We are going with my mom who is a very picky eater. At O'hana's they have spicy shrimp. Is it cooked spicy or is it spicy because of the sides they give with it? Can you ask for not spicy? We are a group of 8. One not on the DDP, family of 3 on it and family of 4 on it. I see gratuity is added to parties of 8 or more. How does that work? If appetizers are ordered, can they be on separate checks? This is the first time we've used DDP and I'm dreading it since were going as a group.