Online Dating...

I was in a 2-year online relationship. I will never go through that again.

The basics: We "dated" for two years and I broke his heart twice.

It was purely emotional. Which is all good and well, as we naturally think. I didn't know him outside of the internet and that kept doubts in my head. I'm the type of person who will trust a situation, but full confidence of believing comes from seeing.

At the start of the relationship, I was so completely infatuated with him. He was all I could think about. I couldn't wait until I had the chance to talk with him. He made me smile. We got as close as you could probably get emotionally in a relationship. After a while tho, I really started doubting it. We had several times planned to meet but things couldn't work out - on both our ends.

He was the sweatest guy I had ever talked to. He was SO nice. But all I had of the relationship were our phone conversations and internet conversations via yahoo messanger and the DIS. I had nothing more and every stable relationship requires emotional AND phsyical connections. I devoted myself to him meaning I stayed faithful to this online relationship. I hated that I had no one here to hold me when I was lonely or cold. I need there to be some physical part to a relationship.

During our online convos I would tell him how much I liked him while I actually sat there at my computer thinking to myself "I don't think I can stay in this relationship". I said the things I knew he wanted to hear even though I didn't FULLY mean it. Of course I meant it a little, but not entirely.

I was forcing myself to like him and that wasn't good. I broke up with him. I started to feel lost without the conversations and he was heartbroken so I asked to re-kindle the relationship. He took me back and it was only a matter of a few months before I regained those thoughts of doubt. I broke up with him again only this time it was even more painful for the both of us.

This was 2 years ago and I'm still emotionally damaged because of this. I still think of him and I feel bad about what I did. I didn't even really know him. If you meet online, great! Just plan on meeting. If you are ONLY internet-based, the relationship will not last.

Every relationship requires the couple to be emotional and phsyical. It's just life.
 
Oh my, Loves Disney...I can relate to that so fully and completely. You touched my heart knowing that even though you're older, you've been through the same thing as I have :)
 
all together too deep and too serious for me.

call me what you will but i need physicalcality in my relationships.

i tried long distance once. (not internet, cause we knew each other, just far away) and i couldn't do it. it was the worst year and a half of my life. i stayed with him cause i felt like i loved him (now i'm not so sure) but it killed me. now i'm a pretty touchie date. i love to touch and hold hands and kiss and stuff, because i went so long not being able to.

but ya know, whatever works for you. i'm no one to judge.

i do think that long distance stuff is a lot deeper than in person stuff. because if you're putting up with distance, there is some kind of deep affection if not love involved. so you gotta be mature. they're also really serious.

and i'm seventeen. i'm not looking for someone to marry and have kids and grow old with. i'm looking for someone to go to the movies with on friday and hold hands with at football games and walk to class with.
 
Oh my, Loves Disney...I can relate to that so fully and completely. You touched my heart knowing that even though you're older, you've been through the same thing as I have :)

:hug:

all together too deep and too serious for me.

call me what you will but i need physicalcality in my relationships.

i tried long distance once. (not internet, cause we knew each other, just far away) and i couldn't do it. it was the worst year and a half of my life. i stayed with him cause i felt like i loved him (now i'm not so sure) but it killed me. now i'm a pretty touchie date. i love to touch and hold hands and kiss and stuff, because i went so long not being able to.

but ya know, whatever works for you. i'm no one to judge.

i do think that long distance stuff is a lot deeper than in person stuff. because if you're putting up with distance, there is some kind of deep affection if not love involved. so you gotta be mature. they're also really serious.

and i'm seventeen. i'm not looking for someone to marry and have kids and grow old with. i'm looking for someone to go to the movies with on friday and hold hands with at football games and walk to class with.

I completely agree with you. And I don't care who you are, if someone says they don't need any phsyical contact in their relationship...they don't know much about relationships. Humans are sexual beings. Simple as that. But also, holding hands, hugging, kissing, etc...all contributes to the emotional part of a relationship as well. I'm sure any girl or boy here who has been in a relationship could agree with the fact that when your bf/gf reaches to hold your hand, your heart skips a little or you feel a sense of comfort...that's all emotional!
 

I think it all depends on the people, and their feelings for each other.

If they both really liked each other, they could probably find a way to make their "dating" truly work.
 
Echh. Not really.
No matter how many pictures the guy sends to you of himself.
No matter how many times he tells you he "loves you"
No matter how many phone calls you exchange.

Doesn't mean it's not some creeper.
And I totally trust people on the internet.
But I'd never "go out with (I mean, come on. Are you gonna see this person more than once a year!?)" some guy from the internet.

Sure, if you meet on the internet, then go on a cruise together, I'm fine.
But.. yeah.
 





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