Ok, strange question: is it rude to ask for salt and pepper??

[Stephanie218]

I hate eating meat at my boyfriend's house because his mom doesn't believe in salt. She DOES NOT HAVE a salt shaker!! I couldn't believe it, the first time i asked for salt when we started dating, and she looked at me really confused, and said, "We don't use that". They had some in a big container for baking, but no shaker! Needless to say, I don't enjoy eating dinner there.

 

[LoveWDW]

It isn't rude as long as you taste the food first. To ask for salt and pepper before tasting the food indicates that you expect the food to not be satisfactory.

At a family meal just go get it. At a friend's, ask. But at least go through the motions of tasting the food first.

I hate eating meat at my boyfriend's house because his mom doesn't believe in salt. She DOES NOT HAVE a salt shaker!! I couldn't believe it, the first time i asked for salt when we started dating, and she looked at me really confused, and said, "We don't use that". They had some in a big container for baking, but no shaker! Needless to say, I don't enjoy eating dinner there.

Could you or she put a small amount of salt into a custard cup so you could pinch out as much as you wanted for your food?

 

[MAKmom]

Buy them a really nice pepper & salt mill. Then they will feel like they should have it out when you come over.

 

[Nancy]

I don't put out salt and pepper but it's because I usually forget about it...we don't use it at the table in my house. I put it in while cooking but never at the table. If anyone actually wants it they just get it themself. So if I have company I pretty much forget about it. MY SIL has asked for it a few times and I always apologized for not putting it out....now she just gets her herself and puts it out for me!

Edited to add...I don't think it's rude to ask for it. Maybe do it nicely.."Would you mind if I went and got the salt and pepper?"

 

[clh2]

Anyone else have wierd MIL cooking/serving stories??

My MOTHER has been on a healthy food kick for years. There is no salt or butter/margarine that gets served at meals. "it's not healthy." My mom used to be a really good cook, until all that healthy stuff. We are the only family in the country that has had a low fat, low cholesterol, low sodium Thanksgiving dinner. It is down right nasty. No mashed potatoes & gravy, just rice. Turkey without gravy is dry. No stuffing didn't bother me - I just don't care for it. She had french bread - but don't ask for butter, there wasn't any. The cranberry sauce was sweetened with beets. And for dessert - no pumpkin pie - she made a pumplin souffle instead, with some grape nuts on the top for a little texture. Just plain old nasty. Needless to say, mom was eventually relieved of cooking at the holidays. She still cooks lowfat, low cholesterol and low sodium, we just won't eat it at the holidays.

 

[Stephanie218]

Could you or she put a small amount of salt into a custard cup so you could pinch out as much as you wanted for your food?

I could, but I'd just feel awkward doing that I think, and making a big deal out of it. His family already makes fun of me for not eating certain foods, so I try and just avoid conflict as much as possible.

Buy them a really nice pepper & salt mill. Then they will feel like they should have it out when you come over.

That's a great idea! Never thought of that before, lol.

 

[MAKmom]

My MOTHER has been on a healthy food kick for years. There is no salt or butter/margarine that gets served at meals. "it's not healthy." My mom used to be a really good cook, until all that healthy stuff. We are the only family in the country that has had a low fat, low cholesterol, low sodium Thanksgiving dinner. It is down right nasty. No mashed potatoes & gravy, just rice. Turkey without gravy is dry. No stuffing didn't bother me - I just don't care for it. She had french bread - but don't ask for butter, there wasn't any. The cranberry sauce was sweetened with beets. And for dessert - no pumpkin pie - she made a pumplin souffle instead, with some grape nuts on the top for a little texture. Just plain old nasty. Needless to say, mom was eventually relieved of cooking at the holidays. She still cooks lowfat, low cholesterol and low sodium, we just won't eat it at the holidays.

Thats horrible. We eat really healthy but I don't force it on guest. I cook mainstream for the Holidays. I did make DD9 a Dairy free pumkin pie that worked out great. BUT I had a MRS Smith in the freezer just in case. I do make the Mashed potatoes with soy milk but know one can tell the difference.

 

[HayGan]

I wouldn't be offended if someone asked me for salt and pepper so I don't think it is rude.

Same here!

If it was that bad I would be asking for it even if it was thought of as rude

 

[Michie]

How often do you eat her cooking? How about telling her that you are going to take her out to eat for she can take a break from cooking? That way, you both win.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

How often do you eat her cooking? How about telling her that you are going to take her out to eat for she can take a break from cooking? That way, you both win.

We don't eat at their house very often. I would find it rude to respond to, "Would you like to come over for dinner tomorrow night?" with "How about we go out instead?"

We went over for lunch yesterday. Thankfully, it was already-made hamburgers from Wal-Mart and hotdogs, all made on a Foreman grill. The only catch was the invited us for 1:00 but decided to go ahead and cook when they got home from church, which was about 11:15 So we had cold bugers but at least they were edible!!

 

[Marseeya]

We don't eat at their house very often. I would find it rude to respond to, "Would you like to come over for dinner tomorrow night?" with "How about we go out instead?"

We went over for lunch yesterday. Thankfully, it was already-made hamburgers from Wal-Mart and hotdogs, all made on a Foreman grill. The only catch was the invited us for 1:00 but decided to go ahead and cook when they got home from church, which was about 11:15 So we had cold bugers but at least they were edible!!

OMG. How old are your inlaws?

My inlaws live six hours from us, so we don't eat with them very often needless to say. When we go out there to visit, I am highly disappointed at having to eat at her house. Let's just say it's What's ironic about it, though, is back when DH and I first got married we were poor as dirt. Any trip out there had to be done on the cheap. The problem was, she'd never cook dinner for us, so we'd either have to go without eating or find a way to eat meals out (fortunately, DH's stepmother took pity on us and made dinner when she would realize what was going on). Now that we're much more financially comfortable and can afford to stay in a hotel and eat dinners in restaurants, she wants to cook meals for us! I didn't realize how good we had it in those early days.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Marseeya,

MIL is (I think) 58 and FIL is 60. Still very young (at least to me).

Like I've said before, this really isn't a big deal, just something I wanted thoughts and opinions on. When I cook for someone, I look at it like I am giving them a gift. I take the time and effort to make it special, even if it's just spaghetti So if I asked family over for dinner and they suggested going out instead (consistantly, not just every now and then) my feelings would be hurt a little.