Ok, who got the crying college phone call!

[OhMari]

My dd is a Junior and she is doing great.
My ds can't believe all the new good looking girls walking around,

but, my poor sister got the phone call. My sister started crying and she couldn't even talk back, luckily I was there and I was able to talk to Katelyn and calm her down.

She has been in her dorm since Saturday and she don't start classes till Thursday. I told her she has to do at least one thing a day, that the University planned for the Freshman. And she had to get out of her dorm room.

She called me late last nite and told me she went and played Volleyball and felt much better. She also met a girl from West Bend, which is just a couple of miles away from our town.

But, I think she will need to change roommates, but that is a whole other story.

 

[ColoradoBuffaloMom]

What a nice aunt you are!

You gave your niece great advice. It is hard to take that first step but everyone is in the same boat. She should keep going to events and at meals try not to sit alone. Sit with another person who seems to be alone. It really does get better.

 

[krissy3483]

I agree, you just have to battle through it. It's hard to believe at the time, but everyone there is going through the same thing. Encourage her to ask a few kids in each class if they want to be study partners, this way you can get their names and numbers and have someone to hang out with.

 

[Pluto2003]

they lasted well into Oct.......now she thanks me for sending her away to college.....

 

[Jungle Skipper]

What a wonderful aunt you are....I remember going away to college back in 2000 and feeling uneasy for sure....I was just to stubborn to let it show....MY roommates were Juniors and didn't show up for 5 days after I did....so I was alone in that room too long, I was really starting to hate it. I kinda went into a social shell at the time and havent been the same since, but I it was an experience I needed. after a day or two I ended up opening my door all the time and tried my best to have fun...then I ended up at Disney and a whole new college experience.

Heck, now I find myself back in college working on a second college degree and wondering if I am making the right decision or not...for some reason I can't shake this nagging urge to second guess myself.

The weird thing about today....I was walking through the quad running errands for my work study job, and I cant believe how young all these kids are...I in all these freshman classes and the freshman are all so young....I feel old....and Im only 22 (almost 23)! I so need to develop a new social life here....argh..suggestions?

Jungle Josh

 

[NHAnn]

Weeellll.....
We moved DD in Friday (my only biological child and the youngest of our blended family)......
she's less than an hour away.......
but it's just sinking in for all of us (classes started yesterday)
There's been some choking up on the phone but also a REALLY mature and brave mindset....(on HER part at least ).....she's REALLY REALLY homesick but knows it will pass and is just trying to "stay busy and meet people" to get through it. Helps that she's very happy with her room and roomate, and I know she is meeting people in the dorm...and hopefully will get some of those "study group" things going, especially since most of her "general ed" requirement classes are such BIG lectures. Also helps that a couple of her close friends from HS are there too....although they are among a freshman class of several thousand and consciously decided to not room together and expand their horizons...they ARE "there for each other".

You gave her great advice Auntie!!
I hope you gave your sister a hug

 

[OhMari]

I feel old....and Im only 22 (almost 23)! I so need to develop a new social life here....argh..suggestions?

My DD son is 22 and my ds is 20. When they started at Northern in Marquette they found out everyone was on an average 21-22 years old and living in the dorms. Sometimes ages can be deceiving and 22 is not that old.

Both of my kids play Rugby on Saturday mornings and I guess they have a great time Saturday afternoons. Do you like sports? They both play on intermirral teams such as volleball on weeknights.

I love reading your post Jungle Skipper, especiallly your last trip report. When ever you post, I am one of those mom's that want to set you up on a blind date with my daughter.

 

[hercamore]

Good advice, and hope your neice can pull thru the homesickness quickly.

We have kids similar ages. My DD (20) is a junior at Univ of Minn. TC and is also doing well. She is shy and that first year was really a struggle.

DS (23) just started grad school at MSU, East Lansing. He's struggling to get used to life in Mich and he absolutely knew noone when he started this week. He has a serious gf, so that's another story.

herc.

 

[lilpritch04]

So nice of you to talk to your neice and help her out.

It's great the the college has freshman activities planned. It is a great way for freshman to get involved and meet new people. The best thing I did was keep my dorm room door open almost all the time that I was in the room. People will stop by to say "hi" and introduce themselves. The other good this is to eat in the cafeteria--really.

About the roommate thing, if she senses things aren't going to work out, have her tell her RA ASAP. My roommate was very, shall we say, friendly with many different guys. I ended up changing rooms early in the term and it was just fine.

Once her classes start, life should get easier because she'll have more interaction and studying to keep her busy of course.

Freshman year is hard; but is gets much better!

 

[Pooh's Pal]

Oh My....I just got that dreaded crying call!!! Sobbing is more like it!
DD's birthday is this coming Sunday and had invited one of her good friends over for Sat. night, who goes to another college about 30 minutes away. Well tonight they had a dorm meeting and were told that they were not allowed to have any overnight guests until the weekend of the 17th (campus policy)!
She was upset to say the least...and then everything else that was bothering her came to a head. She said her Law class was wicked hard, wants to drop it and change her major already and her Algebra class is just too easy! She says people steal things (?, stuff off the doors! ) and the other girls in the dorm are stuck up/fake!(an all girls college!)
Sounds like high school all over again to me! By the end of my 20 minute phone call tonight, she'd calmed down and will probably go to her friends dorm on Sat. night, I told her she could come home, but she said, no, that she'll be home in October.
Oh Vey! If I make it through the 1st month it will be a miracle!