Bummer that you couldn't get a blue card just for being an OG from back in the day. You sound like us- minimal souvenirs and meals out. We also use the kitchen to the fullest (breakfast in room, pack lunch into the park, maybe share a meal for dinner, or snacks from backpack until we get back to the room), so the dining discounts aren't too badly missed. Although the joke's on Disney... if they gave us even a small discount, we'd be way more likely to spend extra money. Their loss!
We love Aulani, but have only been once, 8 years ago. We just bought our membership last year and are finally returning in June. I'm so excited! Hopefully it's as magical as we remember it being. Have you been to Aulani?
I did check the flight time to Orlando and Honolulu from PDX when I was buying DVC, and they are almost exactly the same amount of time when flying direct, which is interesting.
Maui is actually my favorite of the three islands I've visited (Maui, Oahu, and Kauai). I wish Aulani was on Maui instead. We Oregonians are spoiled by our own beautiful and usually uncrowded coastline, and that's how I like to enjoy Hawaii as well. I definitely prefer the nature aspect of Hawaii over shopping and dining, so Waikiki and the crowded places are of less interested to me. We will balance crowded Aulani pool days with beach days off site.