Not Urgent; Just Wondering...

[IWasBornToLoveDisney]

what are the "rules" for dating someone?

i was recently asked out by this guy that i like. and apparently before he asked he told some people that he was going to. and just like *snaps* that all my friends know and are on my case.
he asked saturday night and this morning my friend *Jane* was seriously upset with me. i asked her what's up and she demanded to know if i am dating *Jake*. i asked her why, what's wrong and she said you know that's *Susie's* ex boyfriend. i said yeah so? and she was just huffy puffy and never gave me a straight answer. then later today i had my a friend *Kari* say that she heard that *Jane* is mad at me. *Susie* is my friend on facebook at most. i've never really talked to her and actually don't like her much from what i've heard from my other friends. she is *Jane's* friend though. i am aware that *Susie* and *Jake* were dating at the beginning of the school year, but i don't know how long it's been since they broke up. now *Susie* and her friend *Ashley* give me the nastiest looks in the hall. idk what i did. am i in the wrong here at all? did i break some unwritten rule?

(*name changed)

 

[Tricycle]

All is fair in love and war. If you like the guy and want to keep going out with him, then who cares what anybody else thinks or who's ex-boyfriend he is?

 

[IWasBornToLoveDisney]

ok thanks....


now *Jane* is saying that i should have asked *Susie* and that i should talk to her about it. arg...............

 

[Sparx]

i've always thought that stuff was pretty silly. if you and susie were close friends, you would already know if this bothered her or not, and if youre not close friends, well then it really doesn't matter.

and its really just a middle school/high school (sorry don't know how old you are) relationship that likely won't matter in ten years anyway.

 

[Lissypiggy]

Why even date if your not ready to get married?

 

[MickeyisBeast]

If Susie was a close friend, it would be different. But, she's not, so I wouldn't care about what she thinks. They broke up, so it's over between Susie and Jake.
As for those girls giving you nasty looks, just ignore them and pretend you don't see them. It'll drive them crazy
I hope everything works out

 

[DramaQueen]

Why even date if your not ready to get married?

huh??



OP, you're not doing anything wrong, some girls just really like getting involved in drama and stuff. if there were silly rules like that i wouldn't be dating my bf of 4 yrs, but i'm still really close friends with his ex. sounds like susie is just looking for attention/drama. hope things are going well for you & jake

 

[Sparx]

Why even date if your not ready to get married?

oh dear.

 

[hkrox]

Do what your gut tells you to do. I'm a strong believer of listening to your gut instinct cuz it has always turned out pretty good for me. And when it comes to the other ones being rude to you or whatever, just ignore it. I've become very good at ignoring things. Don't let anyone else affect how you feel or what you want.

 

[K-Shong99]

Why even date if your not ready to get married?

pshhhhh.


i know where you're coming from. the guy i kinda like right now used to date one of my friends, but it's not like we're best friends, and it's not like the two of them were that serious. she still doesn't like the idea of us possibly getting together though. and she REALLY doesn't like the fact that he likes me. you gotta go with your gut and do what you want to do. people will never be happy, and you just gotta face that fact. if you like him, go for him. you'll regret it if you let that opportunity pass you by.

 

[Tricycle]

Why even date if your not ready to get married?

I'd say that the answer to that question is just that boys and girls enjoy each other's company... dating is a way to get to know somebody better. It's not about kissing or anything intimate; that comes naturally if you like the person. I do sort of understand your point, though; these middle school and high school relationships can seem a little bit silly, especially since after high school everybody goes somewhere different and you likely will never see your high school schoolmates ever again. I suppose the thing to do if you find it silly is just to abstain from it... personally, I don't find it silly per se but unfortunately I've never met a girl that I would much have liked to date so far in middle school or high school. Life is different for all of us and I think we all just move through it at different paces. Dating depends on what you perceive dating to be. Love is what you perceive love to be. Honestly, life is what you perceive life to be.

 

[IWasBornToLoveDisney]

ok thanks guys that's what i've been getting from my other friends that i told about Jane getting upset b/c she's friends with Susie... Jane seems to be the only one so far that's got a problem with it. thanks for good wishes too guys

oh btw in case anyone was wondering we're both sophomores, lol but he's not 16 yet that's fun to tease him about

 

[DISKATER69]

Why even date if your not ready to get married?

SERIOUSLY!!!????

 

[I Am What I Am]

Why even date if your not ready to get married?

Uh....WHAT? You're kidding, right?


Anyhow...since Susie isn't a close friend, I don't think it matters. If she was, then it'd be totally different. Just ignore the looks. They'll go away eventually.

 

[bananda]

Why even date if your not ready to get married?

its very unlikely that someone can be ready to be married when they start dating. that would mean that the relationship would start in a place that can really only be reached over time.
also, you can be ready to be married without being ready for a marriage.

 

[Savikins]

Haha, I wouldn't worry about it. Girls are just stupid.

 

[IWasBornToLoveDisney]

Why even date if your not ready to get married?

*sigh* i was just going to skip over this one... but since many have their own thoughts on it i'll throw mine back to you Lissypiggy;

for me personally i've thought of dating as a way to help you find what you are potentially looking for in a spouse. if i'm not sure what i'm looking for for when i'm serious about finding someone i'll be dating for the rest of my life. i think of dating as the transition into finging the one.
do i think i'll marry *Jake*? probably not. but i do like him and want to get to know him as more than friends. dating also builds your relationship skills and helps you learn about interacting with people.

wowsers; if i wasn't sure about dating him before i sure am now. i think by putting this out there and reading what you guys think and being able to respond to your thoughts i've in a way made my choice more concrete. thanks guys!

 

[Princess victoria]

why even date if your not ready to get married?

lmao