One has to be wrong

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

Okay so the story is that my aunt says I ran off my moms boyfriends because I wanted my mom to my self and my mom said that is not true that there was something wrong with each boyfriend. Who is more likely to tell the true in this case my mom or my aunt if it is my aunt how can I go on with out hurting or worse killing my self. Any one have experience in this area

 

[Jennasis]

Your aunt says YOU somehow drove all of your mother's boyfriend's away?


Believe your mother. And if you are even REMOTELY not joking about hurting or killing yourself, you need immediate medical intervention.

National suicide hotline....1-800-273-8255
http://suicidehotlines.com/

 

[Disney Doll]

Since your mom was the one in the relationships with each boyfriend, I'd say believe her.

And if something like this makes you consider hurting or killing yourself, then please take Jenassis' advice and call the suicide hotline.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

This happen when I was a kid I am 27 it is just part of forgiving who I was however my aunt is not helping and ever sens my other aunt died in April she has moved in with my mom and has been trying to taking her place

 

[BearcatsFan]

Believe your mother. And please, please do not hurt yourself.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

I wont do any harm to my self this will pass and I will keep in mind my aunt has no clue what she is saying that might have talked a lot but still she knows very little

 

[lovemygoofy]

This happen when I was a kid I am 27 it is just part of forgiving who I was however my aunt is not helping and ever sens my other aunt died in April she has moved in with my mom and has been trying to taking her place

I grew up with a single mom and you know what? I have no doubt I ran off a few guys in my time but as an adult I understand those guys were wimps who couldn't take a single mom with a child.

It was never your fault or your problem with whatever happened with your mom and the men she dated.

I have a horrible aunt who to this day calls me a bad name because I don't have a dad. As an adult I understand that I don't have to give her the power to hurt my feelings. Whatever reason your aunt is being ugly to you, you just ignore her. She has no clue what happened between your mother and you as you were growing up. Ignore what your aunt has to say to you. You are a grown married adult with your own life. There is no point in living in the past.

 

[Scurvy]

This happen when I was a kid I am 27 it is just part of forgiving who I was however my aunt is not helping and ever sens my other aunt died in April she has moved in with my mom and has been trying to taking her place

Your aunt sounds like a horrible, spiteful person. Believe your mother. If one of those people had been perfect for your mother, she would still be with him. They weren't, so she isn't. That is not your fault.

And I agree with the others. If you want to hurt or kill yourself over this, you need to seek help to deal with your feelings. Reach out to a hotline or therapist if you can.

 

[Stitchfans]

glad to hear you have no intentions of hurting yourself. in my experiences I learned to trust and believe my mom first and I suggest you do the same. as the saying goes it is best to get it straight from the horse's mouth.

 

[disneychic2]

I can't believe your aunt would be so hateful to you! Even if it were true, why would she reveal that to you? There is no reason except to hurt you. She sounds like a very small minded, ugly person and I would for sure believe your mom. She's the one who dated the men and she would know better than your aunt. What a nut job she must be!

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

I think she is upset that I am growing up a lot faster then her kids and she is taking it out on me.

 

[Mkrop]

I grew up with a single mom and you know what? I have no doubt I ran off a few guys in my time but as an adult I understand those guys were wimps who couldn't take a single mom with a child.

It was never your fault or your problem with whatever happened with your mom and the men she dated.

I have a horrible aunt who to this day calls me a bad name because I don't have a dad. As an adult I understand that I don't have to give her the power to hurt my feelings. Whatever reason your aunt is being ugly to you, you just ignore her. She has no clue what happened between your mother and you as you were growing up. Ignore what your aunt has to say to you. You are a grown married adult with your own life. There is no point in living in the past.

Once again great advice from Tina

OP please dont hurt yourself over something your aunt said, she is not worth it. You would be hurting so many others who love you, your mom, your DH etc. Dont give her that power!

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

You are right I am going to ignore her I am an adult know and I have that power

 

[Mkrop]

You are right I am going to ignore her I am an adult know and I have that power

good for you...check out the thread about people having no filter, it sounds like your aunt. They cant be happy for themselves unless they are bringing others down.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

can you send me that thread btw what brought this up is she made me apologize to one of my moms exs even though one main reason they are not together is because he is selfish

 

[ohiomom28]

Okay so the story is that my aunt says I ran off my moms boyfriends because I wanted my mom to my self and my mom said that is not true that there was something wrong with each boyfriend. Who is more likely to tell the true in this case my mom or my aunt if it is my aunt how can I go on with out hurting or worse killing my self. Any one have experience in this area

It's not your aunt's business for one.

I'm pretty sure your mom would know best why their relationships didn't work out.

Tell your aunt to go fly a kite.

Don't let things like this get to you. I know it's hard, but you have to worry about yourself and your husband. It's not worth getting worked up about it and stressing about it.

 

[happygirl]

I think it time to cut ties with your aunt. She sounds like she tryng to cause problems

 

[jetskigrl]

I'm so sorry that your aunt made you feel that way. As others have said, you should listen to your mom since she was directly involved in the situation and your aunt wasn't. It does sound like you aunt is just bitter and is taking it out on you.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

Can't she lives with my mom like I said earlier she is taking my other aunts place I have to grow up and make it work

 

[happygirl]

Can't she lives with my mom like I said earlier she is taking my other aunts place I have to grow up and make it work

It sounds like your aunt has some major growing up to. Do you live with your mom?