Nothing to talk about

[jazzielady]

I kind of have the opposite problem.

My husband is a verbose person. He constantly wants to talk, often about topics we've already beaten to death.

Me? I often want quiet time, to read, to write, or to just play on the computer without interruption.

 

[sunlver]

DH and I will be married 25 years in Nov. We talk every day about a variety of things. It could be something minor, like traffic (DH has an hr+ commute each day or what happened at work or something deeper like politics. While we know where each other stands on certain issues, new twists on issues comes up regularly.

When our dds were younger (teens now) we worked opposite shifts and it took a toll on our marriage. It was rough for a couple of years but we pulled through. One thing that was tough was not having enough time with just the two of us where we could talk and reconnect.

I am a talker and Dh is more reserved. But over our marriage we have learned to read each other so sometimes talk isn't necessary when you can read the look you are getting.

OP, to be blunt, when I read your post that you avoid going away with just DH when he suggests it, I thought you may have problems down the road. Since DH suggested it and you said no, it seems like he wants the situation to change.

To say you don't want to spend vacation time alone with your DH seems like a red flag to me.

Well yes...to some Im sure it is a red flag..I think though too u are confusing my posts and another posts about not wanting to go away alone. I had mentioned we have never done it, SIMPLY because we have no family here. We live in VA, my parents live in FLorida, and the rest of my family lives in the Chicago area, my husbands family all lives in Texas...My parents would never just fly up here to stay with the kids. They are now in their late 70's. If we lived closer, they are more the drop the kids off while u go to dinner..never would they watch all 3 for a weekend.
I said in the earlier yrs my husband would suggest going away, and I would say no. When we talked about the kids, and who would watch them, it kind of stopped the idea about going. That is just the facts of our life. Many of you are fortunate to have family near by to take the kids for the weekend..We have never lived in the same state as any family members
Now with all that being said, we do manage to go out alone from time to time, as I do have an almost 16 yr old son who is a great babysitter for his sisters. Sometimes we go to a movie by ourselves, or just run errands alone, depending on where the kids are. My son is doing boyscout camp almost all summer long(counselor in training program)so our "babysitter" is not available this summer
I know their are tons of stuff to do on the ship, so I know we will have lots of exploring to do together. It will all be OK..this post was more about me thinking out loud.