be able to SEE. My reply was "Sure....right...you don't have a toddler, do you".

I couldn't believe it, but doc was right! DD even insisted on sleeping with them the first few days & wouldn't even take them off for bathtime!
 
Thanks for all the helpful replies! I guess I am a little nervous about the whole situation because my DS was very upset by the whole eye exam and the glasses fitting, and also b/c the opthamologist said he would probably need some incentives to keep the glasses on. As a pp mentioned, my DS is close to having a lazy eye, so he actually sees 20/20 out of the one eye he is using already. The dr said his vision with the glasses will be improved; I'm just not sure it would be such a dramatic improvement he would want to keep the glasses on.

Again, all the stories of positive experiences really help, and make it easier for me to have a relaxed, matter of fact attitude for my DS about "now you wear glasses too."
 
DD started at 3 also due to a lazy eye. She is now almost 6 and we have never had a problem for even a minute. She picked out her frames and put them on and said "Wow, everything is so big!" She loved wearing them and still does. Sometimes I try to get her to take them off so I can check how her lazy eye is doing and she refuses. She thinks she looks so much cuter with them on. I'm sure it is because people are always commenting on how cute she looks in them!
 
I totally agree with all the other posters. My daughter has worn glasses since she was 14 mos old. Now she has to wear a patch 6 hrs per day because one eye is so much worse than the other, her brain uses the better eye more, so we patch to remind the brain to use the "bad" eye. One of my best friends ds and dd have glasses both when they were about 3. DD just got them and my friend was worried about DD keeping glasses on, but tears came to her eyes when DD was grinning ear to ear and said "Momma I can see your eyes". I noticed that also with my DD even though she was only 14 mos. I saw her seeing things around the house and I realized how much better her life is with her glasses. At the last Dr appt (now she's 3 1/2), she asked if the Dr would let her be done with her patch and glasses, I said no and she was fine with that.
 
Diagnosis

When DS had just turned 3, I noticed a white splotch in his eye in a few pictures (the other eye had typical redeye--my camara wasn't great, this before I had a digital camara). After looking throught photo albums and finding MANY the same from the time he was 12-18 months old or so I panickstricken took DS3 to the pediatrician with the photographs.

I had remembered reading & seeing on Oprah a few years prior, about an eye cancer that shows up in photographs. Adding fuel to my worry-fire, the pediatrician thought he saw a glint of something in his eye and agreed the pictures could be a sign of retinoblastoma. Pedi sent us to a opthamologist.

We were shocked to hear from opthamologist, no mass in the eye---BUT he needs glasses! We hadn't noticed any obvious vision issues prior. DS was extremely near-sighted in one eye and developed lazy eye/ambliopya (not able to see the "laziness" though). He was actually legally blind in one eye and stopped using that eye to see. We had to patch the good eye for many hours a day (wearing glasses always) to train his brain to start using the "blind" eye again. We are so fortunate to have caught this so early. Before age 7/8/9, this is correctable to some degree. Now over 5 years later, we're done with eyepatching and DS's vision has improved dramatically. Doctors are amazed. He may even not need glasses at all in a year or so. At age 3, doctors had said DS would need to wear glasses the rest of his life.

DH and others in family were concerned/felt bad for DS. I was so thankful to be dealing with glasses rather than cancer and chemotherapy or worse for retinoblastoma, I was carefree. Glasses and eyepatching I could handle.

It turns out, the reason why it showed up in photographs was because there was such a discrepancy in vision between the two eyes. I've heard of a friend of a friend that had need for glasses show up in photograph like this too.

Incentive

As other posters have said, sometimes kids are so amazed to be able to see, keeping the glasses on aren't an issue for preschool kids. With DS, the glasses were fine but he initially hated the eyepatch. He did not want to wear it.

It was a band-aid type patch. The first year he had to wear it 6 hours a day--a good part of his day considering he slept 11 hours at night and an afternoon nap too. I made a "treasure box". At first, after each 6 hours he was able to choose something from the box (stickers, dollar store items, thing grandparents had contributed, etc. ). Later (he wore patch for 3 1/2 years--went down to 1/2 hour near the end) I think i may have used sticker chart and built up to getting a prize with 5 stickers/days. Eventually, he didn't need the chart. From the beginning, i was careful to always explain WHY we had to put the patch on and why he needed the glasses --that it wasn't just me arbitrarily telling him what to do. I'm so glad I didn't give in and let him go now/then w/out glasses or patch for momentary happiness and appeasement in my child --for our efforts he may soon be done with glasses altogether.

I was, in a former life an optician in a practice that specialized in children s glasses. I agree with others he may just put them on and it not be and issue, epically if he is "extremely "farsighted as you said. If you do have a problem there is always getting a SHORT strap that will make it more difficult for him to take them off. Also he is at the age where a sticker chart may be helpful. He would get a sticker for everyday he kept his glasses on all day and at the end of a period of time have a small reward. Doesn't need to be much (infact when my DS was that age 1 of his rewards for doing things was me taking him for a drive over train tracks! :confused3 go figure)

Good advice on the sticker charts--i've used them for various issues with Dkids and positive reinforcement works wonders.

I bought the strap for DS but rarely to never had a need for it. Even playing at the park/on the playground they stayed on fine--but he didn't try to pull them off purposefully.
 
I work at an optometrist's office/optical and most kids will wear them simply for the fact that they can now see! Others have said it here too...but that really is the case!
Now we do have one patient who started wearing them at two and is now almost six...well his parents needed to buy him about 6 pairs a year in the beginning! He kept on destroying them no matter what kind of frames they tried. Now he's better and down to about two a year! His poor parents! But that is the minority!
 


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