opposite sex children and sleeping arrangements.

[Magpie]

On vacation?

SO not an issue. Last summer my kids, 13yo boy and 15yo girl, regularly shared a hotel bed while we were travelling, often a double. They simply agreed that one would sleep under the sheet and the other would sleep OVER the sheet, under the blanket. No touching, no problem.

We're going to Disney in a couple weeks, and the four of us will be sharing a room at the Pop Century resort. If the kids want, we can split up and I'll sleep with my daughter. But honestly, I don't think it's going to be an issue.

Now, if we're talking sharing a bed at home, that's a problem. Teens need their own space. But for a week on vacation, I don't see any issues. Gosh, people sleep in RVs in tighter quarters! And there's zero privacy, so you don't have to worry about anyone getting up to anything.

 

[nicolepitts]

my brother and I shared a bed on vacation as teenagers. It never crossed my mind to ask to sleep with my mom. When we are a bit younger my girl cousins and I would fight over who got to sleep in the bed with him cause he would twirl your hair as he went to sleep and it was heaven! as it stands, my 4 and 5 year old boy and girl will share a bed on our next trip, since the littlest girl likes to sleep with us still, I suspect it will turn in to one of the boys sleeping in their own bed on later vacations and the girls sharing. Frankly when we are on vacation, once we get to the bed we all pass out wherever we stop!

 

[pinktink83]

First of all, you will feel totally different once you actually have more than one child and see them interact together. And besides, you may not even have a girl...you could end up with all boys. And even then, that doesn't prevent abuse from going.

I have a son and 2 daughters and there are times they sleep together in one bed or next to each other on the floor (camping, vacations, etc) and they always share a hotel bed. I've never given it a second thought.

Yes, the risk is there, it is there if you sign your child up for after school sports, or send them to school, or have grandparents babysit, or have cousins and friends come over to play, or they play at someone else's house, or they have uncles and aunts, etc. The risk is ever present. Yes, be conscious, but this is one case that I think is overboard. Unless you are getting a bad feeling about it, I would say its just fine. Go with your gut.

Honestly though, I would be curious to know why your husband has such strong feelings about this. It is weird IME for a man to even think of that, especially if you don't even have a daughter yet. It makes me think something happened in the past that he was involved in somehow, or aware of. I would try to get to the root of his feelings. Maybe he had a sister or cousin who was abused that way. Maybe something inappropriate went on when he shared a bed with siblings/cousins. Who knows. But I definitely think its worth checking out.

 

[Suzanne74]

If I had 2 teenagers, I would never get just one hotel room, even if they were the same sex.

I would go INSANE

I rather get connecting rooms at a value then try and do a deluxe. Everyone deserves some space to make it a good vacation.

But if I HAD to, I wouldn't make siblings of opposite sex sleep together once they hit middle school. Maybe an older daughter and younger boy but I think the girl would feel icky. I know I would.

 

[meggiebeth]

I am fifteen and do not sleep with my thirteen year old brother even on holiday. However, at WDW, I did share a double bed with my six year old brother. I think it's fine! If there really was no other option I would be fine sleeping with my 13 year old brother. We're siblings! I have never shared a bed on holiday with my parents, apart from in a hotel in Germany that did not allow a child to sleep on their own in a room without an adult.

 

[moonpie85]

I personally don't see anything wrong with it. I wouldn't force them to sleep in the same bed but if they jumped in the same bed I wouldn't care. Honestly I would share a bed with my brother even now if it was some huge family trip. He's my brother....I don't see the problem. It would however be awkward for me to share a bed with my Dad now, not sure why that seems different in my head (I'm close to him too) but it does. Maybe it's because in my mind we're still kids when I'm around my brother but my Dad has always been an adult in my life. Hmm, who knows but that's how I feel

But to each their own

 

[elainesj]

well my brother and I are full grown and I wouldn't care if we shared a bed now. we did often enough when we were growing up, even in our teens. particularly at sleepovers!

I WOULD really try and watch out for anything else, even cousins though.

I remember when I was 9 or 10, my much older cousin (he must have been abt 14/15?) did molest me on a sleepover at his place with my brother and his brother in the same room (we all share a couple of beds). The other two did not notice. It was many, many years later before I told anyone about it but I steered clear of that cousin from then on, even into adulthood.

Anyway, not to turn you completely paranoid but it DOES happen, even between first cousins. That said, there was no way it would ever happen between my brother and I LOL!

 

[TheMorgans]

As a family with 3 sons and 1 daughter we alway had to make arrangements for sleeping. When they were little all 3 boys would pile in the same bed, but by the time my oldest son was 10 or so NOBODY wanted to sleep with ANYBODY... (maybe because they had never shared a room or a bed at home) except Mom and Dad - LOL

Since our family was large we always had to have either 2 rooms or a condo. If our accomidations had only 4 beds all the kids would alternate who slept in the sleeping bags. On even numbered nights (i.e. the 22nd or 24th) the even number child (2nd and 4th) would get the bed then on odd number days (21st or 23rd) the odd number child would get the bed. This eliminated all the fighting over whoes turn it was to sleep on the bed.