Not sure what to do.

[TriciaSDMom]

I have a moral dilemma. My husband just called me and told me he got some time off in two weeks and he wants to do a quick trip to the world for our 10th anniversary. My parents were already planning on taking the kids that weekend so we could celebrate. The problem is that I promised my mom that we wouldn't take any trips to Disney for a while. She doesn't understand why I love it and why I want to go over and over. Do I break my promise and go?

 

[stargazertechie]

GO GO GO GO GO!

Honestly, they really have no say in the matter. They lost the right to dictate your vacation choices 10 years ago.

Happy anniversary!

 

[JKMJ441724]

I wonder why you made the promise. If you owe some sort of financial obligation to her, then you should not go. Anything other than that, you're probably fine to go. My DH and I went for our 10th anniversary without the children. It was AWESOME.

 

[kparc]

She doesn't understand why I love it and why I want to go over and over. Do I break my promise and go?

Blame it ALL on your husband! That's what my DW would do!

And I gladly accept the blame.

 

[JKMJ441724]

Blame it ALL on your husband! That's what my DW would do!

And I gladly accept the blame.

Awww. I'm kinda crushing on you right now.

 

[puddleduck]

Is there a reason why your mother has a say in your vacation choices? My dad didn't understand why dh and I wanted to go to WDW for our anniversary 4 years ago, but it really wasn't any of his business so we went.

 

[t_catt11]

Agree with all of the above. Unless there is some financial reason you have omitted, it's not her concern.

 

[kshattuck]

I wonder why you made the promise. If you owe some sort of financial obligation to her, then you should not go. Anything other than that, you're probably fine to go. My DH and I went for our 10th anniversary without the children. It was AWESOME.

I was thinking the same thing. Unless you owe your mom money or have some kind of financial issue that you've been confiding in her, I don't understand this kind of "promise" from a grown child to her parent.

Go and have a blast!

 

[DisneyNic]

Nothing really new to add, just wanted to say that I agree with everything that has been said. Unless there is some financial reason you shouldn't go, I see no other reason NOT to go. Go, Go, Go

 

[lacy1101]

Oh, I agree with everyone else - GO! Disney sans kids can be a lot of fun - and romantic.

 

[DisneyNic]

Sorry just a little hijacking-side note: Does anyone else ever feel like a drug dealer on threads like this? (You know you want it, man, just do it, man, it will all be good, man.) Or is it just me??

 

[JKMJ441724]

Does anyone else ever feel like a drug dealer on threads like this? (You know you want it, man, just do it, man, it will all be good, man.) Or is it just me??

 

[hereyago]

I have a moral dilemma. My husband just called me and told me he got some time off in two weeks and he wants to do a quick trip to the world for our 10th anniversary. My parents were already planning on taking the kids that weekend so we could celebrate. The problem is that I promised my mom that we wouldn't take any trips to Disney for a while. She doesn't understand why I love it and why I want to go over and over. Do I break my promise and go?

I also agree barring you have no financial ties-owing her money, go and learn to set up some boundaries. You are an adult, no explaining to anyone or promising anyone things like that.

 

[TriciaSDMom]

I don't owe her any money. We did buy a house a few months ago and they helped with the downpayment, but it was a gift and not a loan. When she gave me that money, is when she asked me to promise. Basically she didn't want me using that money to go on vacation. We would be using our own money to go.

 

[chinchiller]

Don't let your mom make you feel guilty for doing something for yourselves, especially when you'd be using your own money.

 

[Baloo]

I don't understand why Mom would say that if she KNOWS it's a place y'all LOVE!! That's just sorta ....well...mean! She obviously doesn't "get" Disney like we do!



If you don't owe her money it's not her business or say WHERE you go!!!

 

[ToddyLu]

yeah, man....Disney is my crack, and the DIS is my pipe. ( I know this from watching TV)

I would tell her I was going to a hotel for the weekend and to call me on my cell. Why would she make you promise that when it makes you happy? Sorry but I do not have enough details of this situation to tell you not to go--so go.

 

[ancestry]

I don't owe her any money. We did buy a house a few months ago and they helped with the downpayment, but it was a gift and not a loan. When she gave me that money, is when she asked me to promise. Basically she didn't want me using that money to go on vacation. We would be using our own money to go.

See this makes it touchy in my opinion. She probably feels that if you have money to go on vacation then you didn't need her help with the down payment. Once someone gives you money-- gift, loan, asked for, or not, they feel they can have a say in the way you spend your money. If you go after taking her money for the down payment and promising her that you wouldn't go you are probably going to get into hot water with her. Any way you can go and not tell her about it?

 

[ToddyLu]

Of course you could just be honest about the whole thing, and still go.

 

[Nissi]

Why don't you just ask her?

"Mom, (insert husband's name here) wants to go to WDW for our 10th anniversary and I reallllllly want to say yes. I know I promised that we wouldn't go, but............"