Even if you don't consider the OP's experience, nobody has been able to convience me yet that staying off-site is cheaper. Show me how I can stay off-site and rent a car to get to WDW each day for less than $80/night. I'm not sure I would like to see those accomodations.
I could but then everyone would know my secret hotel!
I think the whole on site/off site thing depends on what is important to you and your family--that's why there's no one good answer. This is the first time we've stayed on site (we're here now) and we won't stay here again IF we're doing Disney World. We will probably come again several times a year to camp because truly-Fort Wilderness is a destination in it's own right and we are now hooked and I definitely understand why snowbirds come down here, set up their RVs and stay for 6 months at a time. To be honest...that is now exactly what we plan to do come retirement!
The early and late magic hours aren't a perk for us because we don't want to get up early on vacation and DD doesn't like staying late because she gets tired. Keep in mind though that we have been MANY times because of the resident pass special and would feel different if we hadn't already been a billion times and could only come once a year.
We don't do the dining plan because it would be an enormous amount of wasted food for us. We have found that it's not really all that much closer time wise to stay on site by the time you wait for buses etc.
Renting a house is great for large or multi families. We rented a gorgeous house from Villas Direct Orlando for our 2 families (which = $70 per night per family) that had a private heated pool, jacuzzi, game room, den, living room, 2 dining rooms ,4 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, and a fully stocked kitchen. Fantastic for doing spaghetti dinners, taco bars, etc by the pool as well as family breakfasts. Would I rent a house just for our family? Probably not-it doesn't sound like it would be much fun.
We've always stayed off site because of the cost/benefit ratio. In order to have the amenities we're accustomed to in hotels-we would have to stay in a Deluxe Resort(queen beds, fridge, microwave,coffee pot, and plenty of room) which would run about $250 or so a night.....or we can stay about 10 minutes front door to front gate from MK and get the same thing for $50 a night (yes, this includes tax and is on a newly renovated room with a large flat screen TV, 2 queen beds, kitchenette, WI-fi, breakfast, and park drop off if we want it-it is very nice and not in "the hood").
We would never stay at a Value or even Moderate resort (even if it were free) just because none of them have queen beds--unless the reservations people were wrong? If they were-someone PLEASE let me know because I may reconsider and try one of the hotels even though in general, Disney hotel rooms are smaller than their off site counterparts.
I don't know what to say about the crib debate-to each his own. David, I'm sorry about your child-that had to be horrible. You're right about one thing-it only takes one time. DD was about 14 months when she stood up in her stroller and fell and hit her head before we could catch her. She wasn't knocked unconscious but-flash forward 4 years and she began having seizures. Since head injury is a major cause for seizure disorders-the fall probably caused it.
Well, it's off to the campfire movie, 'smores, and watching Wishes from the beach.




