Older guy, younger girl, question

[Gail T AGAIN]

My brother who was 50 in September is going with a girl that is 32. her friends are in their late 20 early 30s. My brother has been divorced once and I am afraid that this new gir will want to get married like all her friends and have kids, he owns two homes and a plane to get back and forth from point A to the Vinyard. I can see me going out with someone with a 18 years difference both younger or older. is it just me?

 

[Angelrose]

I guess it depends on the individuals. DH is 10 years older than me and we get along perfectly.

 

[Pam]

Not sure what your question was - Gail.

But I personally think it's perfectly fine for a man OR a woman to marry someone who is either older OR younger than him/her.

And - does your brother not want children? 50 is not too old to have children, IMO.

Pam

 

[Princess Michelle]

I don't see a problem with it if they truly get along and love each other.

 

[Lars624]

My in-laws are 22 years apart. When they got married FIL was 42 and MIL was 20. They have been married 38 years now.
My SIL marred a man 14 years older than her. They've been together for about 12 or 13 years now too. I guess whether or not it works it depends on the individuals involved.

 

[Michelle]

My father was 13 years older than my mother and they had an amazing marriage that lasted 23 years. Unfortunately he died way too young at the age of 59.

Age is just a number; if people are happy that's all that matters.

 

[Serena]

I think it all depends on the couple themselves.
I will say though I wouldn't appreciate my dad getting involved with someone younger than I am. No good reason, just wouldn't like it.

 

[danacara]

I think the homes and the plane are helping your brother's mojo.

 

[aahmom1]

My ex-boyfriend was 17 years older than me and he didn't own an airplane. We got along so well, he was a very nice man.

 

[gemmie214]

Well, I guess I think it is perfectly fine. My DH is 16 yrs. older than I am. How they feel about each other is all that matters.

 

[Beauty]

I don't think age has anything to do with....If they love each other then wonderful....If she loves him because of the plane etc. then thats a whole different story.

 

[browneyes]

To each his/her own. Personally, I wouldn't date anyone more than 10 years older than I am. Too much Freudian philosophy would play in my head (I don't need a father figure). And I wouldn't date anyone more than 2 years younger than I am (and he'd have to be pretty mature acting). I prefer the 10 year older than the 2 years younger though.

 

[Pam]

Dana:

I think the homes and the plane are helping your brother's mojo.

You crack me up!!
Pam

 

[glo]

WOW....but to each his own, and if they are happy more power to them. I think if true love, age or anything else should not matter. I think the oldest guy I was ever serious about was only a little over 4 years older than me Hey and older men can have lots of mojo....lol

 

[Blondie]

This subject hits very close to home.

My widowed (since 1981) mother-in-law has been having a fling with a much younger man.

She is 66.

He is 34.

And it ain't like she's a Sofia Loren or Barbara Eden. (I know, I know...sometimes looks having nothing to do with it.)

Only one of her children is okay with the relationship.

Her other 5 children, along with their spouses do not like it, not that she's asking for permission or approval. She could care less what anyone else thinks.

We all think this guy is out for something, and so far, it looks like he's in for the long haul. He's moved in, but is always out when her kids come over--she arranges that he isn't there when they come over. She has spent so much money on this guy, and treats him better than her own children, and has gone out of her way for this guy, often leaving her own children out in the cold.

Nobody can tell her anything though. We just hope he gets tired of her and moves on to another "sugar-momma" soon!

 

[Pin Wizard]

I have friends 12 years apart that ended up divorced. If I were looking, it would definitely be for someone younger. I used to say older, but now that I'm in my 40's a younger one will do. I need someone to get out and play ball with my 9 year old!!

 

[ASFCurly]

A 46 year old manager (male) at work married a 19 year old (female).

We all think it is wierd, but they seem happy...

 

[disneefamily]

Disnee Dad Says...............................It should not be a big deal. I was expecting to see a 40 yo guy with a 19 yo girl or some thing like that. As long as they are happy and content. The children thing may become an issue.
Hmmmmm....... An airplane and two houses, maybe I should go for it! lol