Ok ~ I am irritated

[anewvance]

I'm not so much of a packrat as dh is. I'm 100% serious when I say that I keep my house just fine. But I do let laundry back up a week, let the dishes sit a day, not make the kids make their bed EVERY single day... and so on. I usually have a pack of papers on my desk by the couch and I'll admit to having ebay stuff out in baskets in my living room at times. But does this honestly sound horrible to you? I had gotten into the routine of really keeping up with it all a few months back and then wham, I got into the car accident. And i'm the first to admit I am not as on the ball as I was...but really, it's not bad at all!

I think one poster hit it on the head, my grandma has control issues and it drives me crazy. But this is also the lady that raised me from the age of 2. She gave us trips and lessons and a college education. I don't feel totally like I owe her but I do have to respect her and I really do love her. I just don't know how to handle when these situations come up. Plus the fact that our family is very protective of her... say one negative thing about her and it goes back to her within 24 hours. They will fight you tooth and nail to prove that you were wrong, not her... this is my mom, aunt, grandfather that I am talking about.

Ok, enough of the pity on me stuff.... 19 minutes until my birthday, why oh why am I not feeling so festive?

 

[Skylarr29]

You have every right to be upset.. I am upset for you from just reading this. I would change the locks and tell dear grandma that next time see enters the house you will be calling the police. It sounds extreme and even mean but she is obviously not getting the hints you have given. I would also make it crystal clear to her that you are very upset about this and the fact that she gave the clothing to good will when you had intent to sell it on ebay. And I would guilt trip her big time. It is also your husbands responsibility to talk to his mother about this as it is his mother. Change your locks and don't ever let anyone have the key again... they obviously scammed you with the "I lost my key". Oh and I just have to say that your kids are growing like weeds. I love how you always change their pics!!!

 

[KristaTX]

Happy Birthday, Melissa

 

[Divamomto3]

Your post made me furious AND made me want to cry. First of all, change the locks. Second of all, bill these insane women for what they owe you. Third of all, and this may seem very harsh, but never speak to these evil wenches again. Fourth, I'd move out of state if I could.

Happy Birthday and best of luck to you!

 

[MoniqueU]

Wow I would be fuming. I would have to let loose on that one.
MY mil comes up and loads my dishwasher the wrong way, scrubs my stoves, starts cleaning and all sorts of other stuff. She thinks she is being helpful but it gets on my nerves. I like my house just the way it is and if I want my dishwasher loaded I will do it myself.

 

[mickeysgal]

I had purposely left my free ticket from Universal Studios on the table next to the couch. It was a free ticket to Universal Studios and other entries for $35 each. The plan was to take my little sister up there next weekend. She took it upon herself to throw it away! She nor my grandma can't understand why I am upset about this. Hello! It was a FREE TICKET!!! She also threw away 2 ebay payments and a post office receipt that had delivery confirmation numbers that I needed on it.

You've got to be kidding! Gotta love family...

Change the locks.

 

[mickeysgal]

Ok, enough of the pity on me stuff.... 19 minutes until my birthday, why oh why am I not feeling so festive?

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

change the locks and give NO ONE an extra key

 

[lucyanna girl]

Happy Birthday to You!!!!

I think my birthday gift to myself would be new locks. I'm sorry you lost your things. I understand that your grandmother is very important to you. Just change the locks and don't say anything. The next time she tries something like this your point will be made without a single word being spoken.
Meanwhile, have a great birthday. You are a special person and deserve a special day.

Penny and Sarah

 

[jtnsami]

CHANGE THE LOCKS!!! Ever hear of "Judge Judy"? Boy this would make her boil!

 

[UrsulasMyHero]

I'm sorry that this happened to you. What I don't get is WHY on earth they thought it would be a remotely GOOD IDEA to take your things and give them to good will. If they know you E-bay, then they know that's your income. Sounds to me like Gmom and MIL wanted a bit of Exertion of control over you,a dh this was how they were going to do it. I'm also not sure why they would throw out a good ticket or payments that haven't been cashed are these women DAFT? They need to repay you for what they threw out. And yes...
CHANGE
THE
LOCKS!

 

[minkydog]

Wow I would be fuming. I would have to let loose on that one.
MY mil comes up and loads my dishwasher the wrong way, scrubs my stoves, starts cleaning and all sorts of other stuff. She thinks she is being helpful but it gets on my nerves. I like my house just the way it is and if I want my dishwasher loaded I will do it myself.

My step-dad used to do stuff like that: take the faucets aprt and clean them, get up on the roof and inspect it, tighten the screws in the outlets, dust the lightbulbs,etc. It drove me crazy, but eventually i got used to it--he meant no harm.He's been gone 4yrs and I'd give anything if he could fix my bathtub faucet

OP, I know you would never want to call the police on Grandma. I probably wouldn't either. I'm appalled that your DH is taking this so flippantly. It's nobdy's business if you are a great housekeeper, mediocre, or downright nasty. Nobody's business but yours and your hubby's. You will never see any money from this incident because none of them think they have done your wrong. so chalk it up to experience and change the locks--TOMORROW.

Unless you want to invite them back for more

 

[DisnyMama]

Have a great day,
Shannon

 

[ksjayhawks]

That is terrible that they went in your house and threw/gave away your belongings without permission. I would definitely change the locks. Go to lowes, home depot, walmart, whereever and get new locks. They are not that expensive and that hard to change. You can do it yourself, I did ours when we moved in. Then do not give a key to anyone and make dh promise to do the same, no matter what is said to him!

Sending pd and hugs.

 

[anewvance]

My husband told me he has another lock set for the front door in the garage. Guess what his job is this weekend? I think it's a good idea. We don't have to tell anyone we are doing it, just the next time they try to get in, it won't work for them.

PHampton is being a sweetie about the situation. But I told her I appreciated it but it was 2 hours too late. My mom called me early last night to tell me she was taking my little sister to Orlando during the week next week to use the Disney tickets my sister got from singing at the Candlelight Processional. So I'm sure my little sister wouldn't want to drive up there mid week and go all the way back up again on the weekend with me. I'll ask her, but I doubt it. Just another kick in the butt. Plus I have to remember i'm 2 ebay payments short thanks to the throw away... money I had put aside for this particular trip.

Thanks for all the Happy Birthday wishes. On a good note, my dh gave me Kelly Clarkson tickets for June 30th. I've seen her in concert before and can't wait to go again... she's my favorite!!!

 

[barkley]

father's day is approaching-how about getting dear old dad a security system you can point out that you will actualy be saving money cuz it will reduce your homeowner's insurance. then when you go on a trip all you do is call the company and tell them no-one including anyone claiming to be a relative is permitted access (which they share with the police if they have to dispatch for it being set off).

if you do new locks make sure to keep your keys secure at all times-people have been know to take someone's housekey, make a copy and return the original. also, if you have remote entry to the garage-make sure it's either locked in the house or no-one has the spare key to the car to access it.

now if it were me (but i'm evil at times)-i might consider driving the point home by emailing "the cleaning bandits" and telling them you just notice something of major value missing, and casualy mention that the police (or your homeowner's insurance rep) may be contacting them to discuss what they removed vs. the burglary you suspect may have occured after they unsecured your previously secured home

 

[Maleficent13]

now if it were me (but i'm evil at times)-i might consider driving the point home by emailing "the cleaning bandits" and telling them you just notice something of major value missing, and casualy mention that the police (or your homeowner's insurance rep) may be contacting them to discuss what they removed vs. the burglary you suspect may have occured after they unsecured your previously secured home

I love this!

 

[agnes!]

My take...Grandma "said" she just couldn't seem to find her key? HA! I hate to say this, but I would bet she knew where her key was all the time and was planning on invading your house and throwing out stuff while you were OUT OF THE COUNTRY as soon as she found out about your trip to Ireland. I bet that she PLANNED this, and that this cleaning invasion was pre-meditated, not a spur-of-the-moment thing.
Also, I think it's interesting that she got your MIL involved. Sounds like she might want to spread the blame around and have an accomplice?

It would have been nicer (if they indeed felt that your house was such a shambles), to ask you what the two of them could do(Grandma and MIL) to help you, especially after the car accident.
And don't you think it's kind of funny - I guess you are the only one in the house who is able to clean? They must think that no one else who lives there can pick up stuff or help, it's all blamed on you? sheesh.

agnes!
PS - Get all the locks changed. Tell NO ONE in the family. If you *must* give a key to a trusted neighbor or perhaps to whoever called you to tell you about Grandma & MIL being in your house while you were away.
Tell NO ONE in the family exactly how this has made you feel, you yourself said that it will just get quickly back to Grandma.
Also, respect is a two-way street. Grandma needs to respect YOU.

 

[NikiM20]

I could be writing this thread!! I am a mediocre housekeeper and it drives my Grandmother (who also raised me) INSANE. It goes from they are tring to be helpful to they are butting into my life. I agree change the locks , but I would also talk to them both.

 

[yeartolate]

Sneak into her house every night and tilt all the pictures on the wall.