Hello Mylove4disney,
My family and I were in a 2BR dedicated OV at the Aulani Nov. 1-7th. I have to tell you that you and your party are going to have so much to do and have so much fun. They are many activities planned throughout out the day and night. As for the kitchen, I thought it was a little smaller than some other
Dvc resorts, but it was fine for our family. The kitchen had a medium and tiny frypan and two smaller pots. We did not need to have larger cookware because our three young kids do not eat much. They do have a rice cooker, which we used often. The dishes and glasses were for a service of eight.
As for the luau/show, we ended up going to the Fia Fia show at the Marriott Beachclub (two resorts down from Aulani-it is really close by). We had a blast and it was very intimate (only about 300 people, instead of the 1000+ at most of the other luaus) and the food was good too. Since there are not too many people, everyone who wanted to participate in the free activites were able to. The best part of the show is the host, chief S is so funny and entertaining. I would definitely see the show again. The cost is $90 for adults and they only have the show on Tuesday nights. We booked through the Marriot Beachclub before our trip. There are no discounts for the show, but I heard if you go to their timeshare meeting, you can elect to go the the show for free.
You may want to go the the Dole Plantation, there are some fun things there to see. Also, try the shrimp trucks on your way to The North shore, and don't forget to try the shave ice at Matsumoto's in Haleiwa. Also, if you all have an extra free day, try the Polynesian Cultural Center. It is about an hour from Ko Olina, but it was a wonderful experience to learn about the culture and to participate in the activities they had.
As the welcome gift at the Aulani, the women receive a flower lei and the men receive a kukui nut necklace upon arrive at the resort front entrance. We also had flower leis' waiting for us at the airport. It was a very nice way to start our vacation. Have an awesome time!
I used our Oahu Revealed book throughout our trip. The maps are great and the book was full of activites for use to do.