Old friend died - didn't realize it would affect me like this

[SHAMIL10]

Found out last night an old friend was killed in an accident early Sun. morning. This happens to be my first "boyfriend" - I was twelve, and we actually were good friends through most of high school, even dated a few times afterward. I actually haven't seen too much of him over the past 10 years since I married, except on occasion since we do live in small town america where everybody knows everybody and you're bound to end up in the same room at some time. I did however, upon hearing the news, end up bawling for about 2 hours last night and I'm still kind of upset. I feel like I should at least attend the visitation, but like I said before,its been about 12 years since we even "hung out" -
Just needed to vent/cry on someone's shoulder- I'm feeling a little better actually writing this.

 

[mtblujeans]

Friends and relatives passing away reflect changes that are hard to face. It forces us to look at memories, our own mortality, losses over time, alot of things that we don't spend much time evaluating in every-day-life. I am sorry for your loss and would suggest you go to the visitation. You may regret missing the opportunity if you don't. Funerals are for the living as well as those who have passed on. I hope you feel better as you come to terms with his passing.....

 

[Ziva]

I'm so sorry for your lost.

I just recently found out that one of my best friends from college is battling cancer. He's doing better so far but it really rattled when I found out. We've always had an unexplainable between us. Sometimes I think we were great loves in a past life or something. We keep in touch occassionaly by email, every once and awhile to check in but that's it.

I think that once someone enters our hearts, in no matter how small or big a way, we're always connected to them. At least that's how I've always felt about my friend, I know he'll always have a place in my heart and I can't imagine him not being in this world.

I'm so sorry you lost your friend.

 

[OhMari]

I bet his parents would be happy to see you. Funerals bring up the past-it will be good closure for you to say a prayer and say good-bye.

 

[minkydog]

I would also suggest you go to the visitation. It will help you make closure and i'm sure the family wuld love to see you. You will remind them of all the crazy and fun things the two of you were involved with--a healing balm to a broken heart, for sure.