Obligated to inform parents?

[ScarlettO]

As an adult to you feel obligated to tell your parents about your health problems or upcoming tests?


If they are elderly, would you wait until after the test to inform them so they don't worry?

 

[Kimberle]

No.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

No. I don't tell my parents unless I know it's something serious. No need to get them to worry until you know for sure.

 

[Fizban257]

Yes, but we're very close and they do the same.

 

[mickeyboat]

It depends on how close you are to them and how you think they would react to the news. I live 800 miles away from my mother. Although I feel close to her, I would not tell her until there was something definitive.

Denae

 

[Davids-Coco]

I tell my mom all the time when things are going on. She knows my family history much better and can help me figure out what is going on and if it is something I should worry about.

I think it depends on the parents. If they will take it hard and have their own health problems, that is something to consider. Also, both my aunts are nuses... their kids don't tell them about the stuff just because they don't want to hear all the gruesome details and bad things it *could* be. But, I also want my parents to tell me about their problems, so I stay open with mine.

 

[Talking Hands]

NO, in fact , we rarely discuss our health problems with them until after the fact if at all.

 

[Rajah]

Obligated? No. But I tell my mom anyway because I want to. Because I want her support, and I know she'd want to know. But I don't feel I *have* to tell her.

 

[Keli]

I think things like this depend on your relationship with your parents. Do you want them to call you when they have upcoming tests? If that were the case then you should tell them and vice versa. Of course if they are elderly and will become very anxious I can see why you would want to wait until you had something definite to tell them.

 

[Trish Bessette]

No I don't feel obligated but I'm very close with my parents and freely discuss any health issues.

Do what makes you comfortable.

 

[DukeStreetKing]

I don't tell my mother anything. She get's all upset and then will never let go of it. She'll ask me about things that were wrong from 20 years ago.

LOL.

 

[Beauty]

Like Tami said I don't feel obligated but I do. My mom is a great support of comfort for me.

I have a wonderful relationship with my mother and she lives with us since my father died. I would never keep something important a secret from her nor would she keep something from us.

 

[missypie]

My mother is the champion worrier of all time...she'd worry herself sick if I told her every health related concern.

 

[niks81]

It depends. I'm pretty young so I haven't been tested all that much, but there was one time where I didn't tell my mom when I was tested for having stomach problems. She is a big worrier and I wanted to see the results first. I didn't want her to worry if it was nothing!!

 

[Disney Doll]

missypie, your mother cannot possibly be the champion worrier, because mine is!!!!!!!

I don't tell them unless there is something definitive going on. Otherwise, I'd be taking care of mom after she had a heart attack because she thought something was wrong with me!

 

[Micca]

No. My mother will just worry, and then pester me about it

 

[honeywolf7]

I don't feel obligated but I do like having my mom's support. I've been to the ER several times by myself and I definitely like hearing her voice on the other end of the line.

 

[ZachnElli]

I don't always tell my mom as she worries too. I have an ongoing problem and I don't tell her unless it's over (for the time being), or I need her help (watching the kids while I go to the hopsital/doctor, etc.). I don't tell my dad anything as he tells the whole world, he just can't help himself. Everyone knows how much I paid for my house!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I don't feel "obligated" to tell them anything. But we talk often and share most things. She is not a worrier so I guess that makes a difference.

 

[sue1013]

My mother is also a champion worrier. I never tell her anything until I know what's going on and then she calls constantly checking up. Besides adding to her worry if I told her before I knew what was happening she would call every hour and start me getting as anxious as she is.