OK, so here's invite wording..PLEASE BE HONEST :)

[Lorelei528]

Ok, first of all, I checked and if your mom is a widow (like mine) and she is hosting the event, it's actually not proper to list your dad's name on the invite as obviously, the deceased party cannot be an host of the event...

Secondly, DF(H) parents have not contributed to wedding and as far as I can tell won't be (it's ok, they are helping us out with some other financial stuff otherwise, yes, it would really bother me)...so I didn't list them in the invite, I think that's ok...

Here is the wording I think I'm going with. Haven't shown it to Eoghan yet, actually wanted to see what you guys thought first! Please check for typos and grammar and spelling and stuff-thanks!!

I think we'll start with the standard because Eoghan likes it:

Once in awhile
Right in the middle of ordinary life
Love gives us a fairytale

In the spirit of the magic
That brought them together
Mrs. Frederick xxxx invites you to join
Lori xxxx
And
Eoghan xxxxxxx
For their fairytale wedding
At the place where dreams come true.....

Friday, the first day of May
Two thousand and nine
At Two thirty in the afternoon

Sea Breeze Point
Disney's Boardwalk
Walt Disney World
Lake Buena Vista, Florida


"In life, one and one don't make two
One and one make one..." Pete Townsend

 

[PrincessShea]

Very cute

Now don't change this on my account because I am not 100%, but I think awhile should be two separate words: "Once in a while"

 

[Angela0917]

I would list his parents also, even if they're not paying for anything.

We were in a similar situation.

Ours read Mr. and Mrs. bla blah blah request the honor of your presence of the marriage of me and Matt, son of Mr. and Mrs.

So that way nobody would think that they're the ones giving the wedding. I just think it's a nice thing to do and would avoid any hurt feelings. But if your fiance is ok with their names not being on it, than go for it! I don't know how close you are with his parents.

 

[dhay]

I would list his parents also, even if they're not paying for anything.

We were in a similar situation.

Ours read Mr. and Mrs. bla blah blah request the honor of your presence of the marriage of me and Matt, son of Mr. and Mrs.

So that way nobody would think that they're the ones giving the wedding. I just think it's a nice thing to do and would avoid any hurt feelings. But if your fiance is ok with their names not being on it, than go for it! I don't know how close you are with his parents.

I always thought ettiquette was if they are paying they are listed,. which is why you see brides parents names on there a lot, and if they are not, they are not listed.

We paid for ours entirely so we did not list either sets since we were the ones "hosting"

 

[StitchBride]

I think it looks good! Ours were very, very similar and we only listed my parents since they were the ones hosting the event. The invites for the rehearsal dinner showed his mother but in either case, I think its what works for you and your fiancee. I love the Pete Townsend quote!

 

[Angela0917]

I always thought ettiquette was if they are paying they are listed,. which is why you see brides parents names on there a lot, and if they are not, they are not listed.

We paid for ours entirely so we did not list either sets since we were the ones "hosting"

I'm really not sure what the proper ettiquette is, but I personally would feel bad listing mine and not his. If your DF is fine with it, than that's cool. My DF would not have been ok with that.

 

[Lorelei528]

Ok, see I'm so confused..after reading what Angela just wrote I called my sister in law (my bro's wife) and she said, I should include his parents name somehow like Eoghan, son of Anne and Richard....etc...and also I asked my mom if she would prefer Mrs. (dad's name) or just her name so now maybe it'll go something like this?

Once in awhile
Right in the middle of ordinary life
Love gives us a fairytale

In the spirit of the magic
That brought them together
Thelma xxxx invites you to the fairytale wedding of
her daughter Lori
And
Eoghan, son of Anne and Richard Delaney
For their fairytale wedding
At the place where dreams come true.....

Friday, the first day of May
Two thousand and nine
At Two thirty in the afternoon

Sea Breeze Point
Disney's Boardwalk
Walt Disney World
Lake Buena Vista, Florida


"In life, one and one don't make two
One and one make one..." Pete Townsend

 

[Lorelei528]

we only listed my parents since they were the ones hosting the event.

See, that's what I thought...BUT who knows? I don't want to insult them in any way! I really like his parents!!! This etiquette stuff kills me!! Ugh...not sure what to do, I'll ask Eoghan, I'm sure he would like to see his parents name on the invite...it's only 18 guests and it's all family but I still want it to be right...the thing is when it comes time for the at home reception invites, even though his parents won't even be there, I think for that I will definitely put their names on it somewhere (ie. son of his mama and daddy)...

It seems like so far the Pete Townsend quote is well received-thanks!! I'm glad you all seem to like it!

Keep the opinions etc. coming please...I'm so confused!!

Thanks for the replies so far!

 

[lurkyloo]

Here's my proof pass!

Once in a while
Right in the middle of an ordinary life
Love gives us a fairy tale

In the spirit of the magic
That brought them together
Mrs. Frederick xxxx invites you to join
Lori xxxx
and
Eoghan xxxxxxx
For their fairy tale wedding
At the place where dreams come true.....

Friday, the first day of May
Two thousand and nine
At two thirty in the afternoon

Sea Breeze Point
Disney's BoardWalk
Walt Disney World
Lake Buena Vista, Florida


"In life, one and one don't make two
One and one make one..." - Pete Townsend

 

[Lorelei528]

Carrie-
Thanks for the editing!!! This is stuff I wouldn't have caught at all!! I'm a pretty good speller but not so sure when to capitalize etc...especially in an invitation etc...

 

[lpizzuro123]

His parents names should not be on the invite unless they are contributing to the cost of the wedding.

Linda

 

[torsie24]

I wouldn't feel obliged to put his parents on the invites. I wont be on ours.

Love your wording though. Tried to read it outloud to Jack and I got a bit choked up!

 

[Lorelei528]

I wouldn't feel obliged to put his parents on the invites. I wont be on ours.

Love your wording though. Tried to read it outloud to Jack and I got a bit choked up!

Ok, now I'm going back to not putting them on!!! WOW!!! That's the first thing that I've posted that someone said they got choked up about!! whoo hoo for me!

Seriously, this thing with the parents' name is freaking me out...but I'm sure even in Ireland, the etiquette must be similar....UK brides, care to share? Oh wait! Torsie is a UK bride! hmm....

I'm thinking I won't put their names on since they're not hosting or even paying for the "reheursal/meet and greet dinner" My mom is basically paying for EVERYTYHING (well, we'll be helping as much as we can, but it's really all about my mommy)....

Keep the opinions coming in the meantime please! Thanks all!

 

[Disneychix]

We did the "Together with their parents" route because we had lots of step parents and we weren't sure MIL was paying for anything till right at the end. Also, we paid for a lot of it too!

I like the invitation. Do you know how the spacing on the invitations will go? They only other thing is you say "At the place where dreams come true....." but then you list the date and time and the place comes after that.

 

[torsie24]

Yes, I'm UK, and every wedding invite I've seen has just been the brides parents name.

I certainly will just be sticking to my parents only on the invites, as even if his do chip in it'll only be the odd thing here and there, and my dads gonna foot like $30k for it.

So don;t feel bad, if they were going 50/50 with your parents then maybe. But if they do get a bit funny about just say

"Oh i read about invite etiquette and it said to write it like this.

(Which is true as I kept a clipping about invite etiquette and it doesnt mention a sngle thing about putting his parents on.)

Can i ask though - do you put the parents names on save the dates? Or just keep them pretty informal....?

 

[Lorelei528]

On our STD's I didn't mention either parents and they were ultra casual...I will post a pic of them this weekend in my PJ, haven't done that yet...

 

[ElleBren]

Just to give my two cents. We put his parents names on it even though they didn't contribute. We went along the lines of

Joe & Mary Smith invite you to the wedding of their daughter

Elle

to

DH

son of John & Sally Bren

blah blah blah


no specific reason, but I did see it on a lot of invites that were example wordings for brides parent(s) paying.

 

[rumrunnergirl]

The only thing I would change is make it read this way:

Disney's BoardWalk Resort

 

[malibustacey]

oh yeah, i like! Its worded very nice. I would like something like that one our invites... its very Disney and sounds romantic and cute!!