Ok, so I didn't start out to great on the boards.

[twilight913]

But if anyone is willing to offer advice, it would greatly be appreciated. I wasn't going to post about this, but now that I'm thinking about it, I've just gotta tell it to someone.

So, I've just graduated from high school, and my boyfriend of a year and a half just got his GED. Problem is, he's been accepted to an Art school in his hometown of Pittsburgh. That's 900 miles away from where I live in FL. He wants me to go, but I've seen my aunts cry when my cousins come to visit from out of state, and I don't know if I can put my mother through that. I mean, I love my boyfriend to death, don't get me wrong. But my family is exactly that, my FAMILY. I feel like no matter what I do, I will always be letting someone down. I can't seem to talk myself into packing my stuff and moving 900 miles away from my family, my friends, and my security to go live in a new place where I know absolutely no one except my boyfriend and his father (who I would be living with). I mean, what happens if for some terrible reason, and I hope I'm not jinxing myself with this, but what if we were to break up while in PA. Then if I don't have money for a plane ticket, I'm stuck miles away from my home, with no where to live. Am I wrong for not wanting to put myself through that?

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

Wait, are you highschool or college age?
Because that would make a world of difference in the situation.

 

[twilight913]

Wait, are you highschool or college age?
Because that would make a world of difference in the situation.

Sorry, I meant to add that into the post. I'm seventeen. I'll be 18 on September 13th, and he's supposed to be leaving just days after my birthday.

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

Well, what are you planning to do college-wise?
Did you have something in mind, or are you just going to settle for something in Pittsburgh because that's where your boyfriend's going?

Either way, I think it would probably be a bad idea to go with him.
You'd be leaving your family for something that probably won't last forever, and is there really anything in Pittsburgh (besides him) that would help YOU out?

That's just my opinion, though.

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

But if anyone is willing to offer advice, it would greatly be appreciated. I wasn't going to post about this, but now that I'm thinking about it, I've just gotta tell it to someone.

So, I've just graduated from high school, and my boyfriend of a year and a half just got his GED. Problem is, he's been accepted to an Art school in his hometown of Pittsburgh. That's 900 miles away from where I live in FL. He wants me to go, but I've seen my aunts cry when my cousins come to visit from out of state, and I don't know if I can put my mother through that. I mean, I love my boyfriend to death, don't get me wrong. But my family is exactly that, my FAMILY. I feel like no matter what I do, I will always be letting someone down. I can't seem to talk myself into packing my stuff and moving 900 miles away from my family, my friends, and my security to go live in a new place where I know absolutely no one except my boyfriend and his father (who I would be living with). I mean, what happens if for some terrible reason, and I hope I'm not jinxing myself with this, but what if we were to break up while in PA. Then if I don't have money for a plane ticket, I'm stuck miles away from my home, with no where to live. Am I wrong for not wanting to put myself through that?

I think you just answered your own question on whether or not you should go.

You don't want to.

Trust your first instinct, don't go.

 

[theodorechipmunkluvr]

U have 2 very good points. I kno this is probably the last thing on your mind but what on your mind, but what do u want to do when u grow up? Do u want to be an artist or what do u want to do? That should decide what college u go to.

 

[twilight913]

I could have very easily gotten into the same school as him, for Photography. But I can also do that here, a lot cheaper at the community college or even online classes. Not to mention that I already have people willing to pay me to do their photos, without actually going to college for it. My problem is, should I try to make it work, or just cut my losses and hope we can get back together when he comes home. I've always been an overly flirty person, and I don't want that to ruin our relationship. It's not that I don't trust him, but I'm not so sure if I trust myself...

 

[PowerMonkey]

ok, well im currently in college right now and i want to just say that you shouldnt go to a specific college because of your boyfriend or because of your family..... The thing about college is to start off new and find your own corner of life... so you should pick a college that has everthing that suites your personal needs... not your boyfriends needs.. not your familys needs.. but YOUR needs...


and imo, if a relationship is strong enough, than different colleges wont end it


just my 2 cents

 

[DramaQueen]

ok, well im currently in college right now and i want to just say that you shouldnt go to a specific college because of your boyfriend or because of your family..... The thing about college is to start off new and find your own corner of life... so you should pick a college that has everthing that suites your personal needs... not your boyfriends needs.. not your familys needs.. but YOUR needs...


and imo, if a relationship is strong enough, than different colleges wont end it


just my 2 cents

exaca-tica-ly!

my BF and I had to go our seperate ways for university.
i stayed in our town and lived at home, while he moved on campus to a uni 2 hours away (2 hrs and 900 miles is alot different, but trust me, it feels the same)
it was REALLY REALLY hard, sometimes I really wish we went to the same school and taht we could see each other more during the year.
i'm nt going to lie, we fought alot more than we ever did being away from each other.
i was an emotional basketcase for 1/2 the school year.

but now that it's summer and he's back, it's like we were never apart.
if your relationship is strong you guys will make it no matter how far away you are from each other.

pick the school and program that YOU want to go to and will be relevant to your future (career wise and such)
i'm a big homebody (okay i'm a baby) and i would neverrrr want to leave home (unless i was moving in with a bf/husband) i would miss my family waaay way too much!!!!

anyways, the decision is ultimatley up to you.
think for yourself though (if you're anything like me that'll be a challenge, cuz i'm always putting other people before myself) but this is a BIG decision in your life. make sure you make the right one for you.

 

[PigletGurl]

Yeah, stay home. You probably wont even marry him.

 

[MrsSparrow..]

I'm gonna agree with some posts above here.

Going to college/university whatever, Is all about starting your own life and making your own memories. It's your first chance to experience the big world on your own!

I hope you can work this thing out.

 

[AbsoluteAwesome1]

Don't do it if you don't want to.
Hardly any relationship lasts forever, especially at this stage in your life.