Okay...I've called the Late Night DISers, now I'm calling the SINGLE DISers!

[DocRafiki]

Originally posted by SuprGro78
Tigerbear I know you meant having the same last name as in getting married, but I was just wondering ladies. Would you/Will you change your last name? I have both my parents last names and I can't imaging changing them.

almost definitely not. now i have the added complication of having my name on my diploma and all my licenses. but, i decided not to back in high school. of course, back then i KNEW who i was going to marry. i have a beautiful (to me) ethnic name, and his was wilson. snore. besides, wilson was his step-father's name (he adopted him), so he wasn't even blood-related to the wilson family. no way would i take that name. we had discussed the possibility of his changing his name back to his original name and i would consider taking it. his real last name was the same ethnicity as mine, though still not as cool as mine.

 

[DocRafiki]

Originally posted by SuprGro78
Dis845 Thanks for the details. Lately I am living vicariously through others.


Florida Minnie, thanks for the good thoughts. It's better to have ended things before you went crazy like I did with my last BF. When you know things are wrong it's best to stop.

ooh ooh ooh! tell the going crazy story!

i let my last boyfriend hang around about 5 months too long. i think we only went out for 6 months, maybe 9. you can tell how much i cared. he just had a few qualities that were perfect and hard to find, not the least of which was being wealthy (cha-ching!), so there was that constant desire to change the things that made him rotten. as much as i hated working at my miserable job that i had at the time, at least i proved to myself that i'm not a COMPLETE money-grubber.

i am still upset that he was the BEST epcot partner (loved it just as much as i did and in exactly the same ways), and he had to go and turn out to be a jerk!

i know... enough about me...

 

[DocRafiki]

Originally posted by WebmasterBarry
Well, I can always date new suckers.

Heh, that's pretty much my way of thinking nowadays.

 

[BarryHom]

I hope this new "Webmaster" title gets me the ladies. Why do you think I took it? Heehee...

 

[DocRafiki]

What's WITH that, Barry?

 

[floridaminnie]

I think that the webmaster title has already gone to your head Barry.

I'll be waiting for my flowers!

 

[legs22]

and his name was wilson

Like the volleyball in the movie Castaway?

I took my ex-husband's name- I didn't like my maiden name and couldn't wait to be rid of it. Never regretted it. And I don't even want it back now that I'm divorced.

FLMinnie- Sorry I missed you at Disney. By the time I remembered to call you Saturday it was 9:15pm and Illuminations had ended. I think you were probably busy with "teacher guy" anyway. Sorry it didn't work out with him but at least you knew right away.

 

[BarryHom]

So D.R. was to marry a volleyball?

 

[DocRafiki]

wilson -- LAST NAME, people!

where's that vitamin B? or was it C?

Jennifer Wilson -- blech!

I was working on the idea of his taking MY name, and he wasn't totally against it (as far as I knew) <--- gotta add that disclaimer to any mention of what ANY guy is thinking

 

[CoasterAddict]

re:names
I took my husband's name when we got married--mainly because my maiden name is constantly misspelled, even when I spell it to someone (everyone seems to want the vowels to be different). I kept the name after the divorce, partly for that same reason, and partly because, philosophically, I wanted to be moving forward and I saw returning to my maiden name as moving backwards. I'm not that person anymore. Besides, I really like the *rest* of his relatives and am maintaining connections with them. I don't know what I'd do if I were to get married again. The new relationship, while proceeding quite nicely, isn't *nearly* to the stage of considering such things!

 

[TigerBear]

Thanks for the support.

Disney, thanks for sharing the magic of your first kiss with us. We must be special people! He definitely sounds like a keeper so far!

Doc, I defended my dissertation last month. My Ph.D. will be conferred in May - in Educational Psychology. I specialize in children with disabilities (emotional/behavioral/developmental). Oh, I was engaged at 19...really had no idea my ex would value his eventual profession so much more than mine.

Regarding the name change issue, even though it was SUCH a pain to get my maiden name back after my divorce, I know I will do it again. For me it is more about me wanting to have the same last name as my children. I have friends who can't understand why I would want to take my husband's last name. But they are also the couple who have yet to resolve what name their children will end up having. She wants the children to have her last name, he wants the children to have his.

And last but not least, I guess Barry is now Mr. Hot Stuff! Congratulations!! Any money out of the deal?

 

[Pin Wizard]

I couldn't wait to get rid of my maiden name. It was an ethnic name. No one could pronounce it properly, I ALWAYS had to spell it. I married into a nice common name! LOL! If I were to remarry, I'm not sure what I'd do. I would hate to hyphenate a last name between my current name and a new one. But having a child makes a world of difference! I want to keep his last name but add on a new husband's name.

 

[legs22]

But having a child makes a world of difference! I want to keep his last name but add on a new husband's name.

This is what I would also do. When I mentioned to the ex-bf I was serious with that I wanted to do this he became upset and insulted that I would even consider keeping my ex-h's name. That's only one of the reason's why he is an ex-bf.

 

[DocRafiki]

Originally posted by legs22
This is what I would also do. When I mentioned to the ex-bf I was serious with that I wanted to do this and why he became upset and insulted that I would even consider keeping my ex-h's name. That's only one of the reason's why he is an ex-bf.

I can understand his stance completely. I would hate to be reminded constantly of my spouse's ex. Ew. Of course, I should point out that I am so possessive that I have yet to date anyone who has an ex-wife or a kid. I've had enough problems with ex-girlfriends. {shudder}

 

[CoasterAddict]

I would hate to be reminded constantly of my spouse's ex.

I understand *that* completely. I'm much happier when the current guy ( ) refers to his ex by name rather than "title." "My ex" seems to keep a connection there that using her name doesnt'. But I understand that he can't just erase all those years of memories.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Why doesn't it surprise me that a man would think that way? LOL! You wouldn't be keeping it because of the ex-, but keeping it because of the child. Children need a connection to their mom in my book. When my sister divorced, she wanted to change her last name. Her therapist suggested she not do it just yet feeling that her son might be upset by giving up his last name. If I were to remarry, I couldn't leave my son without someone in the immediate family having his last name. How is he supposed to fit in? Of course, I could look for a male that has my last name already!

 

[legs22]

Why doesn't it surprise me that a man would think that way? LOL! You wouldn't be keeping it because of the ex-, but keeping it because of the child. Children need a connection to their mom in my book. When my sister divorced, she wanted to change her last name. Her therapist suggested she not do it just yet feeling that her son might be upset by giving up his last name. If I were to remarry, I couldn't leave my son without someone in the immediate family having his last name. How is he supposed to fit in?

Right, I would be keeping it for the child. It would be different if it were just me and I insisted on keeping the ex's name. If he can't understand that then I say *take a hike buddy*. Mr. Sensitive always made everything all about him. What I wanted never mattered.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by legs22
Right, I would be keeping it for the child. It would be different if it were just me and I insisted on keeping the ex's name. If he can't understand that then I say *take a hike buddy*. Mr. Sensitive always made everything all about him. What I wanted never mattered.

EXACTLY! I'm the same way...If you can't understand that, take a hike!! I dated one guy, well two, since Keith died. The first one always competed for my attention. If I was taking care of Richard...who was an infant at th time...he would interrupt me and expect me to pay attention to him. WRONG! Baby comes first! If a guy is going to compete against my child (at any age,) he is going to lose!

 

[BarryHom]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
almost definitely not. now i have the added complication of having my name on my diploma and all my licenses. but, i decided not to back in high school. of course, back then i KNEW who i was going to marry. i have a beautiful (to me) ethnic name, and his was wilson. snore. besides, wilson was his step-father's name (he adopted him), so he wasn't even blood-related to the wilson family. no way would i take that name. we had discussed the possibility of his changing his name back to his original name and i would consider taking it. his real last name was the same ethnicity as mine, though still not as cool as mine.

Hmmm..."Jennifer Hom" has a nice ring to it. Of course, no one can pronounce or spell my last name right.

 

[Disney845]

Barry- It is so weird seeing that "webmaster" title in front of your name....When did that happen? Tell me, does the job come with any perks?? Any freebies for your close "single" buddies?? nudge nudge.

Of course, no one can pronounce or spell my last name right.

I always assumed it rhymed with "bomb." Am I wayyyy off?

As far as the last name thing goes. Tough call. My ex, who at the time I had every intention of one day marrying had a last name I really didn't like. Don't think he knew I didn't like it, but I really didn't. It was as Jen mentioned boring and blah, and I just didn't think that it had that "ring" to it to go with my first and middle names (I have two). I assume that when I do marry I will take my husband's last name because I am not overly attached to mine. I have no feelings about it one way or the other. Just hope it sounds good with the rest of my name

Of course, I could look for a male that has my last name already!

Hmmm and you thought the pickin's were slim now!!