Not looking forward to mothers day

[julm26]

I'm dreading mothers day, it will be the first one since my mom died in February. I just cannot bear to celebrate the day. Everyone says I should since I am a mother also to a 3yr old daughter. But no one understands how every time I see a mothers day ad or commericail its like a slap in the face reminding me that I no longer have a mother. Pretty much alone in the world since I am an only child and raised by a single mom.

I love my DH and DD but its just not the same, i'll be putting flowers on my moms grave on sunday instead of giving her them.

So please all of you out there, hug your mothers and tell them you love them while you still can...

 

[Mackey Mouse]

HUgs, Hugs, Hugs.. you know we are here for you. I know this will be a very hard Mother's day for you... I wish I could make it better. I do not like Mother's day either, I miss my Mom and it is not as new as your Mom's passing. I will be visiting two cemetaries, for my Mom and my MIL....so know you are not alone..

I will then spend time with my grandson who is the light of my life and my husbands.. we adore him, and my daughters too, but it is all about the grandson.. Try to be good to yourself.....spend some time with the baby and your husband...it will be a tough day for sure. Hugs again.

 

[Rustysmom]

Mother's Day is going to be hard for me too, since Mom died about 6 weeks ago. Sheesh, is it 6 weeks already? It seems like it just happened and I still can't believe it.

We're going to visit the cemetary and then spend the day cleaning out her house, which we've been doing every weekend. It's very depressing and this time it'll be even worse.

DH asks me what I want to for Mother's Day and I tell him nothing, because there really is nothing I want except Mom back, and it's not going to happen. If they order in Chinese to eat while we clean, I'll be happy that I didn't have to cook at least.

(((HUGS))) to Julie, Marsha, and everyone else who has lost a Mom.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

Mary.. hugs and I will be thinking of you too.... I know it has not been long for you and I have to say the cleaning out of the house was one of the hardest things I did.. each thing I touched, each picture of my children, her clothes, made me cry. It was not easy, but I did it, I remember my Aunt came and helped me, I do not know how I would have gotten through it without the help of my family.

Have your Chinese, be good to yourself, love your babies....and the day will be gone before you know it.. It is just a day when you think about it, grieving goes on even on the plain days with no special holiday.. Hang in there..

 

[LeahA]

I wish I had a grave to visit. My mom was cremated and we were all given some of her ashes. I still have them sitting in the bag on top of my fridge. I can't bare to take them down and look at the containers. I am going to plant a tree in my backyard in memory of my mom.

My dh is trying to make me feel better, but, we all know nothing they could do or buy us will replace the loss we feel in our hearts. But, Mother's Day is a day for us to remember the beauty of our Mother's.

Hugs to all!

 

[robind]

I don't usually go into the Just for Fun section, but I happened to see your listing at the top section. I feel the exact same way. This is also my first Mother's day without my mom. She passed away last June, I can hardly believe it's been almost a year. It feels like yesterday.

I won't be able to go to the cemetery, because I am working out of the country. I was home last week and the mother's day commercials almost did me in. Luckily, I don't have to put up with them here. Just the constant emails about it.

I plan on going out for the day with a co-worker and hopefully forget about it.

 

[Juliegirl1]

Hugs to all of you who have lost your moms.

It will not only be my first Mother's Day without my mom who also passed away last June but I won't have my son either as he is scheduled to be with his father this weekend.

I understand how difficult it is - my mom was my best friend and we talked two to three times a day. I used to call her my "go to girl" because she had an answer for any question I could come up with. She had a very sudden heart attack and we had no warnings whatsoever - she was a very young 61. I now take care of my very difficult father who has Parkinson's and I miss my mom so much.

Just remember they are looking down from heaven on us and want us to be happy, not sad for them because they are in a better place now.

 

[MMcCarthy]

Hugs to all of you. My DM died last July. I really am dreading this mothers day. My DF invited us out for a cook out. I used to complain to my DH about having to run to his parents' house and parents' house of mothers day. I really wish we still needed to run out and see her. My DH keeps asking me what I want for mother's day and I keep telling him he can't give me what I want--my mom. This year has been full of firsts. Everyone keeps telling me it doesn't get easier--you just change as time goes by. I hope everyone has a wonderful mother's day. My family will help make mine as enjoyable as possible. As posters said before, hug your mom and enjoy the day.

 

[Dianewes]

I know the pain of this day as well ..... lost my Mom 2 years ago and it is still very shocking and painful...I really feel so alone without her. I can't stand the commercials and the ads for Mother's Day becuase it just seems like a reminder everyday. I am looking forward to Monday ! (Now that is a first)

 

[Jcricket Fan]

I can just feel all the heartbreak you carry, as those of you who have lost your moms face mothers day.

Please know I will be offering special prayers for you at this time that you will find some measure of peace right where you are in this journey.

Colleen

 

[brermickey66]

I too can feel the heartache of this group. My mom is here but her mind is locked away in a place I cannot reach her. I use prayer and faith. My first prayer tomorrow morning will include all of you.

Nancy

 

[kimis]

I just passed my second mothers day without my mom. It is hard. I wish Mothers day would be the same but it isn't. It gets easier but it is never the same. On the first mothers day I couldn't go visit her grave because it is in another state so I sent flowers instead. Then this last mothers day I sent a bunch of balloons up toward heavon. I know it sounds strange but it helps. She is always with me in my heart and so is your mom. There are days that is hard to remember but she is there. My prayers are with you,

 

[DonnettaR]

Just wanted to add that there is another group of people who dread Mother's Day as well. I have the unfortunate honor to be in a group of Mother's that have lost a child. As painful it is to not have your mother around on Mother's day, it is just as hard, not to have your child with you. I am not trying to compare losses, because there is no comparisons. We all hurt.

 

[King Triton]

I lost my mom too a few years ago. Mother's day is hard. Just know she is with you in spirit. Hang in there.

Sending you some Pixie Dust your way.